i pay attention to every detail about my appearance, so my mom says also . i was snapped at today by a viewer she was younger then me and smaller than me but weighed more, like yea okay well been there had to go through that and guess what,,, I''m happier now! and my looks i effortlessly do nearly now. i just needed a space to vent and diet along everyday to so i did a virtual accountability on youtube. this has helped me and ia m grown from it. i am now wanting to lose 2 lbs and i am called out for thats how eating disorders are but Good lord i have been eating disordered 13 years now it's taken the better half of my life practically. i can't be fully recovered and well thats the ride i line, i want to be like a model. i am not after an ordinary life, because that's not me, God has given me my trials nad this is how i;ve dealt. i love my appearance and everything i do.... is this wrong?
I think it's normal to want to look good, it's how we attract our mates. Some are too obsessed, and some don't care at all. Hope you find what you're looking for, and be healthy as well.
its an important part of my self esteem, now that self esteem took some learning like 25 years ....lol
Nope Im The Same Way Girl. Even On My Worse Days When I Feelin Like I Should Be Dead I Still Lookin Fire. Noting Wrong With Caring Bout Your Appearance Sis You Do You. ~Toni~
Do whatever you want, not sure how old you are but realize that as we age, no matter how hard we try, we lose our looks. Short of plastic surgery and using filters on our photos, there's not much you can do to change your genetic makeup. Take a good look at your parents and your grandparents, for the most part, that will be you.
Is it a bad thing? Not necessarily but it could be. I suppose the thing to consider is why do you care so much and can you justify the time/money it takes etc. I look decent, nothing too special or anything, im sure i would 'clean up well', but I don't invest time in doing it. I invest time and thought into who I am, not how I look. My character and personality speaks for itself.
that’s helpful thinking and interesting. interestingly enough i think beauty and fashion and makeup is an art form in itself. like every day i step out i am presenting myself to the world
Can you get up, brush your teeth, throw your hair in a pony tail and head to the store or do you have to be all 'made up' first? I guess the point is, if you draw too much self-worth or confidence from your physical appearance, you run the risk of crippling yourself in the future. You might find yourself afraid to age and turn to plastic surgery and other things to try to avoid the inevitable.
yes i though do agree we lose out looks with age, most people don't peak until late twenties, and with the revolutionization of skincare and beauty since we were young, millennials (a late millennial myself '95) may trump over their prior generations looks before because we know more about sun protection, like always wearing sunscreen and just a huge pull toward skincare in general over the years. so there is something you can definitely change as far as taking care of your appearance and sun safety! gen X is even more educated about skincare like learning their declatorea and actual sun safety at an earlier age then probably earlier generations, gen Y ... well we'll see, but they are probably educated about things sorta but so yes there is things you can do to help your overall heath and appearance!
If someone judges you for your looks instead of your character , that makes them prejudice,which is not good imo. As long as your healthy and not too wealthy, you should be good,imo.
Hahaha sorta is right!!! I think with us genX folks it was brand new, the awareness of how ultraviolet rays can harm the skin etc. Certainly when I was a kid in the 70's I didn't hear anything about sunscreen. We had Coppertone suntan oil or lotion. I would burn up like a French fry and slather Noxema lotion all over myself at night lol. One time my sister got blisters all over her face. The awareness of sunscreen happened later I think in my 20's. But I agree with you that later generations like yours will probably be better preserved than mine and those before me bc of how things evolve as we learn new ways to care for our skin. I still look good at 56 lol so there's nothing wrong with celebrating that at all hey! God made us how they want us to look we gotta honor that! Strut your stuff girl! Me idc if I get wrinkly and saggy with white hair I will still be rocking it lol. Feel you on ppl saying you're acting out by wanting to lose 2 pounds...that's your business not theirs! The older I get I just don't give a damn what ppl think. You get to a place where you just can't be anything other than yourself. Might as well love accept and celebrate that!!!