i cant get over it

I guess you just come to the realization that it's over. Lots of times you replay the awesome moments and you remember the awesome feelings. That is really counter productive towards moving on.

I learned on Oprah that what we are really mourning whenever we lose someone or something happens is the loss of the dream.

You are mourning all if the things that didn't happen. Your brain was thinking that this and this was gonna happen and then boom! Now you have to sort through all of those hopes and realize that they are not ever going to happen. It's heartbreaking to think, we are never going to laugh together again. We are never going to make love again. We are never going to do whatever again.

It takes a while to get over someone you love. It took me two years to fully get over my first girlfriend. She was amazing. Then one day I woke up and realized that the girl I loved didn't exist anymore. She had changed. I had changed. Those days of being 18 and living young and wild and free were over and done with.

Then I was set free.

Same with another guy I was super into. I realized that in his mind, I was no longer an option. Even though I feelings we're strong and I cared about him deeply, he already made up in his head that we could never be together.

So I was like welp, time to move on to a man who can see a future with me.

I guess I just try and rationalize everything.

It also helps to let all of your feelings out. Ive never been the type to hold in feelings and it really helps to tell someone, I thought that you loved me and for them to say, I did or I do or I don't or whatever just so you don't replay those questions in your head.

 

That complicates everything so much more. Thats when you see what a piece of shit he really is and you say, fuck you. You left me when I needed you most, now fuck you.

I'm sure you're just thinking about how much you love him but he's not worth your love.

The baby does not deserve all that stress.

I was horribly depressed and had bad anxiety before I got pregnant with my son. I eventually got on anti anxiety pills which worked great but I had to get off once I found out I was pregnant. I got upset because I didnt know how to cope without them. Then I decided with the help of no one else to start seeing life in a different way. I went to a therapist and learned some techniques for dealing with stress.

I wanted to be happy because I couldn't stand the thought of my baby being developed inside of me while I was feeling all of that negativity. I didn't want my son getting those negative vibes so I changed my whole mindset.

In that sense my son changed and saved my life. Think of your baby and how he or she needs his mama to be strong. You're all that baby has right now. He or she is apart of you in a way that almost makes me want to tear up right now thinking about. It's such an awesome thing to be pregnant and to know that you're building a life.

That's what you think about. Being happy and healthy for you and the little peanut. Whatever you feel, peanut feels.

 

I know. As much as you want to be happy, you have to go through the bad to get there. You will be so much stronger from this. Until then, take it day by day or hour by hour. Whatever you need to do.

I am a single mom. It sucks really bad but no one can tell me that I'm not a woman who takes care of her shit.

No one can tell me that I don't have my shit together. My son doesn't have a care in the world. He has everything he needs and he's happy. In my eyes, I am pretty much superwoman.

Hopefully you will feel this way one day.

 

We have already been through this with OP in another thread which I forgot about until now.

Anyway, she doesn't want an abortion.