How do you define an alpha male?

Discussion in 'Pandora's Box' started by Messiah Decoy, Feb 26, 2015.

  1. And how much of being an alpha male is genetic?
     
  2. My definition of "alpha male" is: "if you have to ask, you probably aren't one."
     
    Alpha males aren't sitting at the computer wondering what it all means, they are off getting promotions at work and having sex with beautiful women. ;)
     
  3. Yeah, seriously, alpha males are out fucking bitches and making mad gainz with their lifting, dawg.
     
  4. I expected this silly, macho response.

    But the first one out?

    Bravo.
     
  5. idk.   i guess its just being assertive.  Having control, knowing how to get some degree of control over people.
     
     
    if you find yourself in a room with 9 other guys, your same height.   Which one of them dominates, makes the rules, asserts himself as fucking physically dangerous
     
     
    i think most of it is physical power.    Take me for instance, i have a good bit of attitude and rage, some of the rage is genes from my dad (and mom)...  but with no physical power..  im anything but alpha.
     
    the rage will only take it so far.
     
    its just like animals..
     
    except as humans, some of us think that saying or thinking the right things can compensate for physical inadequacy/weakness.  So by that metric, alphas are the ones that can actually throw weight around and hold their own if society went to shit tomorrow
     
     
    i appreciate your question and i think it was a ballsy one to ask too.   Naturally you'll get all sorts of answers wont you.
     
  6. The strongest, beefiest male in the room. Typically one who wears command very well. It's mindset as well as physical presence.
     
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    Hey now, I was dissing myself as much as anyone with my comment. The fact I had nothing better to do with my day than be the first to reply to your thread proves I am the biggest loser out of everyone. It certainly wasn't a personal attack on you, and I'm sorry if I struck a nerve. ;)
     
    I stand by my assertion that alpha males are more typically found in a state of action than self-reflection. A good example would be former president GW Bush. People followed him even when he was wrong, because he aggressively did what he thought was right without stopping to build group consensus.
     
  8. Why not do a google search? I typed in "characteristics of an alpha male" and this was my first result. Seems pretty straight forward.
     
     
    http://chadhowsefitness.com/2012/11/25-characteristics-of-an-alpha-male
     
     
     
    1. The alpha male is persistent. There's no quit in this man. He's the tortose not the hare. He's the last man standing.
    2. The alpha male can defend himself and his family. He can handle himself with his fists, to put it another way.
    3. The alpha male is in peak physical shape. He's strong and athletic as well as aesthetically pleasing to the opposite sex.
    4. The alpha male is courageous. He doesn't lack fear, rather, he accepts that it exists and faces it at every opportunity.
    5. The alpha male can entertain. He has a sense of humor and can have a group of people hanging on his every word – he's a good story teller.
    6. The alpha male has stories to tell. He's lived – and is living – a unique life. He's made mistakes, but he's able to find humor in them. He's had adventures that everyone wants to hear about.
    7. The alpha male can laugh at himself. This is an over-looked characteristic of an alpha male, but a ne
    cessary one. You can't make fun of the alpha male because he'll join in, no one can make fun of him better than he can.
    8. The alpha male is humble. Some of this comes from his ability to laugh at himself. No matter what he accomplishes, his head will never balloon, and if it does, he has the ware-with-all to come back down to earth before it gets out of hand.
    9. The alpha male is learned, educated. A degree isn't a prerequisite, but a thirst for knowledge is. He wants to learn, and he does. This helps him relate to people from every social and economic standing. He can converse intelligently with the business man and the preacher. The history buff and the sports nut.
    10. The alpha male is a man's man. He's a hard guy not to like or want to have a beer with. He's tough, often quiet, composed, but can joke and shoot the shit with anyone.
    11. The alpha male knows the value of every word, he doesn't talk simply to hear the sound of his own voice. His words are chosen carefully. He respects their power. Whether he's writing or speaking, he doesn't speak to be hear, he speaks when he has something of value to say. He's never the loudest one in the room.
    12. The alpha male has a purpose. This may be his most defining trait. Where many wander through life trying to find their Self, the alpha male is too busy creating his Self. Every day he does something to bring himself closer to his goal. He isn't a wanderer, he's going places; it's so obvious that everyone around him can see it.
    13. The alpha male is a hard worker. He knows that nothing great is accomplished without hard work and a definite purpose.
    14. The alpha male is a warrior not a worrier. He understands that cetain things aren't under his control. He does everything he can to control what hecan, but doesn't worry about what he can't. He's not worried about tomorrow, he's too busy working for today.
    15. The alpha male doesn't pick a fight, but he ends it if he's in one. He isn't a bully. He isn't an emotional wreck that looks for a fight at every corner. But, if the logical thing to do is to fight because the situation calls for it, he will. He'll also never hit a man when he's down. He isn't fighting to destroy, but to defend.
    16. The alpha male has style. He takes pride in how he looks and people respect him for that. He also knows how to dress like a man. You'd never call the alpha male a metrosexual.
    17. The alpha male knows who he is, his values govern his life. He doesn't stray from these values, in fact he stands up for them. Even when he stands alone in what he believes is right, he digs his heels in and fights.
    18. The alpha male knows how to treat a lady. He respects women, often because he's had some great one's in his life. He's chivalrous.
    He helps his lady at every chance. He helps her reach her dreams, all-the-while moving closer to attaining his own.
    19. The alpha male isn't a sucker. He isn't a clinger. He doesn't go out of his way to please everyone because that's a futile endeavor. He won't let a woman run his life. He's his own man. Though he worships the ground his lady walks on, he knows how to pick ‘em. He won't be with a control-freak or a jealous woman. He has the social intelligence to see that storm before it peeks it's nasty little head.
    20. The alpha male is a man of value. “Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.” Einstein knew that success is reached if you're valuable to others. The alpha male is a man of value and values. He makes the lives of others better by being a part of them.
    21. The alpha male helps others, he's generous. He has his purpose, but he knows that life isn't merely about accomplishments, but about leaving a legacy. That legacy is how he made others feel, and how he helps others accomplish their dreams.
    22. The alpha male is a leader who leads by example. He doesn't tell people how to live, but lives in the manner he sees as best to live.
    23. Alpha males throughout history, Achilles, William Wallace, and Napoleon, saw opportunity where others saw failure. The alpha male will fail, but he won't see failure as the end. He's sees it as a necessary part of the experience, a stepping-stone. Knowing this allows him to try things others won't, and to work harder when others usually quit.
    24. The alpha male is stubborn. When he starts something he's passionate about, no one can stop him or pull back on the reigns. He's in it until the end. He's also open-minded and willing to listen to other points of view. He knows he's flawed and stubborn, so he gives way and learns from people who are better than him.
    25. The alpha male doesn't try to be an alpha male. That's where so many fail. He is interested in life, in living. He's fascinated by the world around him, in becoming the best man he can possibly become. He genuinely cares about people. He passionately works hard. He's excited by life, by the opportunity that each day presents. He's genuine in every facet of who he is. Each of the characteristics are possessed by him naturally, or will be as he grows as a man. Bred from curiosity, a genuine kindness, and a warrior's heart, he is who he is, and all others follow him wherever he will lead them.
     
