My 6 Year Relationship That's Ending

Discussion in 'Sex, Love & Relationships' started by NugOnTheRug, Mar 19, 2016.

  1. We met in highschool I was a sophomore she was a junior. In the beginning everything was great, lots of sex, laughs and good times. But somethings happened this last year, You would think after 5 years of a pretty healthy relationship it would stay that way right? Wrong. This girl has been losing her mind lately. Constantly picking fights, never wants me to hang out with any of the few friends I still have left yet she hangs and does what she pleases because I have never cared I just want her to be happy. We've also talked about her crazy bitchy attitude multiple times but nothing changes she just apologizes and the next day it's the same old thing. I know she will be crushed when I tell her I'm done but each day is a struggle with this girl anymore. What do you think her deal is? The only conclusion I've came too is that maybe she is tired of me as well but yet I've treated this girl like gold for the past 6 years so I don't know. Not to mention her parents are crazy controlling bible thumpers that are always trying to play a part in our relationship.

    Ps. I don't even have a place to live when I leave this girl but I'm willing to camp in the woods until I get a place if that gives you an idea of how much bitchyness this girl possesses.
     
  2. Break it; it'll help the both of you grow.
     
  3. Thanks for the reply, and yeah I think so too. It's kind of an exciting thought that's a good indicator to me that it's time.

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  4. #4 Batik, Mar 19, 2016
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  5. Op Do what you need to do to free yourself .. However i'd suggest you do it gradually such as save up sum money enough to get established at another place .. im not talkin roommate money im talkin
    another place to live money, start gettin social again meet new people if you get lucky you just may meet a new babe to enjoy, who knows? .. that way you'll have a new place lined up & a new somebody to enjoy .. you should even save for a car .. that way in the end when she wants to talk that shit you can excuse yourself gracefully bcuz its better to bust your ass for change then to rush into it & going out on a whim .. rushin into it and just leavin will have you livin under a bridge or bummin it at some friends house to a point where you'll be ten times as miserable then you'll be constantly fighting with yourself wondering if you did the right thing or not ... fuck that Op you should understand that if you tolerated her shit for a long ass time then go out & do better bcuz you deserve better .. why should she be left with luxuries while your out starvin in the wilderness? Fuck that .. again Op i say do what you gotta to free yourself but if you do go out, then go out with comfort & a smile .. ya know what? watch escape from alcatraz w/ clint eastwood that movie shows you that escaping takes gradual planning & preparations & if done right your get away will be incredibly smooth & successful ..
     
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  6. Thanks man. I really appreciate the reply. I've already started connecting with new people at work. I'm drained mentally from all the fighting with this woman I just can't wait to be mentally free if we continue to be miserable as fuck with each other. Sounds like maybe you've been in the same boat before? All the things you listed are exactly what I'm aiming for.

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  7. LoL .. Yeah man im livin a similar nightmare & all i can say is ive got the blueprint to change but not the tools .. i figured once i get all the tools i need then im gonna start chippin away at my mental cell .. thats all i dream of is being drama free .. thats why im t breakin and i promised myself not to hit another joint, bong or blunt until all aspects of my life is changed failure will not be an option .. It may take some years but its either that or die miserable .. so yeah ima have to fake it til i make it but the way i see it is one day i won't have to fake it anymore .. so yeah Op you may have to keep puttin up with the bs for a while but just remember your plans will manifest into the light at the end of the tunnel & for once it won't be another train comin from the opposite direction .. gd luck w/ your escape plan my fellow toker ..
     
  8. Not trying to be a dick but she probably cheated on you. In my experience jealousy comes when you commit the crime yourself. I get extremely jealous when I cheat and found out vise versa.

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  9. Man, I actually brought that up one time in an argument of her constantly going through my phone for no reason. We've been together for six years and I've never cheated. So I brought it up and told her I read an article online (I know everything on the net isn't true) but it said something along the lines of that she is probably feeling insecure because she cheated and maybe has herself thinking I did too? But anyway she denied it so if she did cheat I'll never knows unless someone comes forward. Thanks for the reply brother.

