My mom's marrying a 23-year-old

on Wednesday. I'll be 20 in less than 3 months.

I'm really upset and don't have anyone to talk to about this. Most of my friends are just users, and I can't talk to my mom about it because it will turn into a big argument. So I'm making a thread about it.

Here's a little background info:

My mom went to prison a year ago and transferred to a work-release facility in May. She met this dude there (who was locked up for extortion; he was a drug dealer and was calling and threatening one of his customers over some money). That's fine. Yeah, it's weird, but I'm used to my mom dating younger guys, even though this is the youngest one yet. Well he went to prison for 3 months because he decided to get drunk and do a bunch of meth. Then I figure out that they're engaged. I was pissed, but the wedding wasn't supposed to be until August. I was hopeful that she would see the light and realize this is a really bad idea before then. Now they're getting married in 3 days. Why? "Because they can." This isn't the first time she has pulled some shit like this. She once "dated" a guy for over a year who would call and say he was coming over almost EVERY FUCKING DAY and guess how many times he showed up total? Maybe 3 or 4 times. And my mom wanted to fly to fucking Vegas and marry the douche bag.

I just wanna grab my mom and shake her and scream "WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU THINKING?!"

But I can't.

I'm even thinking about not going to the wedding at all. Sure I want my mom to be happy, but I don't want her to make yet another hastey decision that's going to end up being a huge mistake. This whole situation is embarrassing.

On top of that, my mom basically gave my car away to this guy's (her boyfriend) mom. And just recently paid off all her (his mom's) payday loans. The reason I can't do anything about it is the car's not in my name, nor is it in hers. I just think it's fucked that I finally start being responsible (I work a 9-5 job) and I get rewarded by having my car given away to someone just cause theirs broke.

Discuss.

 

She has one boyfriend.

I forgot to add, I'd solve this problem by just moving out but I've been in debt since I turned 18. Long story.

 

I have nothing against this guy. Actually me and him have a LOT in common. And he smokes weed. But what matters in this situation is that my mom's not fucking her life up even more than it already is.

I decided to text my mom and tell her not to waste money on a tux cause I'm not going. She's pissed off, but I'd rather have that than keep pretending to approve of something I clearly don't.

 

Very true. I don't think I would do anything about it if I could. It's her life, not mine. If, as expected, this isn't "happily ever after", she'll have herself to blame and she'll learn something, maybe. I am allowed to be upset about it. As much as I wish it didn't, it affects me a lot. This is my only parent and I've seen her make bad decisions like this time and time again.

 

I plan on moving out after my first semester of college, since I have to move to Des Moines for school anyway. But at the moment I have $3,500+ in fines to pay and I make minimum wage at a part-time job.

And yeah she knows that, she has been divorced twice already.