If you have been seeing a guy for 6 months....

Discussion in 'Sex, Love & Relationships' started by bsuttoi, Nov 27, 2011.

  1. If you have been seeing a guy for 6 months and he hasn't asked you to be his girlfriend, will he ever?

    He also asked you not to see anyone else, and invited you to holidays with his family.
  2. Maybe you already are?

    I have a girl and haven't called for such titles. I don't care for titles anymore, saves a lot of drama.

  3. if he doesnt want you to see anyone else he obviously already thinks youre exclusive. just because he hasnt "asked" you to be his girlfriend doesnt mean you arent. ask him whats up
  4. We had a talk about it in mid august and he said he wasn't ready for a relationship...

  5. ...but youve been seeing eachother for six months... are you sleeping with him?
  6. [quote name='"LittleWing420"']

    ...but youve been seeing eachother for six months... are you sleeping with him?[/quote]

    We just started sleeping together in the beginning of October, but we've only had sex 3 times.
  7. How long are you willing to wait? How long is he willing to make you wait? Does this mean it's still legal to date other people, and if so, how do you feel about it? You need to draw the line somewhere.

  8. sounds legit to me and if youve only had sex three times hes not in it just for the sex. you havent talked to him about it since august you said maybe its time for a chat
  9. I tried to "define" a relationship with a girl I had been seeing on-again-off-again for over 2 months and it basically ended whatever relationship we might have had right there. Some people just want to have it both ways; the benefit of exclusivity without the responsibility of a commitment

    I've since decided that its not worth playing those games...If a girl doesn't want to define what "us" means than I'm certainly not going to waste time chasing her.

    Just ask him what he sees the relationship as.
  10. [quote name='"SassyMelassy"']How long are you willing to wait? How long is he willing to make you wait? Does this mean it's still legal to date other people, and if so, how do you feel about it? You need to draw the line somewhere.[/quote]

    :/ I know and this is where I'm having trouble. I don't know how long is too long? Maybe he just likes my company enough to keep me around but not enough to commit to me. I might just not be the one...

    My problem is that I like him a lot but he's not giving me everything I need and I'm just wanting the relationship label because I think it'll fix everything. Ahhh maybe it's time to finally admit to myself that I should move on.
  11. It sounds like games to me, if i were you I'd find someone who wasn't playing around.

    That is, if that's what you want.
  12. I guess I'll stick around for now. When we're together I have fun and I'm still very young.
  13. I know labels are ridiculous. But in all honesty, when it comes to a relationship, you need them. Yes you need to have the, "are we, or aren't we" talk.

    By not calling you his girlfriend, he doesn't have to be held accountable for his actions. The title is necessary on defining the type of relationship you want from one another. It can't grow with out one.

    Being together, and being bf/gf, have different rules. I don't want to see you get hurt!
  14. If he's inviting you to holidays with his family I'd say it's time to try the relationship talk again. I know I wouldn't invite a fuck buddy or friends with benefits to spend the holidays with my family.
  15. #15 bsuttoi, Nov 28, 2011
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    Thank you!

    I completely agree, but I don't want to be that girl to make him have "the talk" again. He said once a few months ago that he liked where we were and wasn't ready for a relationship, and I don't feel like bringing it up.

    If I become is girlfriend, I want it to be cause we both like each other a lot and he asks me to officially be his girlfriend, not because I pressured him with "the talk."

    My true real question is...

    If it's been this long and he hasn't asked me, will he ever? Would any of you guys do this with a girl? If you would do it/have done it, why?

    - you liked her, but not enough
    - you liked her a lot but you didn't have the right timing, enough time, will, or you weren't ready to make a commitment because you're young?
  16. I am going to honest here and give you a guys perspective. If he isn't calling you his GF its for a reason. The reason could be so he can't be blamed if he fucks someone else. If you aren't his gf and he fucks another chick then technically it isn't cheating. Another reason it could be is that he just isn't the commiting type. The last possible reason could be that he is playing games and likes the female attention. Overall good luck. I would give him an ultimatum
  17. ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
    so dumb

    in all honesty
    In July he told me "if you are fooling around with other people, I'd want to stop seeing you because I'm kind of getting attached."

    Since July, he hadn't said one thing about me not seeing other people, so I got bored.

    I've hung out, made out, and sometimes messed around with a few other guys while seeing him. Should I feel guilty? I don't think so?
  18. If he asked you not to see anyone else(and he isn't seeing anyone else), and you're invited over for the holidays..I would say he already thinks you are. I understand wanting to know "offically" but I think he already considers you his girlfriend.

  19. you definitely shouldn't feel bad about chilling with other guys, unless you lied to him about it.
    but about everything else i'm sorry but you probably should, he trusted you and you broke that.
    if you were bored, you should've let him know!
    thats what boyfriend and girlfriend do.
    you have to start acting like girlfriend material if you want to be his girlfriend! and basically cheating on him (yes i know you guys aren't offically dating but you promised to stay exclusive)
  20. Seems like he just doesn't want the girlfriend drama but he still really likes you. The holiday thing tipped it off, I guess he considers you two exclusive since he doesn't want you fooling around but honestly I think you both are very far from where you both see each other in this relationship so I say better luck in the next one :D

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