hooking up with close friends..

Based on my experiences it's a bad idea.

 

sure why not it's not like keeping them as a friend will stop you from dieing alone.

 

Unless you're planning on staying with her forever,your friendship will never be the same...I've seen it happen too many times to my friends and myself

 

If you're that good of friends, then this shouldn't effect the relationship. A lot of good friendships end this way, however, because people underestimate the outcome after the relationship ends (which it eventually does). Go for it if the feeling's mutual, but be 100% sure on what you're getting into is what you BOTH really want otherwise be prepared to lose a close friend.

 

Hey man just to clarify what do you mean by hookup? Cuz around here when people say you hooked up with someone it just means you banged....do u mean that or do u mean starting a relationship

 

[quote name='"sk8njam"']Hey man just to clarify what do you mean by hookup? Cuz around here when people say you hooked up with someone it just means you banged....do u mean that or do u mean starting a relationship[/quote]

Very valid point. Clarification please.

 

Agreed with above, because starting a relationship with a close friend and fucking a close friend are two very different things.

 

Sure why not. If the feeling is mutual, it is a good idea.

Many people were friends before they started fucking.

 

I hook up with whoever I feel like, whether it be close friends or not. If the urge is there, I go with it. I was friends with a girl for about 3 years, we started hooking up consistently about 4 months ago, and now we are together. Everyone's situation is different.

 

I had sex with one of my friends and it completely changed us. After we had sex he acted like I was his sex toy or some shit, so when i told him I made a mistake he stopped talking to me.

Now, when I see him out at parties he acts like I'm commiting a crime by not fucking him.

 

For sure. Worked out great for me .. me n my man were very close friends before we started dating; dating only brought us closer together

 

[quote name='"MissSmokesALOT"']For sure. Worked out great for me .. me n my man were very close friends before we started dating; dating only brought us closer together [/quote]

I love you sweetie

 

it's a dangerous game man, while sometimes it does work out if both of you are on the same page, but if it is a case where you had fallen for him and it is not totally mutual (i.e, he only want FWB or NSA) it is going to raise the chance of you losing your best friend forever.

But hey, if it is mutual (make sure you guys make it clear before plunging head first into it) it could be amazing.

 

Really, anything you and your friend do is simply between YOU guys. If you have a feeling it might end badly, then don't. If you are completely comfortable, then do. I dislike when people ask these kind of questions, because the experience is different for everyone.

 

I say yes and I say you can control what happens after, if You dont get connected before they do the situation can stay fine. You have the control, so to speak.

The person whom lost the friend, lost it because she told him it was a mistake (even it was you dont say that, you will destroy his fragile ego and piss him off) You gotta be more ninja and make there be a cost that they wont pay. Pretty much make them think its their idea to not want to have sex with you.

That way their ego is intact and they still like you. Its very surprising how you say something is more important than what you actually say.

 

u shud only do this if you have real feelings for the girl, like u wanna go out with her and be her BF

just having sex and never being like that with her again is gonna fuck up your relationship bad

i got a couple friends that are girls that are pretty good looking, but were really just friends ya know? id never even really think about fucking them, even tho they are pretty hot, its just not worth losing a friend