I'm in a really stupid situation. Me and my ex of two years broke up a month ago because he was super uninvolved and we were really burnt out. Well, he's asking me to get back together now. He's trying to do all the things now that he never did when we were together and win me back or whatever. I'm willing to try it again but there's a couple things I can't stand. He wants to work on the swat team, and he's a freemason which I'm still side eyeing pretty hard. it gets worse though. I can't smoke weed if i'm going to be with him. he hates it and won't date someone who smokes. so.. I'm really conflicted. I don't know what to do. input?
Then don't get back together with him... What part of that choice is hard? He was clearly a shitty boyfriend before, and now he wants to get back together, but only if you change for him? Fuck that.
tell him to get bent and find yourself a man who likes you for you, and that includes your habits whether they be illegal or not.
I think it's fine to date someone who doesn't smoke, as long as they're totally cool with you smoking. I have some friends who are a couple, the dude smokes, the lady doesn't, but she doesn't give a damn that he does. She's tried it before and doesn't like it because it just makes her instantly fall asleep, but she has no issues with people that enjoy it. Don't necessarily limit yourself to only people that smoke, but also don't let someone tell you how to live your life.