My advice

I think that he is a mommas boy and does not want to be around her kids.
Not that he doesnt like them but they are not his which leaves ties with the ex no matter what.
I feel he is playing her for da booty.
Just my opinion.

 

Think you hit the nail on da head BPP! I think she SHOULD call his bluff, but PLAY HIM HARD while doin' it! got no patience for guys like that!!

 

How does she not realize he's spewing bullshit? Not to mention, if he cheats on his girlfriend w/ her why wouldn't he cheat on her? I think your wife should tell her to pull her head out of her ass and realize it's booty call. If she's fine w/ that than they should keep on fuckin' but if not it's time to leave.

 

i can't possibly be NICE about men dicking women over, can I??? We'll see...

ah 420girlie you say she ain't bright, but you don't have to be smart to fall blindly in love my dear I can count a handful of times when I look back at past relationships and say "STUPID me! How could I not see this coming? Why did I even waste the time?!"

bluntly put, BPP, IMHO, he's giving her empty promises, & excuses and not following through.

First warning signal was that he hasn't met her kids:
he absolutely should meet her kids! if he doesn't meet them, then he's not interested in being a future part of this girl's life, or doesn't realize/care that they're a big part of her life.
be forewarned: he may use "i'm nervous" as an excuse, either that or "I don't want to confuse the kids." Here's a test: she doesn't necessarily need to present him as their future daddy when she introduces them, but perhaps a "special friend," or even just a FRIEND. There - pressure's OFF< what's his excuse now?

Second warning signal: WTF? ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND? Not going to dump her until the divorce is final. My answer, being an experienced female who has been burned many a time?
NOTHING BUT A FAT EXCUSE. He's trying to buy her off with a trailer to live in & loading her fridge, giving false pretenses that they'll be together for a long time. He is even willing to get along with her friends/coworkers, and ask if she can have more kids.However, he is not willing to dump another gf? If he is truly interested in your secretary, BPP, he would have been fair and honest to his other girlfriend and told her about her, and either she would have dumped his ass, or he should be the man and break up w/ her.

The fact that he has to change the sheets because "her hair is everywhere" too is kind of odd - what are they doing both lying on the bed together if they're not sleeping together? hmm. I smell nookie all over that one!

ONE more thing. The past relationship issue ~ way too suspicious with all other factors than to let slide.

This guy sounds like he slides from relationship to relationship, breaking hearts wherever he goes no matter the price, and as smooth as he seems it makes it even more believable. Men like these are nasty nasty nasty and give me a bad taste for all men. Ask Phishhead I get suspicious about the lamest shit, not jealous, not insecure, just SMART about what goes on. Perceptive.

I read the positives, and I truly hope I am 100% wrong, but you asked our advice and there's mine. I say to her:
GO ahead and still date him if you want, (hey you need the practice since you've been married!) But don't get your heart broken, don't fall in love, and keep your options open until he commits and follows through with breaking up with this other girl. 2 girlfriends @ once? Just because one knows about the other, it's OK? I don't think so!!
ALSO just because his mom is nice or says nice things about her boy doesn't mean the man himself is. This guy has MOMMA'S BOY written all over him, and I'd stay the hell away from him!!

Good luck BPP and hopefully like I said I am wrong I hate the men who give guys like you & cowboysaxman & others in this world a bad name!!!

xo

 

and she needs to call him on it. Definitely lots of warning signs there that she needs to address before giving her heart to him.and there's the kids to consider. Any guy who wouldn't want to meet my kid would be out of the picture if I was interested in a serious relationship. just my 2 cents.

 

She..as a mother.. is a package deal...if the kids are not part of the interest he has with her,, then he may be the booty bandit who preys on her emotional weaknesses till the desire to feed on another arises,,,then she is tossed aside..

I personally can't stand this type of parasite..IMO...the greatest gift a man can give himself is honor...the greatest gift that he can receive from a woman... is is the giving of herself..

Sticky situation probably,,,,you getting involved.....I hope it works out for her....

 

Watch that snake close BPP, keep your shovel handy!! Dude smells real bad to me too!

 

LOL......good analogy.......guy's a little to eager huh....

 

ugh i worked with a guy like this, he actually had a baby with a girl he only had sex with ONCE in the back seat of a car. he would woo her over the phone, go visit the baby all the time, kiss her parents' and friends' asses and act like everything was ok and he was a committed father...

meanwhile his rich parents are offering him a 1-way ticket to scotland to free himself of the responsibility (forever)! and at the same time he talked to all of us in the office about what a slut she was and how unintelligent she was, and how he hated having to be nice to her and her family, but was afraid her brothers would kick his ass.

he would even buy her flowers, and helped her with car payments, even faked a romance with her for quite some time.

he was such an ass and i'm glad he quit, but this story reminds me strongly of your issue BPP, especially when cowboysaxman talked about him trying to "buy" approval.

the guy i worked with did the same type of thing to this girl and her family!

good luck i'm so sorry for this girl

 

ganjaphish it was BPP that originally stated the jerk was tryin' to buy approval, although we all believe that's what's goin' on. BPP, I sure never meant to imply that your wife would take an interest in this LOSER! If the Package is half as good as the Press, I'm sure she's smart enough to realize what a good man she already has!!

 

Ooops sorry bout that was a little too stoned the other nite! heehee
BPP I agree, your wife would never go for it especially with such a super guy like you

xo

 

Well momma didn't raise no dummy's cause BPP has got this jerks number!

It sounds like he is just trying to string her along. If you accept the invite out, then the girl may see this as a sign of acceptance from you and your wife that what he is doing to her is okay.

IT IS NOT OKAY TO USE PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!

In situtations like this it is HARD to butt out. Especially with the wife and her being workmates. In the long run....I see not so good things being likely to happen also. The best thing you can do is make sure when the time comes you can be their for your wife's friend.

My only other suggestion or idea is the ex-husband? Is this guy legit or a jerk? Is he the father of the kids? I would think a reunion between them would be the best bet for everybody. It might take time and trust, BUT real love is unconditional. The ex may still have feelings for the girl if wonderboy boyfriend is afraid of getting his ass kicked at her house.....which if I remember right...he owns.

I bet your stomach crawled and your fists itched when he offered the personal favors to you. Next time that creepy asshole calls, tell him you realize why he is calling, but it just doesn't concern either you or your wife. Tell him adults in a real relationship work out their problems together. Then you could close with a kindly "fuck off" and hang up.

I mean I'm not a freak or anything...but the idea of some other guy calling Mrs Puff pisses me off too!!!!!!!!!!! She shouldn't have to listen to that shit!

 

Sounds like someone I know.
Havin' his cake and eatin it, too.
If the girlfriend is concerned over this, the only thing that can be done is for her to somehow talk to the other girlfriend (the one he's supposedly NOT sleepin with). This will bring on the answers to ALL of it. Gettin the two girlfriends together will make it or break it!!! Just my 2 cents worth..........

 

she's so lucky ! he may be from up town but realy stupid! she dont take the pill! she has his kid !fucks him a lot more than he ever fucked her and a lot longer!!lol this is the secound sucker she's found! and she lives in the big three story home next to his and uses him like a cheap pear of shoes ! remember fucking is a two way street ,its who smiles and why! lol ! good luck tazz11

 

i still think this dude is drifting around way too much. i'd keep my eyes peeled, if i were carol!!
personally, if it were me, i'd want a few weeks/months even to clear my head after the divorce, just to make sure i'm thinking straight.

but then again, i'm really REALLY fuckin weird and paranoid about men
xoxoxo