I feel as if he doesn't want to see me succeed. He always says dumb stuff trying to be funny. For example, he thinks I'm going to fuck up at basic training,going to cry, etc. I asked my mom to watch me swear in before I ship off, & he says it's a waste of time, there's no need for that. He always takes my cigarettes/lighters. Talks to my mother like she's below him. Has multiple ex-wives & kids. Makes me look dumb in front of his friends. & every night/morning I hear him MOANING really loud, like ew wtf dude? The list goes on & on. What should I do? & why is he so rude..? Please help. Thanks in advance.
Tell him to fuck off! Never let anyone speak down to you. Your 25years old mate! Sent from my SM-T210 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Shame on your mum then for letting him treat you like that. Best of luck in your new career Sent from my SM-T210 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
I didn't like both of my stepfathers, either. Hell .. I like my biological dad even less. There's no getting away from it. You just have to move out, then move on with life. The way to get your parents to shut up is to become financially independent, and if you want them to never talk to you again - then become financially successful.
Make people like him the basis of your success... Things like this give you incentive to become who u need to become so u can come back and help your mum see sense... Be the man your mum needs
sounds like a shitty situation. good thing you'll be out soon. just remember when you're gone.....he's still banging your mom
Just so you know it goes both ways. I married my step son's mother when he was 2 years old. I adopted him so we would all have the same name and to show commitment to my wife and my family and to keep the dead beat sperm donor away from us permanently. I treated my son as my own, raised as my own and I was the one treated like shit. I accept responsibility for raising my kids but sometimes people are just fuck ups in life and my son is one of them. I have an 18 year old daughter that is the polar opposite of her 1/2 brother and has turned out really well in the same house and circumstances. I moved on with my life but I'm constantly haunted by my son and his pitiful life. He has 3 kids and treats them all like shit, he lies constantly about everything, he's in big time debt and is about to get a divorce but can't afford it,I mean any part of it, The lawyers or even moving out. I offered to pay for his school one vocational class at a time so he could have a career (regular college is out of the question even though I saved the money for it already as he only made it to the 7th grade before he dropped out). Instead he signs up for Phoenix online for a associates of liberal arts degree but told me he took criminal science for his work but posted the Ass of LA certificate on Facebook. $30k he wanted me to pay after the fact with no receipts and no transcript. Oddly enough he dreams I abused him when he has abused himself his entire life. He has cost me thousands in legal fees and thankfully he was never caught selling drugs out of house before he ran off but it was a blessing when he left at 16 although at the time it was horrifying. We were told there was nothing we could do legally, if he ran away it was just too bad. Later on I found out it was the best thing that could have happened. Now he tries to treat me like I'm a peer and not his father, he calls me by my first name which I find pretty rude. He has brought loaded firearms into my house without my consent and now appears to be a real threat since the signs of I'm as broke and in debt as I can get and oh hey looks like you guys have plenty of money...... Sometimes the Story goes both ways folks. I hear the shit end of my son's stories about his childhood and it sounds like he was raised in a dungeon.
To make the story a little more clear. My wife have been married for 20 years both in our first and only marriages (she obviously had a child out of wedlock). My son grew up in a nice home in a nice neighborhood, I've never been to jail and the only times we have had encounters with the law was when they came to see about my son a couple of times. No drinking and no illegal drugs (since we both smoke medically and legally), no abuse, no fighting I mean plain vanilla middle class, no money problems (I retired at 50 last year). Now I'm living the dream and thank god most of the nightmare is gone or at the very least it watching from the sidelines.
Wafdof makes a really good point; it goes both ways. Somebody mentioned you were 25 OP; i don't know if that is true, but if it is, this guy is doing you more of a favor than you know.
I say bang him out....I had to with my "step dad" never looked back fuck em. Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum mobile app
I'm not sure I understand the purpose of this thread. You're asking for help over something that is going to be ended this weekend. You leave on Sunday. Problem solved. What else are you wanting? I'm sorry he treated you like that. The fact (according to you) he has been married multiple times is a testament to his failure in life. My mother always said, "The opinions of worthless people are worthless." Consider the source and move on. He is putting you down to make himself feel better about HIS life. Your mother should have been smart enough to realize he was bad news when he told her how many marriages he failed at. He is a loser. If you're going into basic training that means you are an adult. So time to start dealing with problems the adult way. It was your mother's decision to marry him. That's her life. You can have a relationship with her and shut him out. If you're so worried about his opinion (which is a waste of time in my opinion) then prove him wrong. Show him, despite his constant bullying and verbal abuse, how successful you can be. Although you have nothing to prove. It's your life. How you live it is your business. Fuck what others think. Build your life without him in it. That's the best way to show him how useless and inconsequential he is. That's the kind of revenge you need. Being more than he can ever be. Live your life, boo-boo. He ain't no thang.
I would probably have broken his legs by now Jk. Hes just an ass hole. Sent from my SM-G900V using Grasscity Forum mobile app