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  10. I hope your situation gets better soon as well my man. Let's break of these chains and let our minds heal from all the negative bullshit. Thanks for the reply, your words helped alot.

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  11. #11 Batik, Mar 21, 2016
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  12. Damn this sounds exactly like my 5 and a half year relationship, get out sooner than later, you will be happier.
     
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  13. How are you now without her?

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  14. In the first month, it was tough, it was strange getting used to not have someone to text in the morning and throughout the day like I usually would..I was definitely depressed especially because I got cheated on, but I found the best possible thing was to get out with my friends as much as humanly possible and that was a good turning point for me. Realizing I was just free to do what I wanted, didn't have to worry about anyone getting mad at me really was a great feeling, I even went to a porn convention with a buddy a month later haha. About a month and a half after, I found myself using OKCupid to try to just get myself back out there a little bit and ended up having some fun banging a girl for a month or so and then met a couple more girls off there who I also had a good time with.

    About 6 months later, a girl I was good friends with and smoked with all the time and I were out at a bar with my brother for his girlfriends birthday, we made out that night and have been dating since for a little over two years.

    While in the beginning it seemed awful and like it would never end, me breaking up with her was the absolute best thing that could have happened to me. I am the happiest I have ever been in a relationship because I found someone with similar interests who doesn't try to change me. I was also very happy being on my own for those 6-7 months so give some time to yourself to figure out what you want (to me that was a non judgmental girl who smokes as much as I do, she even bought me batman legos as a gift cause she knows I love to get stoned and put legos together) and then when the right chick comes along it'll happen
     
  15. Fuckin Wow Amazing absolutely Amazing .. It reads just like a letter from the promise land .. Ya know what sir, I may not know you .. But Im so fuckin proud o' you sir!! .. Your livin the life I dream of ... Watch i'll be riding along side o' ya .. Readin this post lets me know there is hope!!
     
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  16. Thanks man, yeah while it seems tough at first and the natural reaction is get back with this person just to feel normal again and not depressed, but there are better people out there than someone who is going to judge you and not just love you for you.
     
  17. Im glad tthis turned out like it did op. Thats great!

    Sadly I am in similar shoes and am in the process of turning it all around...My new gal is awesome, she really is. Now I just have to finish fixing me.

    Given it was you, over her, did you find yourself trying to see how your ex was? or just go and never look back?

    I always glance back, EVEN JUST TO SEE, and I think its screwing me over..
     
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  18. I personally cut all the strings. Blocked her on Facebook, deleted a bunch of old pictures (I still have a lot of them from old vacations I haven't been able to go through yet because I am planning on either cropping her out or putting something hilarious like a picture of Kevin Smith over all the pictures of her) and got rid of anything that was sentimental from that relationship. She continued to text me every once in a while for the next year and a half and I would simply respond with "not interested"

    Looking back is always going to make it harder, just cut them strings and focus on life without her
     
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  19. Look at men who view porn, as a great example as to what your girl is probably feeling; We, as people, desire mates. We desire to be desired, but we also desire variety. Variety, for men, comes mostly from porn, being that you can watch porn across all races, white on black, etc.

    Seeking variety, i imagine women want this as well, moreover if they have not experienced it.

    What you had seemed to be awesome, enjoy the great memories. Nobody said two people couldn't be romantic and end shit civilly; happens everyday. All too often, we get comfortable in the status quo, refusing to embrace this need for change that we all eventually crave, moreover after a period of having nothing but the same thing (In context)
     
  20. I had a crazy ex like this. We dated for 4 years...one day while she was bitching me out for hanging with my best friend who had just returned from his first tour I just stood up, walked out the door and never looked back. She chased me for like 6 months, apology after apology, tried using sex to lure me back, promises that she would be different, yada yada, you name it. Was the best decision I ever made. Couldn't be happier with my girl now. Been going strong 8 years.
     
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