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Discussion in 'Real Life Stories' started by weed_josh, Jul 8, 2005.

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  1. #1 weed_josh, Jul 8, 2005
    i need advice bad, ok my friend jimmy's mom just died of a heart attack and hes been acting really reckless and almost suicidal. he never knew his dad so his mom was all he had. me and him have been buddies since 9th grade, when we mutually found out that the other smoked pot while talking in english class. we both smoke pot and do mushrooms and acid. but ever since his mom died hes been doing lots of other stuff and drinking hevily. hes been smoking crack, pcp, and grinding and snorting his perscriptions. we have both tried that heavy stuff before but never really got into it. but now hes doing huge ammounts of all of them , hes completely drained his savings on that shit and talks about suicide a lot. i think he might be trying to o.d., or maybe attempt some other way . he broke up with his girlfriend and wont talk to anyone but me and our good friend dj. me and friends have had someone in the appartment with him constantly for the last 3 days, but we have jobs and cant keep doin this. i dont know what to do anymore. we've tried getting him to stop and even taken
    his drugs away. should we just wait and see if he comes out of this? or should i just get some professional help, and if so where could i go with a problem like this? we live in ames iowa. if you have any advice or know of some place that could help, we really need it
     
  2. #2 paranoia13, Jul 8, 2005
    ive found one way to deal with these people

    when the ignorant wont listen beat there ass and then talk to them
     
  3. #3 weed_josh, Jul 8, 2005
    i dont think thats an option, he seriously doesnt even respond when we talk to him or walk into the room, its like he doesnt know were there. we have to make food for him and he barely even eats, i am really worried. ive never seen anyone act like this, he just stares at a wall or the tv ( we have to turn the tv on for him) im seriously considering calling a doctor or psychologist.
     
  4. #4 reefermakesmeha, Jul 8, 2005
    get him some professional help man this sounds pretty serious.
     
  5. #5 aH1GH3Rpower, Jul 8, 2005
    Yeah that sounds really serious. Desperate times call for desperate measures, do whatever you can for him. I feel bad that i cant really help you out anymore then that
     
  6. #6 sCaKmY, Jul 8, 2005
    get him some professional help, he may not like it but it will be the best for your friend.
     
  7. #7 Crossbreed, Jul 8, 2005
    i dont think it needs to be said again but i will! GET SOME HELP FOR YER FRIEND ASAP!
     
  8. #8 ruggles, Jul 8, 2005
    Get your friend some professional help before he ODs on something and kills himself.
     
  9. #9 Motoxridah, Jul 8, 2005
    Set up an appointment at a psychologists office (may be a bit pricey). Dont tell him about it and just tell him to ride with you and while in the car say im takin you to a place where you can be helped. He may freak out but it is the best thing for him. Dont let his life hit the rocks, hes heading that way right now.
     
  10. #10 Krypto, Jul 8, 2005



    I'm sorry to say this, but if he doesnt want help, he wont quit. Hes trying to grieve and hes doing it in a pretty bad manner. People like this, unfortunatly need something dramatic to happen to them, like almost OD, otherwise if he keeps having a ball hes going to keep doing it. He needs to get the shit scared out of him. You should really say this, and his other friend...You need to tell him that you dont want him around if hes going to sit there and do hardcore drugs. Tell him that you are there for him, and you want to help him. I'll be praying for you and your friend, I hope to God he will snap out of it, its a terrible thing. I wish you the best.
     
  11. #11 Stonedgobln420, Jul 8, 2005
    Dude fom what I have experienced my best advice is to take your friend to get professional help and. I know it might be hard but believe me , this is what it has come down to. Abusing drugs to try and cope with a traumatic event such as the death of a loved one will only lead to something worse happening. There are plenty of toll free numbers you can call to get referred to mental health services.
    Your friend is very lucky to have a friend that cares about him this much to want to try and help him.My prayers go out to you both, and keep us updated, ok?
     
  12. #12 Butter, Jul 9, 2005
    for real intervention... rehab no joke man people like that in my opinion its time for them to sober up cause its harder to face your problems face on when high imo... i swear if that was my boi id get him in my ride and take him to rehab no joke.. impatient cause they wont let him leave if you feel he is suicidal im pretty sure...
     
