Met a girl at a halloween party, started living with me halfway into November

I just make the best decisions haha, what an interesting month/2 this has been.


So I started talking to this girl that I met at a Halloween party and we started dating. Well she gets into a huge argument with her mom and asked me if I could give her a ride to school. I told her I'd be at her place in a minute.

I get to her place and as shes coming up to my car her mom comes out from the door and stands behind my car until she'd talk to her. She eventually backed away and I drove her to school. While she's there she figured she needed to move out of her moms house (she had every reason to, but that's too much detail) so I offered her to stay at my place for the weekend until she could figure things out (like it was actually all possible within a couple of days). So she brought everything she had (women have a shit ton of stuff....)

Everything went fine until a little into December. We barley did anything and basically sat there day by day watching tv shows on Netflix. She brought up the fact that she realizes that we hadn't had sex in a couple weeks (her friend died and she was doing her exams) and said it's because she's stressed out and busy. That's fine, but then she offered to give me "permission" to go out and fuck any girl I'd like. Just as long as she didn't know about it. I asked if she was playing a game or something and she said no.

Anyways she's moving to Atlanta with her dad and finishing up her school (professional vocalist) and said because realisticly she wouldn't be able to make the money to move out and get her own car, etc.

So now this entire week has been awkward as hell, she was still sleeping in my bed after she told me about moving and then broke up at the same time. She sleeps at the entire other side of the bed (apparently i'm pretty violent in my sleep...and a bed hog haha) I want to hold her or do some sort of cuddling but I never do and don't bother asking to. But now she's been in my grandfather's office all day today with the door shut and locked with the key inside. SHe's barley talked to me the past couple of days and just seems like she hates me.

I do believe my mom got in the way of the relationship and had something to do with it (she's very nosy and says innapropriate things and doesn't think before she speaks). She tells me she likes staying here and likes my family (grandmother, brother, and my mother) other than how incredibly loud we are (thankfully im not like my family) and my mom. My mom just never knew when to stop talking.

I keep going through things to ask her in my mind night by night, day by day, and everytime I'm around her I never get the courage to. Like I'm almost fearful of what her responce might be. But I feel like if I don't then I'll never know...

I keep thinking and asking myself if she's going to keep in contact with me, I kind of hope she does but at the same time I'm pretty sure I'll never see her again.


However, I enjoyed the relationship, got to try new things, and got to meet someone pretty interesting. It's just sad that she's moving, I've never had any friends move on me so it's kind of hard.


So many feelings going through inside, my mind never stops, I can't even sleep. I wake up at 6AM and lay there staring at her mindlessly and just stare off and let my mind roll on down the road of memories and questions left unanswered.


Never again, will I introduce a friend to my mother, and never again will I have someone move in with me, if not then just not as soon.

I guess it's true to not live with your bestfriend (or however the saying goes)

 

There isn't much left to say...but I'm just curious because at one point she brought up that she has a 3 week thing where after 3 weeks of dating someone she loses physical attraction to them. So is that the reason? Or did she just get bored? I know the whole living together ruined it all, given that her friend dies shortly after moving in and having her exams and such.

I just want to know what she thought of me as a boyfriend, the things I did that she didn't like, and things like that. I guess that's kind of weird to ask but that's really the only other thing I'd like to talk to her about.


And there's only 2 moms. Her's and mine. her's is the one who stood behind my car, mine is the one who is socially unbalanced.

 

My mom thinks she took advantage too, but she was starting to pay my grandmother $25 a week to stay there and paid me $5 everytime I took her somewhere. She made it clear that she is only staying at my place to have a place to stay, and that she didn't want to make appearances around my family very often to keep it like she's not staying there. And how she realizes that I probably think of her as the girl who took advantage of me and tells me that that's not the case.


I wonder how it's going to go when we say goodbye...there just never seems to be a great time to talk to her...and when I finally decide to sya something, she ends up doing something else. She even sat down with my grandmother and told her everything and how she's not trying to take advantage or anything...maybe she did, and if so then that's my fault for even offering her a place. If only I would have just kept my mouth shut.

She got to school and decided she didn't want to go (she had a performance to attend) so then I asked if she wanted me to take her back to her moms and she said no (she packed an overnight bag) and I asked if she wanted to come to my house and she said yea and then says that she needed to figure out if she wants to move out of her moms or not (she was paying her mom her entire paychecks to pay for rent, her mom was basically her personal banker) and I asked where she was going to go and she said she can stay at a friends house and etc and then I offered her to stay with me.


I just get into weird and awkward relationships. But I enjoyed it, would like to stay in touch, not bothered if we don't. I'll just look at it as an experience to learn from for the new year. I didn't really see the relationship going far anyways.

 

I haven't checked that in probably a year or so. I'll look it up though haha.


@Art It'd be nice, but I'd rather not even waste my time.