Alright heres the skoop. Im 19 in a local community college, possibly going away next year. Parents are divorced, i move in between the two. Anyways, i was wondering what may be a good way to bring on the topic of marijuana and notify them that i smoke it, though rather rarily. 1-2 times a week on average, sometimes 2-3 weeks between smoking. They know I don't like alcohol. I know many say its a bad idea to bring it up, but i hate the feeling of having to live part of my life in secret, it kinda kills me. So any help is appriceated regarding this matter.
It really depends on your parents my parents were ex hippies so in 9th grade when they found out they didn't really care.
I had this same problem for a little, but my mom is very liberal minded, and I just told her all the fact on buddah. She came around, and when she found out I toked, she was straight with it.
as magic said depends on the parentals in question really, my mother knows my father doesnt. My mother found out because she cleaned my room while i was abroad (living - took a year out after school) when i came back my bongs/books were gone, and she used to say little remarks every so often, she knew me to be mature though and 1 day when she passed a comment i asked if thats how she really felt about it, if she had tried it, told her i did it openly, but that i wasnt high 24/7 still had a job etc, her main argument against it was that its a gateway drug - my response was that everything and anything is a gateway drug, sour sweets lead onto sourer sweets till u find yourself comparing which are the sourest sweets in the world, then to how would weed be worse than alcohol, when on alcohol i suffer from blackouts/change in mood be it elation or anger, while on weed i varied between happiness (with control over my actual thoughts unlike alcohol, to maybe being a bit quieter and analysing situations more) This isnt really a line of conversation you can plan out, youll need to feel it as its actually happening i think. What clinched it for me was that after a 20 minute conversation with her i asked her if she had realised the whole time that i was infact stoned right then and there, of course she didnt, and i wont say conceded, but had no line of argument to follow and left it with a its your life you can do what u want with it (though not in that parental im not angry im dissapointed way) i think she could see that i had read alot and studied alot about the drug understood its uses, and effects, and could control them. Now having said this i am typically not some1 u can pick out as being on a drug, ive met and talked to my parents on acid,mushrooms,coke and extacy without them noticing a thing, so i wouldnt recommend being stoned when u actually do this thats up to u, if u dont feel comfortable dont do it but throw it in anyway if the conversation goes well. What exactly are you hopin to achieve from this though, do u live at home and want your parents to be cool with u smoking at home, if so i wouldnt do it for that reason, in fact i still dont smoke fags when im at home (be it any length of time) out of respect for my parents, likewise they knew i was drinking when i was 15, but i didnt do it infront of them, didnt get in trouble and didnt flaunt it. These are all things that'll stand to your character, i find once parents realise your an independent adult they'll have no major problems with the majority of things you do, good luck with this post back if youve any questions.
as a reply to reaper, very interesting points. My main goal of it is to show i only have and only will ever to marijuana, i have no intention of trying anything else. I just want to be open about it, and maybe ocasionaly smoke outside at like midnight without worrying about getting caught. Ive read a lot about it to, including statistics/study's and feel confident its a much healthier vice/habit than other things people do. Really i just want to inform them so I don't have to hide it and feel like my whole life I have to hide it from those closest to me...
if u dont plan on trying to smoke at home then weed (pardon the pun ) that in aswell, depending on how they react; "now i know you dont particularly condone the use of marijuana, and i can respect that, my goal isnt to get you smoking with me but to include you in the changes of my life, weed is something i like, and i wont disrespect you or your thoughts by smoking at home - if your not ok with it, but i wanted to let you know what was happening in my life and maybe shed some light on why i might be dissapearing some evenings incase you think im on crack or out getting drunk, alcohol isnt something that tempts my, every1 has their own personal vices and yearnings, weed is mine, now the fact that the plant is illegal shouldnt matter but facts do, not 1 person has died from the sole use of marijuana, i use a vaporizer to prevent extensive damage to my lungs, cancer cells in rats showed no signs of increased vigour once marijuana was introduced to them and in some cases it even slowed down and reversed the cancer cells, and at the end of the day its a herb, like the lavender you use in the bathroom to get rid of dads early morning dump smells, or the mint u put on the lamb you serve us for sunday dinner. etc etc, merely a thought process i extended in my head probably too far, like i said u cant really plan this out just has to kind of come (maybe im lucky in the fact, that it does in fact come for me, every1 is different )