  13. #13 Krypto, Jul 9, 2005
    Dude, you cant just up and take someone to rehab, especially a friend. If its your kid, thats a different story. The rehab place isnt going to lock him down, and whos going to pay for his rehab??? You cant MAKE someone stop, they have to want to stop themselves, trust me. All you can do is rag on him about how hes fucking up his life, and make him feel guilty. This will be the change, if hes as good as a friend as you say he is, then soon enough you can get him to snap out of it. Just dont give up, keep pushing him to stop.
     
  14. #14 weed_josh, Jul 9, 2005
    good news, me and dj and the rest of our circle were just sittin with jimmy last night and talkin about all the shit we have been through together and all the fun we had, and he joined the conversation. we had took all his substances away( except weed, i just couldnt do that) the other night, so he hasnt been doing any of that for almost 24 hrs. hes still really messed up over his mom tho. hes been very quiet , which is very unlike him. but all in all, i think hes gonna be ok. we all got together and made him promise to never do any of that heavy stuff again. he complains of being dizzy and he says his vision kinda trails but he refuses to go to a hospital. we definitely have to see a therapist or something so he can deal with his loss in a healthy way. i think were gonna have to drag him into a doctors office too because some of the symptoms hes talkin about kinda worry me. but im just glad to have my friend back.

    thanks for your concern, advice, and prayers. all your posts were greatly appreciated.
     
  15. #15 TheHempress, Jul 9, 2005
    good to hear that things are getting better :)
     
  16. #16 Butter, Jul 10, 2005

    man if someone is declared suicidal i swear their not just gonna throw him away... child or adult it doesnt matter... i wasnt talkin about making him stay clean forever but if they declare he is suicidal and think hes trying to od... which they will atleast evaluate him theyre not just going to throw him away knowing he could be a threat to himself and beyond that why would you make someone who is suicidal feel even more guilty that makes no sence to me... he lost his mother.. hes depressed and may be suicidal so i got it lets throw another burden on him and tell him hes fucking up his life and he should feel guilty... and how would you make him feel guilty about what hes doing? "your mom wouldnt approve of this?" yea........... :confused:

    edit: and impatient... that services make you stay there for atleast a week on lock down... and im not being an ass man. but you say whos gonna pay for his rehab? well who pays for his shit right now he has? if it was his mom well he has other family out there im going to assume... if it was him well then he can... and im going to assume he or his family has something called insurance..which will pay for a big chunk of it most likely
     
  17. #17 RavenousDespair, Jul 10, 2005
    glad things are better :D

    but if he is feelling sick...he might be going through withdrawal....if it worsens, intensly, i would recommend hospital visit (coma like sleep, constant seizures,constant black outs, etc...)
     
  18. #18 Krypto, Jul 10, 2005


    Butter, you can preach all you want about someone being suicidal, but if they are not your child and their not under 18, they CANNOT bakeract them at all. They have to see something happen to have the police called on him while hes all fucked up and goin crazy. If we were able to tell the police that so and so is suicidal, and they took them away, people would be doing that left and right. I work in a pedatric wing at a hospital, and I know the rules of this stuff front and back. Its a very complicated situation.
     
  19. #19 Butter, Jul 10, 2005

    man im not talking about the police... do you know what inpatient is? thats rehab man... there is a difference between outpatient and inpatient im going to assume you know this... but you know what i could be wrong and fuck i am most likely wrong but from what your saying is that you cant force him to go to rehab well you cant force him to do shit and making him feel more guilty is just fucking retarded... and what i was saying is this if you take him to rehab they will evaluate him and if they feel he is suicidal they will try to make him stay and yes granted you are right they cant force him to stay so yes ill admit i was wrong now that i think about it.. so i stand corrected but for someone who works at a "pedatric wing at a hospital" well i take that back i dont know what you do there but why the fuck would you make someone who is suicidal feel more guilty... but everyone is talkin about making him goto some counseling well rehab is fucking counseling and if he is in inpatient that will sober him up for that little time and give him counseling... so really they cant do shit for him but try to make him do something and making him feel more guilty is the dumbest thing i have ever heard... ill be fucking damned if i ever saw one of my counslers try to make the suicidal people in rehab feel guilty
     
  20. #20 Lady4:20, Jul 10, 2005
    You deserve a BIG Thank You!!! Your a True friend. He's lucky to have you... Keep up the good work.....
     
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