well really i guess it's not all that bad, im sure there's people here in worse places.. not to mention all the people who aren't fortunate enough to live in a first world country/have the basic necessities.. im just kind of venting... in the last month me and my gf broke up.. it was kind of mutual... we had just grown apart, and are at different times in our life, we were a couple for about 8 months, first relationship (real relationship) i've been in since me and the mother of my kids split almost 5 years ago now.. the thing that sucks though, is that our friend group had blended, and now there's a few people who i expected would still keep in contact, that just plain haven't.. sucks.. lost a girlfriend, and good friends.. money is super tight right now so christmas is pretty much cancelled.. but that really doesn't bother me so much, it's just a holiday, and it's christmas we should celebrate, not the material gifts.. still kind of a bummer though... i'm just ready for this year to end, hopefully my luck will change in 2013, here's to hoping! and Merry Christmas you guys, hope everyone is safe and content and good vibes to all..
i know how that feels, man. in the end, you are the only person who matters. you realize that as more people forget about your existence and leave you in the dust. take care of yourself and be the best person you can
I think the worst thing about breaking up with a long term girlfriend (broke up with my ex of three years recently) is the sudden realization that you have nothing to do anymore. Most of my friends are still in long term relationships, and it kind of hit me last week that I have so much free time with nothing to do or no one to talk to. I can go days without even sending any facebook messages. People say 'make new friends', like it's really easy,but it just seems like everyones already got their friendship circles, and people act weirdly when you try and befriend them. Just seems like i'm stuck at the moment, waiting for life to move on, wanting to meet new people, make new friends, meet girls, all the things that people say will happen after a break up that at the moment, just isn't happening.
yeah, i've found myself in a very lonely and blue place,... what i miss most is my kids though, haven't seen them in over a year now... (they live far away now, with there mother) ah i gotta chin up now, gonna drink my sorrows away tonight (not a regular thing i do) i heard a saying once that went something like.... we could never appreciate the wonderful things in this creation without enduring some not so wonderful things.. it's a contrast.. one day it will be wonderful.
I agree very much with your post. The amount of free time alone with myself I've gained after losing my girlfriend of a little less than a year and a half is the worst part. It always sounds nice to have time to yourself, but I hate when my other friends are with their girlfriends and I'm just sitting at home wondering what to do. I also hate the "find a hobby/meet new people" bullshit. Finding a hobby isn't hard. I have mine, and I LOVE them. But i can't just go surf or snowboard whenever I want, which leaves me with idle time. Also, like you said, meeting new people isn't exactly the easiest either. If I had gone to a university this year, it would've been. But I'm in the same town that everyone has just left from to go to college, so how do I meet new people in it? As for OP, I'm sorry to hear about your struggles. Don't worry, just keep your head up and things will get better. I'm waiting for the same thing too, and I know it sucks, but just gotta look on the bright side. Here's to a awesome 2013
