Ok, so just follow me here, and if by the end what im asking makes sense, then answer as best as you can. This may make you step out of the box or away from yourself for a little bit to get what I'm getting at. Its for a psychology paper so if you dont really feel the question no need to make something up, just pass along. Anywho, question: For you guys (specifically ones who are good with ladies): If you were to be hanging out with a girl, any girl really as long as they are single, and you could be anywhere from friends, to almost new aquantences, but you are hanging out alone, and both single. What are the chances that if you make a move on them, really anything, for example, you try to kiss them, whatever; that they will either: accept it willingly, or deny the advance. If it is denied what is the mostly likely thing they will do? Be upset, embarassed, not care... etc. For the girls: Pretty much just pretend you are the girl in that situation, and a guy; the openess in the question being purposley vague, but they make a move on you. What are the chances you will accept it, and why? Why wouldnt you accept? -If you got here and are still confused, thanks for giving it a shot, but if you see what I'm asking, answer as you feel fit, and theres no need to dig for the underlying meaning behind the rejection/acception aspect of it, thats my part, just answer what its asking, if you do.
Shit, bro....it all depends. I'd make sure she has SOME interest in you. Unless you both are mad horny..... But I wouldn't take the risk and look like an asshole. Naw mean?
Okay i think i understand the question... so ima give it a shot lmao.. It truthfully depends on how the date is going.. If i am getting a good vibe from her and were both just having a good time I would give her a lil soft kiss on the cheek near the lip ( just to let her know im feelin her and having a good time). If she respond with a smile or any type of response that shows further interest that i would more than likely try and give her another kiss somehwere before the Date was finished. If she denied the kiss, Then i would honestly respect her wishes. I wouldnt feel embarrassed at all. Maybe a lil upset with myself for reading her the wrong way prior to the advancement. But, by no means neccessary, would i feel embarrassed. I hope that answer is good enough for you.. if not well honestly it wouldnt bother me BTW i am not single and i love my girl with all my heart and soul. This question was answered under the pretence of "IF" i was single.
If I were with a older, not old but milf status and if I was in this situation I would make the move being that I notice at least some interest just a nip of interest, lay a hand on her, carress or kiss. The chances you would accept would be there, older chick, milf status would accept on a no real relationship fuck buddy status relationship.
I tend to never make a move unless I get some kind of signal or I am SURE that she feels the same way. I have a tendency to get really lucky with girls. I am not a "player" or "babe magnet", in fact I am pretty shy around new girls, but I have gotten a significantly greater amount of poontang than most of my friends. The situation you describe above has only happened to me once and we hooked up because we both just made a move. This girl and I have been good friends for a while, but I had always fantasized about doing things with her. One day we were watching a movie in my room and I just made a move to hold her hand. 20 mins later we were fucking. It turns out she had been fantasizing about hooking up with me for a while too. Kinda lucky on my part. If I were you I'd just go for it. If you do get rejected, you'll feel very foolish for a while and it might feel pretty awkward but its nothing an "I'm sorry for making things awkward between us, can we still be friends?" can't fix.
Now, let me preface what i'm about to say. This assumes things are going fairly well, she's a cool person, and someone i'd like to see again. i'm pretty good at reading people, and i guess "playing the game." I know when a girl is testing me, and i all but refuse to give her the answer she expects. The best way i can describe it is to treat her like your bratty little sister. bust on her insecurities, but in a good-natured, funny way. In no way am i ever an asshole. slaps on the arm are magic. that's her way of telling you "stop but don't stop." The reason for this is most guys, especially with the good-looking girls, guys just shower them with compliments, buy them things, let them make all the decisions, etc. in an effort to make them happy. i typically do none of those things on a first date. i give compliments, let them make decisions, and buy things for them, but i do it on my terms, because i want to, not because i feel like i should. that said, here's how i know if it's a good time to move in for a kiss. whether your modus operandi is like mine or not, this works. I know cause a. it's never failed me once, and b. i've shared this technique with friends of mine that do all the things i don't, and it works for them. It's called the Kiss Test. When you feel like it's a good time to kiss her, I'll make a comment about how her hair looks great/soft/whatever, and i reach out and touch it. i continue to caress her hair for a few seconds (do NOT pet her like a cat). If she's into it, doesn't pull away or awkwardly change the subject, i know she's ready to be kissed. I've never once gotten the back away or the head turn when i've moved in after the kiss test. it's pure gold. Give it a go, let me know how it works out.
All depends on the girl..First I just try to do something small to see how they feel.Then go from there TIGER!
