ok, seriously though, i have been with this girl for 10 months so far, we are both 20 years old and in college together, but it is time for us to break up--and she doesn't know it. what i ask of you is what are good ways to break up maturely? i have never broken up with a girl from a serious relationship before, they always rip it to me. I would actually like to still be friends with this girl after the deed, so that is also a problem. i know it is easy to break up when you get in a huge fight over nothing, but i want this to be as mature as possible, so our friendship is still intact. last night she dropped the "m-bomb" on me (marriage) saying that i was the only person that she could see herself spending the rest of her life with and how she's scared to tell me how much she actually loves me... this is another problem. i know if i let her know i'm not quite that into her... she's gonna cry and shit and i'll feel horrible. any advice helps a fellow out
i dont think ur looking for any advice from "pimps" if anyhting u should just ask nice guys... Anyway if i was in ur situation i would just tell her straight up. just be honest with her. it would be so much worse if u dragged the relationship on when u want nothing more then wat u have now from her. but also u got the holidays coming up... so idk if rightn ow will be the best time. Also dont use the stereotypical lines and excuses, if u stay true,polite, and honest with her there should be no problems with being friends. just dont be hooking up with other girls infront of her (i did that to an ex when we were friends and she got upset, but we were broken up for 3 months) if u need anything just p.m. me or something.
yea i just thought that "need help from all the pimps" would get more views because it's less depressing than i need help breaking up with a girl. but yea, thanks for the help, it is tough because we just left for holliday so i won't see her for another month and i don't like phone break ups. maybe i should get aim so i can break up with her on instant messanger or maybe even on myspace!!! sike... any more advice?
Why do you feel you must break up, if youve been with her 10 months seems to me like your good together?? If your just not getting along or like different things or did something happen? It just seems weird that youve been with her 10 months and she wants to marry you but you want to break up. If she really wants to marry you and you want to break up with her, anyway you tell her its going to suck for her. I would definetly do it in person though and not forget to mention how you still would like to be friends (but depending on the person this will or wont work).
not a chance man, not a chance. i just want to let her down as easy as possible. getting her drunk and doing it doesn't resolve anything really, just ends it with no resolve. kinda like how we will have to leave the middle east next election. man this sucks, i know inside that i have to do it, i've known it for over a month, i just can't bring myself to do it i don't want to hurt her. damnit
Do it up front man, specially if you want to be friends afterwards. This is going to be most painless and effective way, and plus, it's going to keep your reputation intact. Don't be a pussy and Just Do It (R)Nike
I don't get why you are breaking up with her in the first place. You clearly care about her alot if you dont want to hurt her feelings. Do you have cold feet because she dropped the M-bomb? If so wouldnt it be little more rational to tell her that you are no where near ready to think about that kind of thing, rather than dump her altogether?
my friends in the same situation, only its been liek 3 years. Unfortunately he ended up kind of forming a second life and cheating on her several times. When people ask him why he doesnt break up iwth her he explains that he feels trapped in a way because he doesnt wanna hurt her feelings knowing that he is all she has. what i would do is just tell her straight up. no lies, exactly why you are doing it. She will be extremly upset but has to get over it sometime. mabye get a friend to try and comfort her if you know what i mean .
i have my reasons, believe me. i am just involved with something i don't want to be involved in. thanks for the advice, i guess i'll do what i've known i had to... sack up and do the deed
Did it ever occur to you to tell her how you feel? I dont get why people always gotta play stupid fucking games with people.
Like so many have already said... Just man up and do it. Be honest, but not a dick. Tell her that her friendship means a lot to you and you'd like to remain friends... Now, if she's for that, it's probably gonna be real awkward at first (I know this from experience)... Just stick it out. Don't get all weird and avoid her and shit... She might not wanna be friends, though, seeing as how she's thinkin Mariage, and you're thinking NO WAY... Either way I wsh you good luck...
go out in a blaze if you dont plan on being friends wit her, if you care bout her then it shouldnt be a problem tellin her str8 up how you feel