OK so whats the fuck'n deal with this.i know mostly dudes willl reply as i think the population of this site are probly generaly male but any input from any ladies passing through would be greatly appreciated im just try'n to figure my night last night so i guess i better start from the begining i work and at work theres this girl shes 22 with a 4 year old son (cute kid) lives in a very small low income appartment all the rooms face each other, with community yard in the middle so pretty much everyone can see and hear everyone else business anyway thats just some background on the location i was at. now me and this girl flirt and get along really really well at work she put her number in my phone so i'm think'n she's feel'n the same way as me ask me to hang out make'n it out to be just her and her friend so i'm think'n cool no random dudes i wont know becuase as me being a man i would just rather hang with pretty girls then some dude's who i cant even call friends but of course it just happens some of her neighbors are both guys, oh and she tells me that i should come through and check out her friend jen so i say sure in my head think'n she's around the same age as us 20-25 but nope she's 35 and has a few miss'n teeth and black spots at the tops of the her main front ones fuck'n gross if its one thing i cant get past its the fuck'd grill i mean i can dig on and older attractive chick no propblem at all but when the teeth are taken out of the equation and add some blackness i think i threw up a little in my mouth but wait this is not the worst part of the night the girl i want is the girl i work with why is she flirting with me at work and then last night openly diccusing in front of the other guest how i should get with her friend i mean what am i supposed to say everybodys drinking the place is one fuck'n room with a 4 year old runn'n around and there she is and some neighbor who i guess is her man but who knows becuase she told me she didnt have a man,encouraging me to drink more so i fuck this jen chick i mean what am i supposed to say the black toothed chick is right next to me and ther asking my opinion on her, should i just have mean a asshole and stay real with my self and tell them look i want you not her your friend who has fuck'n black pots on her teeth and missing some too plus shes a haggard look'n 35 becuase of the dope shes smoked she could possibly have hepatitis i mean what the fuck ? well i didnt say anything just kinda nodded and smile they propbly think im fucking weird but what ever the night totally trip'd me out as i've been smok'n all day and then head over there and have a few drinks and i dont drink anymore because i just cant stay on point all i need is another dui i thought i was going to kick it with this pretty chick from work only to have her try to st me up with a real nasty look'n chick i honestly feel disrespected because you dont have to be drop fuck'n dead gorguese but please have all your teeth and atleast have them in decent condition i just wanna know why a chick would do this and isnt it kind of fuck'n rude to put people on the spot like that i mean i could have flashed off and told them how fuck'n nasty that be for me to fuck her and i mean if i was in the same mentality as i was about 2 or 3 years ago i'd pop off at the mouth real quick and tell them exactly what i'd thought but i work with this girl and want to stay cool with her and not offend anyone. as i'm gett'n older i guess i'm becoming more considerate of others feelings . i guess i'll have to be straight with her about what i think i'm just try'n find the right words i already know i'm gonna have to ask her why she was try'n to get me laid by her skeezer friend when i really want her i mean i guess she thinks dudes will stick their dicks in anything but not this dude so after all this typing (my longest post ever) the question is why would a chick act so into you and then pull some shit like this?(i know how some love to play games) and how exactly can i tell her that her friend just looks awful?
sounds like some pressure. i wouldnt be comfortable either. i can picture the entire thing in my head and i wouldnt be happy either. i would just talk to the chick at work when you see her again and say hey i didnt want to say anything but i just didnt want her to be upset that i am not interested. say that you like her more cuz you have already started a good connection with her and that you would like to have continued that. but the other girl is not really in your age range nor do you know if you want to just jump into anything with her. and say that the sex isnt that important to you, its good and a must, but not important and what you really want is someone who you can be with. and someone like her doesnt really fit the bill. for one the age and the fact that she is kinda raggity looking. but dont get me wrong. she is a nice woman and all and i could easily be friends with her but just not really my dating material. if she says that she just wanted to fuck, then be like, well im not really the kind of guy that just fucks around like that especially with chicks that i dont know as well as i should.
+ rep thanks yup i WAS very uncomfortable it was like a bad movie ya know the kind that you just cringe at i appreciate the advice as its helpful to know how others can understand how i feel about situations like that hopefully all goes well on monday if not i know theres plenty of bueatiful women out there, think'n i'm have to go back to school to meet some more on my level .
