I have a mutual friendship with my friend ken and his wife. Lately ken has been telling me he goes to "pornhub live" I looked it up and its basically a site where you pay to watch girls do whatever you want them to do. I really dont think this is the same thing as porn imo. Like he tells me they will scream your name, and do whatever you ask them to do. He has this one girl who he pays to watch every single night. This really pisses me off because he does this at night behind his wifes back. I need advice on what to do in this situation, I am very good friends with his wife and she has helped me in a lot of ways in life and I cant believe he does this to her. Your opinion? Cheating or not?
Its not the same as porn though. Its not a video were you have no interaction and you watch other people fuck. These girls are live on camera doing what you tell them to do. My opinion. And it wouldnt bother me as much if it was other girls, but he has been paying 40 bucks a night to watch the same chick. Its like he is falling in love with her or something, he is stupid./ Ill wait for other opinions though.
Why doesn't he just take his ideas to his chick? Unless he's tried and she's not down, which explains why he's doing it to begin with.
Dude, yeah I feel like it's cheating. Maybe not a deal breaker, ruin a marriage kind of cheating, but definitely something they should deal with and she should know about.
Sounds quite unhealthy, especially since it's the same girl night after night. Marraige counseling fosho.
I wouldn't consider it cheating, but more or less a problem addiction. IMO, it's one of those things that if you consider it cheating, then using your imagination to imagine some girl actually touching your junk and saying your name would be.
It seems as if it's some form of cheating, internet cheating. I mean, he has obviously grown an attachment to the girl if he picks her every night. They can interact and he asks her to do stuff for him, that's just not what you do when you're in a relationship, and especially married... I'm sure the wife would consider it cheating if the guy had some girl he...talked to online, and asked her to do shit. He pays this girl so that's a little worse even... It seems as if it's not physical cheating...but emotional cheating. Imo...
I don't think it's necessarily cheating. But what really bothers me is when his wife finds out he's paying 40 dollars to just have some scream his name? Shit I'll scream your name for 40 bucks a night. I'm sure the wife could play the dirty paid girl for a night. "I need $50 to make you holler I get paid to do the wild thing" Oh yeah baby...bring that 40 over here. [ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=387ZDGSKVSg]YouTube - Tone Loc - Wild Thing[/ame]
Yeah man, defiantly not healthy. I wouldnt tell the wife, but try to get your friend to admit to his wife what hes been doing and just plain stop. She sounds like a good woman and that would most likely be the safest route to keeping her in my opinion.
$40 a night is rather expensive. I would give your two cents to the man first as doing things behind peoples backs is something that should have been eliminated after high school.
Yeah, it's a problem for sure. Coming from a guy who used to enjoy endless hours of porn, he probably picked up an addiction to porn. When he stumbled across this, it was a new thrill for him. He either has desires he is too scared to talk to his wife about or he does and she wont do them. Whatever it is, that marriage is gonna go down the toilet.
I don't think its cheating coz he is just watching them not being physical with that girls so you don't need to create any problem in their married life.
It's subjective, and the only opinions that matter are that of the husband and wife. Hve you asked him why he won't tell his partner about it?
Everyone is saying not cheating, but I think it is. Granted, it's not physical but he is paying another woman for her "services." He's also keeping this from his wife. I wouldn't put it quite on the same level as a intimate encounter, but it is definitely a problem, and will cause larger problems in their marriage (like trust) in the future.