I came home earlier tonight than usual, she says this to me. What the fuck does that even mean? Lol. Kinda pissed. Has anyone had someone say this to them before?
I honestly don't see any big things wrong in what I do/how I live that would make me an asshole. That depends on your definition of one too
Just think about what is her idea of a "good person" is. Are you fitting this model? If not, what is your opinion of a "good person". They will likely be different. Don't take it to hard. You are unique and will differ on lots of things.
[quote name='"h i g h"']because you came home early? or for another reason she said this[/quote] Everybody knows all the bad kids come home before curfew. Breaking rules like a badass.
Lol.... I don't know, just felt like adding that in. I don't have a curfew. She doesnt agree with my lifestyle I guess, it doesn't make me an actual bad person though. detail: I party pretty hard, I like pretty girls, good things in life. Dont think that makes me a bad person.
My suggestion is to remain calm and respectful and say something along the lines of "Ok, it seems like you've got something on your mind, so why don't we talk about it - I don't think I'm a bad person and I try not to be, but if you've got that impression, if you could elaborate on that for me, it might be helpful for both of us" Talk about it - if she's being full of shit or mislead about things, straighten it out and do your best to alleviate her concern/s.
Like RandomThoughts said, talk to her. If you can't resolve it, maybe a little space would do some good.
Becoming a bad person or ARE a bad person? Could mean different things. Lady language is complex. Becoming a bad person means she's noticing behavior and activity changes that she interprets as bad. Saying you ARE a bad person could mean a whole slew of other things.
[quote name='"RandomThoughts"']My suggestion is to remain calm and respectful and say something along the lines of "Ok, it seems like you've got something on your mind, so why don't we talk about it - I don't think I'm a bad person and I try not to be, but if you've got that impression, if you could elaborate on that for me, it might be helpful for both of us" Talk about it - if she's being full of shit or mislead about things, straighten it out and do your best to alleviate her concern/s.[/quote] ^ Winner right here. My mother disapproved of many things I did growing up, it was when we were able to communicate like adults that she began to ease up.
My adult sons and I are still good friends, as well as family, because we talk! Talk to her as one intelligent person to another! Granny
[quote name='"Storm Crow"']My adult sons and I are still good friends, as well as family, because we talk! Talk to her as one intelligent person to another! Granny[/quote] ^ Vouched.
Yeah man, talk to her, tell her you love her. Mothers need to hear that. She probably isn't agreeing with your lifestyle, but mothers tend to sometimes feel uncomfortable accepting their "baby" has grown up. She most likely has said it to motivate you to change up. She knows it will make you feel bad, so you're more urgent to change. It's alright man! Talk to her.