well my girlfriend isnt all that sexually wild, she was raped early in life and just isnt really that sexual of a person. we have steady sex, but nothing crazy, and i would have never thugh shed be down for what im about to tell you, Ive always asked her for anal sex and shed always say something along the lines of yuck thats gross etc., but anyways i was fingering her yesterday and just randmly said "baby let me fuck you in the ass, and film it." and too my crazy suprise she said yes. literally at that moment my dreams came true and then i tried to put it in, fingered it a lil lots of lube and i for the fucking life of me could not get it in that hole. shes very tiny around 95 lbs and her butthole is so tight i can barely get a pinky in, and no matter what we did we could not get my cock in, and after awhile of trying she said it hurt, and my dreams died right there. I blew it. That is all
As man I feel so awful for you. Keep your head up and while she's sleeping slip a butt plug in there to help loosen her up. Don't give up the fight
haha i know. there was alot of lube...but im afraid that if just tryin to get in there hurt, shes prolly not gunna want to try it again. oh well, it made my day that i atleast got to try, and shes opening up more sexually.
My advice....One day (session) at a time. Start with little things/toys inside her. No pressure at all. You should have low to no expectations that it will end with you; the real thing. Maybe it's just a "pencil" of a toy today, tomorrow's another day.
Do it in the shower! That might work better, it did for.. someone I know.. Use a lot of lube too even though you'll be all wet. Trust me
I wouldn't worry man you'll get another opportunity. Take your time finger her asshole get some toys, lube is good glad you had that. But you didn't blow it she's trusts you
You gotta get those butt beads or butt plugs and leave it in her ass for a bit. USE A LOT OF MOTHAFUCKIN LUBE
Will I let you in on a little secret? It wouldn't go in because........THAT'S NOT WHAT ASSHOLES ARE MADE FOR!!!! Seriously does the fact that it wouldn't go in even with lots of lube and lots of effort not irrevocably prove that?! It's an exit hole only as far as I'm concerned
Patience my man, patience. One step at a time. Your lucky she even said yes, I've never been given that wonderful opportunity.
Lick all around her anus and her hole and she'll open like a flower opens to the sun. You shouldn't need lube when she is truly ready to receive.
I've gone backdoor a couple times. Once I was just really drunk and was having sex with this total babe doggy style. I started to thumb her butthole and to my delight she asked "will you stick it in my ass?" God I love surprises like that
If she ever decides to try this again you need to do some things to help her out. If she's not opposed to alcohol consumption try getting her a little tipsy before you get started. This will help her to relax. Plus it will lower some of the inhibitions and anxiety that's part and parcel with being a rape survivor. I'm really really sorry she had to go through that. It's a horrible act to do to another human being. It just breaks my heart. Next, you need to start out small. Get some anal toys. Start with something small and then increase the circumference when she relaxes and is comfortable with the smaller toy. Go slow, use lots of lube. The key to anal sex for the receiver is to push out as penetration occurs. Like pushing when you take a dump. This sounds gross but it helps to relax the sphincter and open up. Be aware of your partner. Don't get carried away. When she says stop then stop. Anal sex can be very enjoyable if done right. The last final and most important part of anal sex is to make sure her bowels are free of fecal matter. An enema should take care of this. Don't attempt this if she is constipated (very common female issue) or needs to take a dump. One last thing. If you have a larger penis this might not be something you can do together. Especially with her being so small. You can cause damage to her anal cavity. There have been cases where surgery is needed to repair the damage. Be very careful. Sorry for being so graphic.
Wow, there's some good and some really bad information in this thread... First off: anal can be really nice, but it is just not something that you can rush into. It sounds like you two have a good relationship because she's willing to trust you, and being comfortable and trusting in your partner is a big first step. But starting with your pinky and then rushing to cock is too much, too soon. I cannot stress enough that slow progress and LOTS of lube. Your colon does not produce any lubrication, so you MUST USE LUBE. Help her figure out what feels good. Rimming, touch, and toys (uh, NOT while she's sleeping though -- I know, I know, that whole consent thing is SUCH a fucking hassle) are all really good things to begin with before progressing to penetration. If you're grossed out by the idea of putting your tongue on her ass, get some dental dams or non-porous plastic wrap (the type that is not suitable for microwaving), put some lube on her sphincter (this helps to transfer sensation), and place the barrier down. Go sloooooooooow. It can be difficult to get used to the sensation of a foreign object in one's butt, and you're not going to be able to go at it like a porn star anytime soon -- if ever. Even if you do manage penetration, she may not be able to tolerate any thrusting. If it hurts at all, stop immediately. Do NOT use any kind of numbing lubes (like Anal-Ease), because these will prevent her from knowing that something is wrong via pain. Good luck in your hunt for chocolate starfish, and Godspeed.