Title says it, blades. I'm a really quiet introspective person, so meeting girls isn't exactly the easiest in the first place- but, i found it to be pretty easy in school, and with my type of personality, i usually only met and got close to girls that were worth getting close to. Basically, from high school, through college, i had absolutely no issues. Now, i've been out of school for a year, and, well... its come to a complete stand still. My friends don't exactly help the situation, either. One friend has a girlfriend and never goes out (ironically, he'd be the best one to go out with), the other one (probably my best friend) works all the time and when he doesn't he just wants to chill and blaze (which is fine, but, yea..), and my 3rd good friend is just, well... extremely awkward around women. But, even still, i wouldn't even know where to go if they wanted to go out. I've met every girl i've been with when i wasn't looking. they'd be like, a friends friend and just be chillen at my house at school and we'd vibe, etc. but, these situations never come up anymore, and i definitely don't see anything worthwhile happening at the likes of a bar, etc. basically, i don't want to go looking, but i feel like i have to with this new non-school situation. ugh, idk, don't know why i posted this even, really. i can't find a job and post school life kinda sucks... i'm thinking i should just go back to school
It's called the internet. In fact you're using it right now! That's how everyone I know met their significant others..
Gym, concerts, starbucks, work, bars, online, through friends, facebook, many other places too. Just gotta try and put yourself out there more. If you see a hot chick out and about then give her your number.
yea, a possibility. i like to like, vibe, chill, talk, etc, though and i feel like that'd be hard with loud music going yea, i've tried it. well, still am. its alright, but... idk its a very awkward way of meeting someone, for me anyways. I still haven't met any of the people i've talked to online in person yet (only had acct for about a month), but i just feel like itd be a super strange situation. idk, im just kind of weird in these situations i guess. i met my last g/f in like, the best possible way last time. I was at my house at school, it was the week before finals, so a bunch of us (us and 2 other houses) decided to have a big cookout to get rid of all of our food. My friend from another house came over and his friend (my ex) from back home was with him. There were only like 15 people at my house and her and I just chilled and had a good night - i wasn't even trying to get with her, and then the next day i have a message on fcebook from her with her phone number and saying she had a good time. that was... too easy - it was nice. ha! online dating is like the toilet of dating, so CL must be the cesspool! yea, see that's something i gotta work on. I have a hard time being that forward. Don't think i've ever walked up to a girl i havent met and given her my number
Yo, try going to the club with your friend instead of blazing. The club or a bar is a great place to meet girls. Other than that, going to the mall, bookstores, starbucks is also a place but it'll be harder to meet them.
i'm sure its possible... my few experiences, along with all my friends, have been pretty weak, though. I also live in a wicked small area where everybody knows everybody. So, not only does that make it a little more complicated, but, my friend also likes to do craigslist jokes, and a few of my friends (who posted on Cl) have been on the receiving end of that joke lol
i had problems getting broads when i lived in a small ass town too- moved to a big city and shit was easy
ugh don't even tell me that! i've been on the cusp of trying to move for a long time. Since i can't get a good job (or any, for that matter) my only out's going back to school. I kind of need to be in a big city for the job i want - plus i want to be in the city for music (both going to shows, and playing in a band, again), and, well... it s=just seems more fun, more social life, etc... on the same hand, i'm such a townie, all my friends live in spitting distance here, and its a beautiful town on the beach. i guess i kind of like being a big fish in a small pond
Don't be scared to give a girl your number, they like that shit most of the time. Worst that can happen is they don't call you. Its worth a shot.
yeah.. minor social anxiety blows! haha. like, its not bad to the point where i'm awkward socially or don't have friends, i just overthink anything and everything in a social situation that it prevents me from being me, if that makes sense. it goes unnoticed to everyone but myself. also, i feel like the whole giving a girl your number, thing, is coming back, after that stupid ''call me maybe,'' song. definitely have to make sure i DONT reference that
Maybe try joining some area clubs that interest you, whether it be an outdoor activity like hiking, or an intramural sport, or maybe something to do with arts/music/movies. Anything that would get you out and about, really. Do something, Learn something, Share something, Change something - Meetup is good for this. Smoke less pot, at least that really seems to sap my motivation for doing much of anything, including meeting women. Also refrain from jerking off for a while and your sex drive will come back in spades, and little things like being introverted will go by the wayside (it's evolution). I think a lot of times internet porn just makes it too easy to take the path of least resistance.
I have a little bit of social anxiety too. You can get through it. Just remember that you don't know the random chick so if she doesn't call then it doesn't matter. I have had a good amount of success with randomly giving girls my number. I remember one time I wrote my number on the check at a restaurant and the waitress texted me as I was pulling out of the parking lot.
Social anxiety :/ I think it's becoming pretty damn commonplace. I find a lot of the club girls are much more ho-ish and just care about getting super drunk/fucked up. It's tough to find a decent girl that also doesn't mind some marijuana.
Those are the types that go all the time. But nice girls go to the club all the time. You just gotta fish through the BS.
No offense to you OP but I really dislike the term "social-anxiety", I think the word for that is already "shy". Everything has a damn medical label and the answer according to society is more drugs. /rant OP - Try going to social events, like mixers or singles nights. You could also get into groups of similarly minded people, book clubs, cooking classes, learning seminars etc. If you can't find a great job maybe settle for something you can get just to meet people. Very important is to make friends with any girl you meet, even if you don't want to start something with her she definitely has some friends that might be better for you. Clubs are usually too loud and bars are sometimes too laid back to meet anyone. If there are some lounge type places near you that is the best place to go.
i am "shy," but, it is absolutely a form of "social anxiety." I say that, because i have more anxiety, in particular, in social situations, when i otherwise wouldnt be shy. im not into all the fancy medical names either, but this one is pretty well justified anyways, thanks for the input, blades. i think im just gonna try and stop giving a fuck since somehow, thats when things always tend to work out. i needa find a legit job right now anyways so ill focus on that and hopefully the rest will come... well, i'll try it that way for a little anyways and see how it goes. i do have to be more proactive in certain situations, though