Okay me and my girlfriend are both 25 and we have been togther for 3 years and everything is great we are living togther and very happy. So no compliments here. But there are some issues I have with her such as Dealing with her sexual history: okay my girlfriend and i were friends all throughout college and I was a virgin all throughout college and she had sex with over 30 guys and they were all one night stands or friends with benefits and she even had several ***** before me. I was good friends with her so I knew all about her sexual history and I was friend zoned by her all throughout college Now I used to have a lot of Hangups with dating and sex and I was to nervous to approach her or other girls so it was very humiliating graduating college a virgin and i can't believe I didn't have sex in college and I was a Virgin for so long and it was embrassing because people made fun of me and I never got to join in on sex conversations But since we both worked in NYC after college she started to fall for me and we started dating she knew about my Hangups with sex and she worked to get past them and she gave me an amazing first time. She knew how ashamed and embrassed I was to be a virgin and she helped me with it. She was great helping me enjoy sex and get caught up and we started having amazing sex i mean we have sex 2-4 times a day and around 4-6 times a day on the weekends and our days off from work and it is great we have a lot of sex toys, sex furniture and role playing outfits and it's amazing She also says I am the best sex she's ever had and I know she's not lying because I checked her text message to a friend and she said that. I mean I make her ***** through penatration each time we have sex and she often ***** and she gets the bed very wet and she is very loud during sex and several times our neighbors have told us to keep it down She's great she loves me a lot and said she wants us to start a family and she's said she wants us to have a baby within the next 4 years and for us to get married as well. she also loves me so much she always says she loves me all the time she texts me it and everything and she calls me her soulmate and the man of her dreams and she says she want to spend the rest of her life with me But I just feel inferior to her like I will never compare to the other Guys she has had sex with and I will never be good enough for her and I still feel like a shy virgin around her even though we have amazing sex. I am also stressed out because she wants to settle down and I don't think I can deal with just one woman my whole life. I need some extra experience and she won't do thrresomes because she dosent want to see me having des with another woman. I am just so tempted by other women like young 18-20 year old girls I just want to get out and explore I mean I am so ashamed that I never had sex as a teenager or in college and that I will never be viewed as a sexual person and I will also be a loser I just want to experience all the fun sex I missed out on and I need to make up for lost time. i mean I have only had sex with one woman and I need to get more sexual partners but I do love her I just want to be with other women and I want to not feel inferior to her anymore what should I do
First, if you start feeling inferior, she will sniff that out and it will hurt your relationship. Second, no you don't need extra experience. Get your experience with her. Try new things and push each other out of your comfort zones. Sounds like you have a good thing going here. Don't screw it up.
I agree with @startedat45. It sounds like she had some fun in college - so what? It sounds like she pretty much adores you and completely takes care of ur needs and then some. Don't screw it up. There's a lot worse women out there and you're gonna end up regretting it. J
Sounds like the "perfect" relationship, from the outside. It seems like you may be feeling left behind, these are your feelings, not anything she did to you. Hubby explained men cheating to me once as "guys always think there's something better out there" and it blew my mind. That you'd totally not be able to appreciate what's going on in your life right now but you obviously don't love her because you have all of these other urges regarding other women. Does your gf not make you happy? Or do you just want to occupy as many holes on the planet as you can? It's biological, genetic memory, overpowering, you have to work at repressing it if you want your relationship to last. Pussy or perfection?
What do you do for work? I'd be cautious as all hell. Also, that curiosity is only going to get worse as you age. Cheating as a married man is super scummy, especially with children...and divorce will fuck your shit up for a long time. Ahh, fun times.
Your feeling of inadequacy doesn't come from her and her experiences. It comes from you and your perception on life. You spend your whole life growing up in a society that highlights what you don't have and glorifies sex. It's a constant bombardment on your mental wellness. We are often quickly able to point out our short comings and flaws, but don't realize the positivE in us. Understand there will always be something "better" out there. But if you can't grasp the art appreciation for what you do have, what makes you think you'll be able to appreciate something you've never touched once you get it. You'll be at the same place in life. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G920A using Grasscity Forum mobile app
What makes you think you could get another girl into bed... You had to make this one fall in love with you before she'd fuck you.
There is no reason to feel inferior. Quality over quantity. You had a slow start, but you and her have experimented and grown sexually and matured together. Yeah, you could go wild and add notches to your belt, but what do a few moments of raw sex and added numbers do besides make you feel guilty for fucking up a great relationship? Hell, a lot of potential partners will likely suck in comparison to what you now have. Curiosity killed the cat.
Okay Op .. Heres what i gotta say .. Live your life the way you want to .. I understand what your feeling & yes you should make up for lost time .. You may have this great relationship now, but constantly having sex all day & constantly on the weekends will only burn you out with the same chick .. It's much like the toy theory, remember as a kid your parents would get you a toy from the toy store? You play with it all day, take it with you where ever you go, take it to the bathtub, to bed, to school & still play with it at home .. then you get tired of playin with it, so it sets in your room for a while, next thing ya know it ends up in the closet ..then a commercial comes on advertising a new toy, next thing ya know your buggin your parents for the newest toy .. thats what its like when ya burned out on the same chick .. it soundz like your already burned out, so dont let Her plan out Your future if thats not what you want ... go out & explore life & experience meeting different people if not your gonna be talked into a lifestyle that you won't be too happy with in the long run .. so my advice to you Op .. Live life the way you want to & Dont be afraid to make decisions that you feel will bring you real happiness in the long run .. i'm tellin you Op if you cant define personal happiness on your own then your gonna have people define it for you ...
You don't think you can only be with 1 woman the rest of your life but blame her for having been with other men.....huge double standard bro.
