so I met this guy at school when I went in for tutoring. we talked a little bit about how it's hard to find people our age (I'm 23 and he's 27) in our town who don't have kids. I gave him my number thinking maybe we could strike up a friendship, but it's not going that way. I hardly know him. The two times we've met up he doesn't ever say much. I'm not sure about what sort of person he is, but I'm already on guard merely by the fact that he is in the army. (my ex was in the army and it was a very bad relationship and quite honestly out of that two year relationship, I only met one person actually enlisted in the army that I didn't totally clash with.) I've made it very clear that I don't want a boyfriend or anything close to it right now, yet when I talk to him, he always works in hints about what he wants in a relationship. Anytime I try to friendly text him and see how things are, he tries to get me to come to his house to watch a movie. I don't really know this guy. From all indicators that I've gotten from him, he doesn't want to be just friends. Those two factors makes me very very hesitant to want to go to his house alone. How do I kindly tell him that I don't know or trust him enough to be alone with him? How do I get him to stop dropping hints about relationships? How do I get him to say something other than "I should do a deployment soon so I don't have to worry about leaving a girlfriend behind" and "you should come over, I have a flat screen HDTV"?