"I want to make other girls cum", that's my problem

Discussion in 'Sex, Love & Relationships' started by El Brossidente, Sep 18, 2009.

  1. Hi all. Title is for shock value and eye candy, but it's relevant! So don't leave yet!

    So, about 3 - 4 months ago, I came out of a 6 year relationship. I was single when I was 20 between 2 gfs, for 4 weeks.

    This time, I said I would be single, work on myself until I'm ready to have another person to be responsible for, or until I think I'm presentable enough to a girl, or even more to the point, when I felt like my life was missing having a partner.

    So, over a few weeks I tried to see some girls. Met a couple here and there sort of thing... but then I met Kath.

    It's coming up on a month that I've known her. She's been here every weekend, except this time she's been here since last Friday, so all week.

    Everything about her is great, and she makes my life incredible.

    My only 'problem', is even tho sexually she completely satisfies everything I want... I KNOW right now, I'm not content. I know right now I'm already anxious. After having one partner for that long, being engaged and accepting that she's the only one you're going to have sex with....

    10 weeks of being single, I don't want to cut myself off from other partners and experiences for another x amount of years.... but my point is: Why the fuck not?!

    Why for the benefit of my dick am I considering giving up someone who is pretty much everything anyone could want in a partner.I literally can't stop her cooking and cleaning for not only me, but my friends, and then if the lollies and drinks run out? She's out to the shops to buy some more bag fulls of stuff, while she's buying ingredients to make dinner for.... well, one night, she fed herself, me, 2 of my friends and a new guy we met that night.

    Yeah so.... do I need a fucking good slap, and told to ignore my dick? Or is cutting myself off from these hypothetical sex partners going to affect me too much to settle into falling in love with Kath.
  2. Keep the girl she sounds amazing. But if your dick is your brain, and he was smart (correction really horny) he would cheat on her if he craves it that bad.
  3. Dude, that sounds like the dream girl. Keep that.
  4. If your getting pussy, you don't have a reason to complain. It's more than I can say.

  5. Follow your penis' heart. Your penis has a brain, but it's telling you to have sex with other women. Your penis' heart knows that this lady is pretty special, not some average ho, but your penis' brain wants you to spread the loving around town with average hoes.

    So, in conclusion, it sounds like you have a pretty awesome deal. She cooks, cleans & satisifies you. Follow your penis' heart, man.
  6. Keep her.

    Let me be the voice of reason, speaking personally from horrible decisions; do not let her go.
  7. Yeah, see, so simple. I just know I'm going to have to fight the wrestlessness.

    It's not about me feeling good or getting something I'm missing. I want to see other girls react. I wish I had done this when I was younger so it wasn't an issue!

    The other thing is, she's pretty, but she's a big girl, as is every girl I've ever touched. It's literally not an issue.... but it's a factor, just for the sake of covering the shallow aspects.
  8. Well if you really like her then her being a "big girl" shouldn't matter.

    I am a little superficial and I'm willing to admit it, I couldn't ever go with a "big girl" but that's just me.
  9. "Big girl" can mean a lot of things. Everyone has a different standard of attractiveness, you know? Are we talking a little thick, or chubby, or really overweight?
  10. No fatter than me, and I'm over 100kgs.

    Trust me, it does NOT factor in. My ex got to 170kgs and I was engaged to her.

    It factors in however when thinking about no strings sex.
  11. If you really like her, then do what's best for her.

    I don't mean to sound harsh, but you sound kind of selfish. You like her because she makes you food and buys you stuff and for what she does for you in bed.

    I'm sure she means more to you than that, but just re-read the your post. It kind of comes across that way.

    If you want to experience other people, then do it. If you are feeling that way now, it's only going to get worse as you get further into the relationship. At that point, you risk hurting her so much more then you if you just break it off now.

    Why not just be honest with her? Who knows, she might want the same thing, and after you both "sew your oats" (or whatever) you'll end up back together?

  12. You're over 100 kgs... so thats over 15 stone.

    Exactly how many wild oats are you going to get to sow anyhow?

  13. Excuse me sir we talk American on this forum....read the rules....

    jk continue with discussion please
  14. dont beat too much, or else you`ll be regretting it in 5 years
  15. #16 futhamucka, Sep 20, 2009
    Last edited by a moderator: Sep 20, 2009
    There is no such thing as a Dream Girl :(

    See if she is bi, if she is then you both get to play and it's a lot of fun to :)
  16. How old are you, man? The way I see it is that you've got until you're about early to mid-thirties to even begin to worry about settling down. If you just got out of a six-year relationship, give yourself some time to breathe. If you're already sketchy about entering another relationship because you feel like you want to get around, by all means, get around. Coming out of a really long relationship and jumping right into another one with anxious feelings towards sexual freedom will only lead you to feel trapped and tied down shortly down the road. Do whatever comes natural. More importantly, do whatever you want whenever you want. There will always be someone waiting around when you get done with fulfilling your personal needs.
  17. Do what you wanna do, just be honest about it.

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