Well yeah, but we're not like a wolf or something who literally only thinks about food, sleep, and sex. That's all they do...that's all they're driven to do. We are driven in the same way, except as society and civilization arose we picked up other drives as well. While yes, we are animals in the strictest sense of the definition, we are definitely unlike most animals in the world. This is why we all have varying psychological make-ups; this movement away from the pure animal necessities of sleep, food, and sex. Everybody's psychological make up is different. That's why it's absolutely false for someone to state that a person who eschews sex is "abnormal." They're not abnormal. They're just not you.
honestly I think we make a conscious decision that infiltrates our unconscious minds about whether we want sex or not. More often than not, people say this when there is little to no chance for them to get some. I would rather try and fail than deny the truth
Your thoughts on the matter don't negate the psychological truth of the matter. Everything about us is mediated through chemicals. Love and lust included. The drive and desire to have sex is mediated through a cascading effect of neurochemicals. Because of a thousand different factors, including our neurochemical make up, we all have varying sex drives. The same has been recorded amongst other primates as well, and a few other animals like penguins. Nature does not make all animals into hypersexual beings. Other factors go into that. Nature does not have a default "horny level" that we're all born with, like you're arguing.
There should be a certain amount of a sex to invoke the neurotransmitters and other chemicals because I am pretty sure mastrubation doesn't send out all the same shit that sex does. Also it's just healthy to have sex. idk about mastrubation as a substitution tho...for me I just sorta got bored jerkin off over and over again to the point where mastrubation doesn't really feel that fulfilling or anything. Not to say I am not horny, I just want to put my dick in something other than my hand
Am I the ONLY one who realizes that if you wait for the PERFECT ONE, you will be forever dissapointed or alone. Nothing wrong with waiting for the best match....but perfect....sheesh, good luck on that..
[quote name='"cookiecrisp"'] Your thoughts on the matter don't negate the psychological truth of the matter. Everything about us is mediated through chemicals. Love and lust included. The drive and desire to have sex is mediated through a cascading effect of neurochemicals. Because of a thousand different factors, including our neurochemical make up, we all have varying sex drives. The same has been recorded amongst other primates as well, and a few other animals like penguins. Nature does not make all animals into hypersexual beings. Other factors go into that. Nature does not have a default "horny level" that we're all born with, like you're arguing.[/quote] Hormones
Don't wanna jack the thread but I just wanted to say you're an asset to the gc community. Always helping others with positive words and positive vibes. I'd give you rep but it won't let me! Op, my sex drives ebbs and flows like a river. I think we all do. IMO, people who are extreme one way or another are abnormal and off balance. Just be yourself. Trying to be what you're not will only leave you disappointed. I have an old friend who brags about his sexual exploits because he's over the hill and jealous now of his former life. He tells everyone he has a big cock and brags about how many people he's fucked but he's the most miserable person I know. Being from a generation where cleanliness and functioning frontal lobes are a respected evolutionary trait, I feel uncomfortable when he brags and have actually told him, "dude, I wouldn't brag about that anymore if I was you, it's not the 80s anymore." One day one of his friends goes, "back in my day people didn't worry about condoms. Everyone rode the neighborhood bike and if one of us got sick, we all went and got shots. Then another of their friends found common ground, as they discussed the oral skills of a chick they both knew 10 years apart. Reminded me of that dj quick song: [ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qTqAzBe0NrA&feature=youtube_gdata_player]Dj Quik - I used to know her - YouTube[/ame] To each his own, but I personally respect class. It's rare in America.
Are you kidding me? While in the porn world it is much easier to find a chick who will let you blow a load in her mouth, fuck her in the ass, or do any number of twisted things to her; I find a real vagina feels better than any number of over the top twisted pornos. Im not saying I dont watch porn, I do. Id just disagree that porn could possibly be better than the real thing, no matter how twisted the porn
Yeah i kinda feel you op.. I think Its the weed man!! If i have a big bag a weed i could give a fuck about having sex, but it seems once i sober up i turn into a animal that will hit on like every hot girl i see. But idk man if a hot girl threw herself on you i think it would get you excited and semi interested at the very least.
I just thought of something. If you search for the perfect one and dont fuck along the way, your gonna be lame in the sack. Am i right? Unless you got like a donkey shlong
There are two explanations here: One, your a well balanced guy who doesn't feel the drive to constantly hunt women like most of society says you should do, you've had good sexual experience anymore, take it for what it is, and that's that. Two, your smoking too much and too lazy to talk to women, who probably at your age want to explore their sexual worlds as much as you probably do, considering you haven't had much sexual experience, therefore writing it off as something that "society says you HAVE to have." Not sayin it's one or the other. Just saying I've met both types.
honestly i agree with OP, i just got out of a no-strings type deal and it really didn't do much for me because the sex didn't have that "fire" that it does when you really care about someone. it just sucks that society is constantly screaming "get all the ass you can or you're not a man!" because i just want a relationship...it's even worse that i'm in college and no girls seem to be into the same thing at all
I used to feel like that. But I started getting like actually horny when I was like 19, now it's just ridiculous. You may just be a late bloomer, such as myself.
I feel you man. Sex is awesome, but I don't go out looking for it or anything. I just figure if some girl wants to have sex and I know it, I'm down but I'm not going to make the effort, it's not worth it to me. I can take it or leave it People who chase sex like it's something special are like stupid cavemen lol