I have been denying one night stands when I get the opportunity.

i know wat you sayin, but i wouldnt mind it during a "dry spell" tho lol...

 

Apparently you haven't been fucked over by a girl before. When you have you care less about emotions.

 

I agree with what you are saying i kinda feel the same way. But if its been a while i might have a one night stand.

 

Yea I feel you I feel incredibly cheap when thats happening but I always call myself stupid during dry spells. A perpetual cycle I suppose

 

dude, this doesnt make you gay.
it makes you a good guy.
actually id say it makes you more of a man than a lot of guys who think that they have to bang a bunch of "bitches" to be cool and be manly.

 

No, it does not.

Going against the "norm" of being a man-whore or a slut is sometimes difficult, but stick with it, and you and your STD-free body will benefit in the end.

This would be your morals talking to you. It's not gay.

Honestly, it sounds like you're running into the same kind of girls over and over again. You may need to change your atmosphere a bit and get out more to find someone who shares your ideals and morality. Either that, or just speak up during the initial conversation and flat-out tell them what you're looking for. You might be surprised at their reaction, as you might be exactly what they are looking for too.

 

Is this wrong of me? NO

Does this make me gay? NO

It feels like i'm doing it all wrong, all of my guy friends talk about hooking up with girls at our college all the time, and the girls seem to not mind it either. Some get some, some don't get any. No big deal.

It bothers me though, I feel sometimes guys just use women like an object just for sex. And women use men as their sex toys all the time.

Kind of disgusting in my opinion, and if I were to do a one night stand I would feel bad for doing it. It's not disgusting at all, and it's not insensitive either, as long as both parties are on the same page. Which means, both you and the girl know that it's a one night stand. And I think everyone feels bad or awkward after a one night stand... that's why you never see the chick after one night stand...

I care about a girls emotions a lot. Very good.

I would rather smoke a bowl and just talk about life than have sex all the time. That's very good too. But some girls fall asleep when you talk about life. Some girls would rather have sex, you know?

Is this wrong of me? Not at all. Totally normal, dude...

I don't want to seem gay. There is no relationship between being gay, and not being able to get a one night stand.

Honestly I am a little confused. About what? Your sexuality? Are you confused if you're gay or not?

I am still 18 and young inside emotionally. I am still learning about life. We learn new things everyday until the day we die.

Just want some opinions on this.. sometimes i'll talk like I want to, but then realize it doesn't feel right, and I end up never doing it.

It's only when I have a real girlfriend that I want something. I don't want everything to be about sex, but some girls don't give me a chance because they think I just want a one night stand too.

I don't know if i'll ever find happiness though. I have lost so many girls who actually doubt I would be honest and faithful just because they consider all guys douche bags.

What do I do guys? I'm really confused.

Just chill... and relax... love will find you one way or another.

 

I feel about the same way, I'm about as straight as the next guy, but I'm not really crazy about the whole "fucking" thing, I know a few girls that "dig" me, but I avoid doing one night stands because they might not see it as a one night thing, and start bugging. I don't feel like fucking over girl's minds and hearts so I just keep my dick to myself.

When I'm in a relationship though, that's a whole diff. story. i get my bone on whenever i can. lol

 

Maybe the girls ust want a one night stand too? You dont have to think that you are "using them". Just because girls are emotional doesnt mean they dont go out looking for a quick fuck sometimes maybe think of it as fun for both parties so why not?

 

I've never done a one night stand and keep telling myself I won't, but every once in awhile I just don't care and wanna get some..but never end up going through. I've got a HUGE dry spell going on right now, not even gonna say because it's so embarrassing. You'll eventually find someone that wants what you want, there is hope for us. Just takes time.

Fucking time. Hang in there.

 

Bitches are best for fucking and leaving.

I've been fucked over too many times to give a shit about those evil things feelings.

There's only one girl who I care about enough to really want a relationship with. Except I've never met her. She only lives like 20 miles away but I just never feel like going.

 

Nah you're just of a different school of thought than most people. You and I see it the same way. Don't worry about "seeming gay" to other people. I know how it is when you're around guys who want to talk up their sexual conquests and you find yourself with no story to tell or no way to relate. That's fine, you make choices for yourself not them. I said what you're saying before I ever experienced any intimacy and I still say it today. Quality over quantity.

18 is young, but you seem to have already learned an important lesson, at least in my eyes. As cynical and antisocial as one can be in adolescence -- and I'm not saying you are I just think of myself at 18 -- you never know the potential for platonic or romantic love. Be patient and express yourself honestly, whatever follows is sure to be true.

 

Fact is girls go out for one night stands too. Guess what guys, girls like sex.
That being said we can quit with all the stupid "guys are douchebags, girls are being used and girls are sluts guys are playas" double standards, people like sex, and some people like casual sex.

I'm with you OP, I've never had a ONS, and would rather have a more personal relationship with a girl before we do the hibbity dibbity. That just makes us different, I don't see how that could come off as gay.

 

Nothing wrong wish casual sex. As a girl, it may surprise some of you to learn I thoroughly enjoy it, as do many of my fellow females.

Though it's just not for some people. As long as nothing to do with repressed religious guilt, I wouldn't worry.

 

Don't mean your "Gay", just means you go against popular opinion. Aint nothin wrong with it tho, just means you being yourself.

and as far as the confusion and not knowing what to do, just be patient and honest. Eventually some girl will step up to the plate and know the truth about how you feel. This will only be because you let her know. This girl will likely also end up being a girl you end up in a relationship with... and then you can have sex with her all you want and it will MEAN something

 

this.

if you are having a one night stand.... ITS CAUSE SHE WANTS TO.

forget about u using her... what if she is using you?


who cares. life is to short to wonder.


you can have a good time on a mutual fuck or you can worry about her emotions....


we were ment to have sex all the time man. to mate and flourish. it is completley natural and you should not go against your natural feelings.

get drunk so you can forget about these girly emotions.


ever get blue balls??????
FUCK MAN

FUCK THAT PUSSY

 

hell yea thats wats up lol, during a "dry spell" a one night stand is "wet weather"