it's not as simple as people think it is. i've tried for years and it seems like the harder i try to not care, the more i care. it's the most bs thing and i really can't take it too much longer. it's holding me back from living my life. im 19 years old and i've only been to 1 party. most people my age have been to hundreds of parties, having what seems to be the best times of their life. i don't want to be 40 years old and looking back on my life saying that all i did was smoke weed and hide from the rest of the world. but i have no choice. when i'm around people i freeze, i start to worry about what they think of me. i constantly think they are making fun of me, when in reality i'm sure they aren't. but i can't convince my self that they aren't. i know someone out there has experienced what i am now. all im looking for is some advice. how did you get past it? how did you learn to not give a shit
Might want to see a therapist for cognitive behavioural therapy. You have anxiety issues. You need to recognize when your thoughts aren't rational. Also, little by little, expose yourself to the world. Part of overcoming the fear is to take risks, little by little. It is hard to overcome at first, because you are so set in your ways. Hard work and motivation is key.
Just keep exposing yourself to it and it will stop affecting you as much. You're going to have some sort of anxiety no matter how little you care but you'll realize it's not the end of the world if you just keep trying. You're only 19 and you're worrying about what will happen when you're 40. Even if people are making fun of you, which is rarely the case, who gives a shit? Let them do whatever they want and you do whatever you want.
Go get prescribed something that rhymes with Fanax and you won't give a shit about what people think.
i dont know, its always been easy for me not to care what people think of me. but i know what people will do based on my actions so i act accordingly to benefit myself
What I did was this.. Everytime I felt nervous around someone I tried to imagine them completely naked. Not in a sexual manner. Anyways, it worked for me...
I only care about what people say behind my back. If they have enough guts to say it to my face then I'm good
It's true. Everyone is talking about you, when you walk by the group of people who are laughing, They're laughing at you. Everyone notices how weird you walk and how weird you look, they also notice a slight smell when you walk by. Your zipper is always down, you have something on your face and your clothes don't match. Edit: Do you suffer from pit stains?
It's really easy. Once you do life is so much better. Just look at Charlie Sheen he is the definition of not caring right now.
i have this problem as well..im going to a party tonight..and at first i decline but i said fuck it i need to live my life...im still nervous about going...but i know all will turn out well and ill prolly have fun so sometimes u just gotta say fuck it
It took a lot of time and a lot of drugs for me to reach not give a fuck mode. At first I tried to force not giving a fuck, but when you try to not give a fuck you defeat the purpose of not giving a fuck, cause trying is giving a fuck. I don't think anyone who's felt like you (I did) and who feels differently now has any conclusive answer to give you. It's impossible to feel what you feel and to know yourself like you do, cause this is just a forum. I lost a shitload of weight and I slowly gained confidence and started believing in myself. What makes someone believe in his or herself differs from person to person. Try to figure out why you feel anxious around other people and fix whatever's the root cause. Or see a doctor/therapist if you really can't figure out why you feel this way.
Take my advice with a grain of salt, what I've learned so far in my 19 years is this: The less of a shit you give about anything, the easier life will be. When you start caring about something as insignificant as what people think about you, it can make anyone feel insecure and anxious. So sit back, smoke some great herb and enjoy every millisecond of your existence.
-Go somewhere everybody is nervous/stressed/shifty such as an AA/NA meeting.. Your problems will seem small after listening to what some other people have going on... Make up some story about a relative or something... (Lies ain't cool but fuck it if it works) They will be open to talking and won't judge you... -Get a job in a shop or somewhere similar where you have to talk to people... -Join an online dating site... If you are a dude i would recommend cougars.net - some of those milf's will go crazy for a 19 yr old dude... If you are a girl then any site will do... -Go hang out in bars... (Drunks will talk to anyone who will listen) -Get a cute dog you have to walk... (People will talk to you about said dog) -Read some self help books... (The Game is a good one to start with) -If all else fails then go join a church... (This should only be when you have tried everything else) Religious people get all excited when a new dude/dudette shows up... Be careful though as there are lots of nutjobs in these places...
I have the same problem.. sometimes its so bad i cancel plans just to hang out with a few friends at their home. I went to the bar last night and I HATE going to them. You just have to realize unless you draw attention to yourself no one cares or will really pay any attention to you.
I think it's important to become set with yourself before you acknoledge the opinions of others. You may have social anxiety but I'm not a psychologist. As others have stated, find what you like and what fits you, and be yourself. If someone can't accept that, then fuck them they aren't worth your time of day to even look at them. That's what's real. Surround yourself with people who are your real friends and people that won't take advantage of you but who will rather protect you. Anyone else is irrelevant. Just be you. Life is what you make it, work in a progressive manner