The chick at worked prolly flirted with you to get you over there (and it worked) so she can hook you up with her busted friend! Just tell the girl at work you do not like her friend, and if she has any other more hotter friends, or be like I got my eyes on you!
yup i need to ask her about her other friends for sure and you can bet i got the fuck out of there pretty quick burt a lil rubber unitentionaly on the way out, the girl from work actually called me to ask if i was angry i wanted to tell her off right then but i was still drunk and very stoned so i held my tongue no more drink'n for me cuz i dont really trust my self when i get drunk and drink'n and driving i cant fuck with no more so i guess i have to stick with maryjane see'n how she always does me right
This makes me think that the 35-year-old needed someone and your coworker decided you and that lady might be nice together (LOL). Basically she made things really obvious and weird so that you would jump on her friend if you wanted to without you (or her) having to put in much effort (your coworker thought she was speeding up the process of getting her friend laid by being like "Hey Herb, you should TOTALLY have sex with my friend over here!") but she did this with no regard to how you felt about it and fed you to the sharks, which means she doesn't give two shits about you and probably won't ever get with you (sorry). Just say, "I don't want to hook up with your friend and it created an awkward situation that you kept saying we should since I didn't want to offend her." If she asks why you don't want her friend... ask why she cares so much, lol.
From a girls point of view. Girls test you to see how low you go. She knows she's hotter and better than her friend but she wants that comparison so that she feels good about herself. Once again she gets the guy and her friend gets the boot. Girls are just like guys. Seeing how much attention they can get from guys. The more guys the better she feels. Just tell her that "you know damn well that I'm diggin' you more than anything, so what's up? Stop playing this game." Just be forward with her and go after what you want. She'll be more than willing. Don't worry. She already knows. That's why she flirts back.
[quote name='DancingVinodini']From a girls point of view. Girls test you to see how low you go. She knows she's hotter and better than her friend but she wants that comparison so that she feels good about herself. Once again she gets the guy and her friend gets the boot. Girls are just like guys. Seeing how much attention they can get from guys. The more guys the better she feels. Just tell her that "you know damn well that I'm diggin' you more than anything, so what's up? Stop playing this game." Just be forward with her and go after what you want. She'll be more than willing. Don't worry. She already knows. That's why she flirts back.[/QUOTE yup i was kind of think'n the same thing like she's gotta be fuck'n with me right? oh well we shall see . i mean i know some ladies are heavy into play'n games but that whole night was just really not my scene i mean the 4 year old wasnt put to bed untill 10 or 11 kept on runn'n around see'n all this shit people drink'n act'n fuck'n foolish i mean i was uncompfortable with that alone .fuck'n drink'n in front of seedlings is not my shit, i was all down for hang'n out real chill smoke a few and calm the fuck out i mean she does have a child but she a young 22 and obviously isnt as partied out as i am. i'm young as well 23 but man i've lived pretty fast and have been there done enough partys(and drugs) to know how they most likely will end . with her having a kid i thought she'd be more down to keep it calm guess i was wrong as i ussually am about girls but thats a whole nother lil sob story on its own. oh wells i'm say it straight to her and ask her what the fucks up in so many words but then maybe that night altered my opinion of her in way i wont be able to get past. i dont know , maybe i just need to keep look'n.
I probably would have said something, because that just sounded retarded. I would have said I'd gotten the wrong idea or something and had to go.
Seriously man just ignore her for a while, then a while longer and then if you really feel like you must; talk to her.
i talked to her today i now believe that the above statement nailed what she was doing down completly even though she claimes it was nothing like that , but then why would she admit to play'n that game she's just not the type to admit that shit but it was obvious she's now right back to flirting with me she told me the guy at the party is gay and how he said something like hey your friend's pretty hot and i bet he thinks were together (which i did because of how she was acting with him) so whatever i believe she was play'n some dumb fuck'n game to see how low i would go with a random chick because the gay dude the dude i didnt know was gay at the time kept try'n to get me to fuck her grimey friend, i bet she put him up to it but whatever still not completly sure about this one think'n i'll just have to see how it plays out , she is cool as fuck but has her share of problems but hen who the fuck doesn't ya know thanks for all the replies/ advice i found it helpful as i keep finding that us blades seem to think on the same wavelengths so i'ma call this thread over till the next fucked up night good, luck out there i think were all gonna need it
