Alright, well I'm normally very good at solving problems but this one is really eatin me. So I'm kind of interested in this girl, only problem is she is younger than me, but only two grades. I never thought that two grades was that big of deal. However, her mom thinks I am too old for her. We arn't dating or anything, but you know just a mutual interest, and we'd like to hang out but her mom won't allow it. She doesn't think I'm a bad guy or anything, she just thinks the age difference is somehow ... Bad? Anyways, thats the situation and I'm not sure what to do. It almost seems as if the situation is out of my hands, seeing as the mom has made up her mind about something rather unreasonable. The only conclusion I have is to just accept the change and hope time changes her moms mind. I'm really interested in this girl, and any advice on how I should handle the situation would be appreciated. Oz.
If her mother is gonna say No, I say you just back down, find another girl, and don't worry. If she's off limits, accept that she's off limits. I'm sorry for your loss and I hope you can move on soon.
lol dude c'mon thats not even good advice. Of course I already thought about that but we are all marijuana smokers here, and the Gov't tells us not to do it and we don't just accept it and move one. Seriously, wheres the fun in life if you just give up on everything you find thrilling? This is just a challenge, I know things will work out I just need an idea for my next move. Life is just a chess game. Her mom has me at check right now and I need that one maneuver that will give me check-mate position. Oz.
I say it depends on her age. Unfortunately it sounds like her mother still rules a lot of her life and you proly dont want to get mixed up in that anyway....on the other hand, things that are wrong, can feel sooooo right
Ok well let me give you guys some figures. I am a Senior in high school (18) and she is a Sophomore (15 or 16). However, statutory rape is out of the question seeing as first of all I'm a virgin, and second of all no sexual relations have ever been initiated. I cannot even, in the eyes of her mom, be friends with her. What should I do? She wants to hang out with me behind her mothers back. I don't necessarily want to do that but it seems that it's the only option if I decide I want to stick around. I would hate to get caught up in a scenario where she gets in trouble for hanging out with me, because that may hurt future chances of us ever being friends or anything more than friends. The situation is really difficult, because I am not the type of guy who is always looking for a girlfriend. I normally don't fall for a girl unless they REALLY interest me. I am very picky, and this girl is a lot like me. She is really down-to-earth, a smart girl, and shit I just don't feel like I can pass up the opportunity to get to know her better. I really enjoy her company, and I don't understand why her mom is acting like we are going to run off and get married, when in her eyes we haven't even ever hung out, although we have before without her knowing.
First of all the judge does not care if you were a virgin or not. Second of all why not just hang out with her behind her mom's back. If she is a momma's girl than you are out of luck but if you and her both want to be FRIENDS, go ahead and chill whenever you want.
Vikes said it right. Win the mom over, ask to hang out when her mom is there to oversee so she can see your intentions arent negative. Just my 2 cents.
Ok, well statutory rape is out of the question. This is not the type of situation where I'll find myself in jail, so I'm not worried about that variable. Yeah, I realize the next step is to win the mom over. But how? I don't think hanging with her daughter with her supervision is the right way, seeing as she doesn't want me to hang with her daughter in the first place. What if I took her mom to dinner or any other suggestions? I've never had a situation where I had to really work my charm on the mother, normally the mother would approve of me as soon as they met me. This situation is so different than what I'm used to. One option is to hang out with her behind her moms back, but I really want to avoid that. I have a feeling it will happen again, but I'd rather not be the reason this girl got in trouble with her mom. That would only make things worse, as far as my chances go. Oz.