IMHO if a girl's into you enough to reciprocate physical intimacy you'll definitely have been sent the message in one form or another before you attempt anything. Some women play at being coy or hard to get but "generally" speaking women are always communicating but it's up to the man to figure out what they're saying. If you become fluent in their body language you'll probably know when the time is right 100% of the time. I used to have awkward moments with women trying to figure out when the right time was going to be to "make the move," but all of that became unnecessary when I became more patient, listened, and waited. If she’s into you she’ll make it known irregardless of the setting. Peace.
if i'm physically attracted to the guy and i'm horny, i'll accept 100% of the time. i would only turn someone down if the friendship was really important to me, i had feelings for someone else, or i wasn't attracted to him.
well i will share a story with you of my own. i went to a party across from my house and i saw a chick there and i liked her from the start, i made sure that i stood across from her cuz i notice that when you try to be near the person they are farther away when trying to talk to them. so eye contact is always good. we start talking more than anyone else, and the booze was flowing and shit, and i think there was some greens involved i dont remember, but she was all into me and i was into her cuz she seemed cool. not a great looker or nothing but good outgoing type person. so we go the whole night and we are like nudging each other a lot and she grabbed me on the upper arm a few times. and chicks are always on my muscles and shit cuz they are nice and toned and usually i take that as they are attracted to me. so i wait it out some more till some people leave and we go in the back yard and we start a fire in the pit that i dug a few months before for our 6-6-06 kegger. so then the fire is nice and warm and she is all snuggly and shit so i make my move. just some making out but it was good. she was 100% for that. i know she was into a few other dudes there too so im sure she was just as horny as i was. but check this... same chick about a week later, i go to my sellers house and we start drinking and his girl gets home from shopping with this chick and they start drinking and we are still cool with each other. so we get reall drunk again and we are watching a movie. and this is a thursday so i had to work in the morning. but i didnt give a shit cuz if im gettin some then ill just keep it up and go to work tired. so its late and we are watching the original version of the hitcher. by the time the movie was over we were on the floor in the living room with every one else asleep and im all up on her tits and about to move the action downward when she goes and stops me from un-buckling her belt. im like well shit. and then ill give you something to think about. when you get shut out like that, do you feel like continuing the foreplay or do you just stop cuz thats like a new awkward thing to deal with and you dont wanna do shit if nothing is gonna happen.
depends on how i interperted the girl and how she presented herself... to bent to go into further detail.
if you think you guys are getting close (not just you) then i think it would be alright to put your arm around her and shit. maybe joke around bout her being your new gf. you know what i mean? and idk. i say thats good for day one. try to make plans for next time or some shit. and idk from there just try to get closer and closer. and if she wants you, and you think the time is right, then kiss her.
Just go for it dude, and if she doesn't want any of it, just apologise and say it was too fast, then just try to enjoy the rest of the night.
"now rape is horrible. i'm in no way advocating rape. it's heinous. no means no, is a completely different story. no means work the neck, work the nipples, try back in 5 minutes. I'm not saying that's what we should teach our kids. 'boy, she's gonna block your hand 4 or 5 times AT LEAST. daddy didn't raise no quitter! get in there! Be sure to wear a rubber!'" --Daniel Tosh rotten, I'd be VERY careful making jokes about her being your new GF. I avoid sharing my feelings at all costs until i'm fairly sure i don't have a complete whackjob on my hands. that's impossible to tell in one night. Even if she tells me how much she likes me, i'll say, "i like me too." or "of course you do, i'm badass!" and then i'll pose in badass mode or something. anything to avoid saying "i like you too." every little scrap you give her plays a part in getting yourself a stage 5 clinger. Now don't read this and think i'm some huge asshole. I treat any woman i'm with VERY well. I'm just wary of getting into relationships before i'm sure i want to be in one. I'm telling you, KISS TEST! that shit WORKS!
If we had interests in each other, which we probably did, becausae were both alone haha i would prolly start mackin on her
yeah man. you just have to be able to read the other persons body language. I mean, well, i dont know how old you are, and i dont know how old i was when i got confident with girls...but you should be able to know whether or not a girl, or guy, wants to do stuff with you. If you guys are alone, and just hanging out...and you might not talk much....thats a classic sign that the person you are with wants to do somethin. like kiss...or whatever you kids do nowadays. lol. jk. seriously, if they are their with you, alone...that means something. if you guys have a lot of moments where no one talks, but you both seem to still want to be together, then thats just a classic example of, you need to hurry up and make a move, cuz that kills time. haha. and, when you kiss a girl, or guy, they automatically feel more comfertable around you. The kiss seriously breaks uncomfy moments.
I'm gonna try to be as serious as I can...even though i'm pretty faded. Honestly, I believe my chances are 50/50. I'm not saying that because of looks, skills, or anything in that fashion. I'm saying it because we are humans. We all have different emotions, feelings, and natural temptations. I would love for her to at least go with it because life is life, you live once. Plus, my rule in life is "Don't ask questions when cool shit happens." But if I react and she denies it...I'm hoping they wouldn't slap me or anything like that, but in a sense there would be a physical backing off from the action, and also, she has to deny the person which cause a slight inner sadness with her.
If they made an advance on me, i would def repel it esp if they were an acqaintance. but even a friend. If you want even the oppurtunity to make an advance on my youve got to ask me out.