My life is ruined

EVERYBODY feels anxiety, it is just part of being human. You are lucky to have a job. You are lucky to be young and have your whole life ahead of you. You are lucky to have a family that cares about you. You are an adult now, and your mom has no obligation to provide you with free transportation. Millions of people walk, bike, or ride the bus to work every day. Hang in there, work hard, mend relationships, treat people with love & respect, and you will be okay, I promise! YOUR LIFE IS NOT RUINED!!!

 

just go out there and make your life man. you got 300 bucks, thats enough to get u to your job if you catch the bus until you can afford insurance.

your mom is obviously not there for you, so ignore her ignorant attitude and use that as motivation to take yourself to new heights and prove her stupid ass wrong about weed!

 

I agree with puddleglum. Get a bike or ride the bus. This experience will make you stronger as long as you take responsibility/accountability for where you are and remain positive. You got to do what you got to do to make this job work!


Regarding your mum, that's deep! What my advice would be would be to not speak to her for a little while, a few weeks maybe a month or so. Then make contact again and say you are sorry. Forget trying to to convince her to support your habit, it's not gonna happen. Things must have already been pretty fragile between the two of you? What happened in between getting taken off the insurance and getting kicked out of the house?



Weed might be physically safer than cigarettes and alcohol but it seems have to caused a lot more damage to your relationships and your life than either one of those could have in this time. You gotta look at the bigger picture. Stop trying to convince your mum that it's OK, like I said. She has obviously made up her mind.



Where are you sleeping? Accessing the internet?

 

Do you have your own vehicle or are you sharing a vehicle with your mom?

 

Then you'll have to start biking, maybe get a cheap 20 dollar motel close to were you work, if you can get back in your house grab what you can use and a backpack. Stay fed and hydrated, cheep food will be best you'll need all the money you have

 

Ok, well keep sleeping in your backyard if it's safe. Don't be trying to beg your mum though, just get on with life. She'll miss you if you make some space, which will give you an opportunity to say sorry and get back inside the house further down the line.


It goes without saying that you can't be spending that last $300 you have on weed.


You seem a decent kid and I do sympathise with your situation a lot. But no one here would be doing you any favours if we were to sugar coat it. It's a tough spot but you gotta be a man about it.


Is there no public transport? I used to cycle 10 miles to work and 10 miles back, up and down some pretty nasty hills too. It was tough and I wouldn't have been able to keep doing it forever in terms of my lifestyle but it was doable for a short period of time. I did it for about 4 months.


Sometimes it's only when you aren't left with any other options that you realise how strong you are and what you're capable of. And once you do, you will never forget it. If you stay positive this could be a really good experience for you. You ready to become a man?

 

Stay positive man. Your mom sounds like she sucks. Make her regret it, success is the best revenge.

 

So what's the law? Can she legally deny you the housing? I take it you're from US there must be some social security for your type of situation.

 

Parents' house, parents' rules. They could get in trouble or even lose the house if they let you do illegal things. Don't like it? Move out. Life isn't fair. If you think other parents letting their kids "get drunk as fuck" is a good thing, then you've got a little more growing up to do. You are lucky your mom cares about you more than that!

 

Lol This is the best advice i've heard on anything ever.
Seriously though, there are good people out there who are totally willing to help a hard worker. Reach out to your friends and maybe even to your job (just don't sound too scarily desperate). You're going to find out which of your friends are really your friends. And you'll probably make some genuine ones too. People want to help. Especially if it's helping someone who has something to offer like hard work and/or general positivity.
Most important thing though is to keep your head up! This is going to make a great story when youre older and successful and smoking whenever you want in your own house.

 

That's fucked up man. In all seriousness, try crashing with a friend for a while or getting a cheap motel room until you figure something out. You may have to invest in using the bus too. Is she really going to make you homeless over weed?

 

Just checking in to see if there are any updates to your situation since you last posted?