What a load of shit. My girlfriend totally bitched me out and said that she's going to leave me if I don't stop smoking weed. We've been together for over a year, and now she finally tells me this. She's totally straight-edge and has never smoked weed, or done any other drug. She's drank a little alcohol but that's it. I've tryed explaining to her that herb is the only way to live, but she's totally convinced that it's bad and says she doesn't want to be around someone who is constantly stoned. I'm on my 3rd day without smoking any weed and I'm quite depressed. What to do?!!?
Word of advice I've learned over my almost 27 years.... Don't change who you are or what you represent for anyone. It starts with something like this, and before you know it you've lost site of who were were because of the "need" to make the other partner happy. If she can't accept that's part of your life, ask yourself if you really want to be with a person that won't accept something about you, and insists you change it.
well put... i agree completely. if she can't accept you for the person you are, then find some girl who does. hot, pot smoking girls are all over the place, really, you just gotta find them, or just find someone who won't question your habits. ask her if something as little as pot smoking is worth a break up. bumtildeath had the same problem, i forget how his ended up though... n e wayz... you don't have to stop if you don't want to
been there man, done that... Everyone says dont change for someone else, dont change for someone else!! But I think it's something u are gonna have to learn on ur own.. I even say it now, but I once change for a girl (same exact thing, fucking no pot smoking!) Now ask urself this.. Is this piece of ass worth no pot?? Sure u may think u love her and cant live w/o her. I've come to the conclusion, that u will always get used to someone being there and/or not being there... it's jsut a matter of time.. She could tell u to stop smoking pot, u listen, and then she could just go and bang ur best friend tomorrow.. U never know, so just dont change man.. (I seriously think u will though, and learn from it.. I just think it's one of those things that u have to find out for urself.. Like how when u were on highschool.. n everyone told u u would miss it.. u never thought they were right, and never took full appreciation to it, but now that it's gone, ur like, holy shit, they were right!!! Work life sucks a dick!)
hmmm... there are people in this world that i would stop smoking weed for, because they mean that much to me. If my fiance asked me to stop, i would. the thing is, the people who are good enough and understand me well enough to mean that much to me, would never even consider asking me to stop. try asking her if it would be ok for you to smoke when she's not around - she might just mean she doesnt like hanging out with you when you are high. whatever you do, don't try to convince her to do it (not too hard, anyways) because you would be trying to change her just as much as she wants to change you. if she's worth it, see if you can come up with a compromise. I've got to say, though, an ultimatum like that doesnt sound like she'd be willing, and the type of person who sets ultimatums like that usually ARENT worth it. Good luck!
The thing is, I wasn't into any kind of drugs when I met her but I guess you could say we've been through alot (her family hates me), which has made my depression much worse and I need a daily dose of THC or any other drug just to make it through my days. It's not so much who I am, but who I've become. I don't really care about finding a "hot pot smoking girl", my current girlfriend is really the only person I've ever given a damn about, outside of my family, and I really don't think finding another girlfriend is something I would even care about. I'm not a homo (the thought sickens me) but I really can't stand most girls. They're about the coldest people on this earth and are stubborn as constipation! I've asked her that and she just says no-no-no. So far, she's said "once in awhile is ok", but she's all caught up in the stoners are fucked up in the head theory, become lazy, and ruin their lungs. So, according to her she wants me to stop because "cares about me" .. If she cares about me so much then she should be able to look past something like that. It's clearly just a girl-thing. They always want their way, and they'll do whatever it takes.
UM???? Why would you even date someone who is against weed? I find whenever I'm around people that are against it, I find confrontation.
Hmm, actually, ignore my first comment. If you find someone who truely cares about you, you should't end that relationship over something as small as weed. Just do it behind her back. Do you guys live together? If so, just pretend to go for your "daily walk" or out to get some milk. You know.
everone else's pretty much sums it up you u dont wanna give up weed something u love, is the relationship really worth it?
geology, you have the same user name as one of my biology teachers email that i had a real long time ago
I had a friend with the exact same problem. I wouldn't suggest smoking behind her back. Because when she finds out...there will be hell to pay. Basically, what everyone else said...I know I wouldn't let a girl come between me and Mary Jane. Your girl should like you for you...positive and negative.
say you stopped smoking... and start acting like an ass to her till you hear the comment "i can't belive how ure acting, you've changed" and then reply "You told me to stop smoking...i think you loved the old me" ..hehe (o yea, plus, find some way to get her high...once she's high whe'll see what she's missing) =]
that really sucks dude, my girlfriend doesn't like that i smoke, but she realizes that she likes me for who i am, and i shouldn't have to change who i am just for her, man am i grateful, love you avery. anyway, that's quite a predicament, maybe show her some of your stoner friends or show her some of the people on the city, show her that just cause you're a stoner doesn't mean you're a burnout. if that doesn't work, and if she really is the one, then i guess you gotta do what you gotta do, quit for a while, and if you guys break up then you can just pick it right back up
You're still in your teens I take it? (18-19) Ok let me break it down for you? You're still young so you have ALOT more relationships and chicks and people to meet. You're A:To young to be in a relationship cause you obviously dont know yourself, or what you want. You may think you want her but all you really want is the attention and affection that she gives you. Any woman you meet, and clicks with you can give you that, she's not the dimond in the rough. If you enjoy toking up, then thats YOUR thing if she cant except you for who you are then end it. Women always and I mean ALWAYS try to change men. You're not gonna find a bitch who wont. They also crush our spirits, now a relationship is always the best it's going to be the 1st 4 months, which is prolly when she started bitching about your weed smoking. Look this is my advice to you, sit her down and talk to her, if she doesn't want to compremise, and she has this narrowminded view on pot smokers then she's a very judgemental and ignorant person and obviously doesn't love you for the person you are with or without pot. She's spoiled and only falls in line with everyone else's social value's which aren't her own. You're at the age where you're finding out where your social value's lay, as well as finding your place in life, and in order to do that in life you need to EXPERIANCE life and that means anything and everything that you feel you want to experiance. If she doesn't want to be apart of that with you, then you need to be single, get a job and just live your life untill you find someone you can click with, just because she's the only one outside of your family that you trully care about should show you that you CAN at least care about someone outside your family, and the fact that she cares about you should show you that you can touch someone outside your family enough to care about you. Women will come and go just like sacks of weed, and you gotta burn through enough untill you find your choice sticky icky, ya dig? I KNOW because you're young and you fear being alone forever that you wont have the balls to end it with her, but you have to understand, there is a life that you cant forsee and if you're afraid to keep going to see what else is out there then you might as well be dead cause life is for the living. Think about it this way, when were you the happiest? When you had your herb and she loved you, or when she's bitching you out for trying to haveing things in YOUR life the way YOU want it. If you wanna waste her time as well as yours then stay with her, I assure you that you'll fuck up and she'll break up with you and break your heart. You might as well be the man about the realationship, grab your balls and end it with her, that way you wont be the one who's hurting from being dumped. A girlfriend should never and I mean NEVER throw out an ultimatum about something as little as a smoking hobbie, and the fact that she's a girlfriend and not a WIFE should bring this picture into even more clarity. Love come's and go's. But who you are is who you're going to be for the rest of your life. You choose who you are, she doesn't make the choice's for you.
the answer is simple son! u jus keep smokin n dont let her ass find out, i pulled all kinda drug shit and hospitalizations n still kept the same bitch by sayin i wouldnt do it again n shit, works dude, although that'd be a very untrue relationship