how do I find the posts that I have made without finding my username in a topic and clicking on it and picking that option isnt there a way to see this stuff from my user cp?
Quick Links > Your Profile > Statistics Unless you've changed your subscription options to "do not subscribe" all of the threads you've posted in will be listed in your subscribed threads as well, which can be found in your user cp...
Yes... look at your statistics on your profile, has all posts/threads unless they have been completely deleted