  9. Alpha basically, at the fundamental level, is dominance over a domain and all the people that are within that domain. It may be 20, or it may be 2 people.
     
    Now, most people assume that alpha male is directly correlated with muscles, the gym, and sex. In reality that isn't the truth. Alpha behavior can act out in many shapes and forms, you see this in sports, video games, and even in classrooms.
     
     
    Most people are confused about the true meaning of alpha male, and because of this, they go about the whole alpha male thing in the wrong manner, which yields lackluster results.
     
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    It seems like being alpha is inherent. It's not something you can become.
    Anyone who has to try to be alpha, isn't.
     
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    i think he wanted to know what we thought
     
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    What we think doesn't matter.
     
    I can say, I think the word Up is defined as Down. Even though I may believe it, it's still wrong.
     
    Some things aren't subjective.
     
  13. ok shitcan the thread then. 
     
     
    Just google it, everyone!
     
  14. But natural alpha males recognize the benefits of that role and mold themselves to better meet those expectations.

    A natural alpha male figures out the benefits of being an alpha then they actively try and fit that role using their natural gifts.
     
  15. I think it is subjective.

    I debated with two other people what an alpha male was. They argued it's anyone who dominates in anything.

    For example, Bill Gates is a huge nerd who probably couldn't pull much tail in high school but they would consider him an alpha male today.
     
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    I'm not sure he does want to know what we think. (He certainly didn't like my answer!)
     
  17. well thats very cute but i think you see my point.
     
     
    i dont think money is a substitute for physical power.   i have neither but i say that bill gates is a beta pussy out on 'the streets'
     
    what else is there besides sex and power in life?  nothing.   all else is peripheral.   money, a job, a home, a car, etc etc etc..  it all goes back to procreation; who can fuck/hunt/protect most effectively.   The only reason a girl would have any say in it, is bc she's the whole point of the damn thing.   Whoever gets the most girls.  HONESTLY.   not by cheating with money. 
     
  18. #18 didier12, Feb 26, 2015
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    Just what exactly an alpha male is is definitely a subjective thing imo.  I'm certainly not what one would describe as an alpha male, my step dad was obsessed with being one at one time and he ended up just being a dick head in the process.  Not really a big fan of alpha males personally, where they possess strength they also possess a large amount of ignorance and often lack compassion to their fellow man.  That's my interpretation of an alpha anyways.
     
  19. Bill Gates….lol
     
    Take his money away, and he'd be paying for sex his entire life. The man couldn't fight his way out of a cardboard box.
     
  20. #20 Goldmine, Feb 26, 2015
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    hmm well thats interesting bc it shouldnt mean that you arent compassionate.    Theres some kind of balance to strike there, somehow.    The way I would do it is fuck shit up in the name of defending people.   Instead of stepping on them
     
     
    Thats why its important to earn it.   So you know what it's like to be shit on, and if you have a fucking heart in your head.. you wont shit on ppl even though you can do whatever you want
     

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