Hey GC, Im currently in a long distance relationship and everyday im finding myself more attached. It feels like im trying to pursue a fairytale that this could possibly work. This makes me very sad because behind the excitement and temporary happiness of talking to her and hearing her say what a great guy I am and that she loved me etc etc.. Theres this lingering thought that I am wasting my time. She is an amazing girl. I really don't want to make her sad at all by breaking up this relationship. She tells me she cares/loves for me everyday, this also makes this situation more complicated, if she truly does love me then how would she handle me just losing contact? Another thing is we started this relationship and it blossomed pretty fast, we now tell each other that we love one another, do we truly love each other? The first time I said that was just in response because she said it to me, but when I say it now I really do mean it. We also get into some "heated" skype sessions. She starts to look at me through the webcam almost as if she is shy, then starts to smile. I smile back. She then begins to take of her shirt and caress her breasts, I tell her how beautiful she is. We then start to talk extremely sexual and she wants to watch me masterbate to her on the webcam, so I do. When I see her face while she orgasms I get extremely pleased, but that feeling goes away because I think about our future, how long will watching this girl masterbate on the webcam while screaming my name satisfy me? When will this relationship end? The distance is killing me.. Thats partially why I got so stoned to write this little summary of our relationship. I need guidance and wisdom grasscity :\
I'm sensing that you think she might be full of shit, or you're afraid that she might not feel the things she says..... At least you guys humor each other, and watch each other masturbate. I mean, that's cool. Look at the bright side perhaps. But like anything, when you have strong feelings for someone, you get emo, even the dudes, we get emo. It's tough, you could tell her how you feel, but then what if it makes you look a bitch, or what if you ruin what you have? If you guys are never gonna meet, than do what's best for your feelings, or maybe see it as a cool ride that's gonna end someday, and dont really worry about the end. This is prolly easier said than done. Key thing, you guys know how the other feels, not knowing that can be torture sometimes.
Long distance relationships are just friendship, with benefits. If you let emotions get in, I feel bad for you both.
I understand I really do. Before this day I would have encouraged you that if you really love her. To go for it. But now my hope for long distance ever working out is bullshit. Its hard enough to make a relationship work in your own city. But its 2x as hard to make it work for long distance. Especially if you have not met in real life. I mean its easy to just sign out on someone. or ignore a text for a few hours. but that doesnt allow you guys to bond. and it usually just hides someones true colors. Beware OP. Beware.
[quote name='"Molly420"'] I understand I really do. Before this day I would have encouraged you that if you really love her. To go for it. But now my hope for long distance ever working out is bullshit. Its hard enough to make a relationship work in your own city. But its 2x as hard to make it work for long distance. Especially if you have not met in real life. I mean its easy to just sign out on someone. or ignore a text for a few hours. but that doesnt allow you guys to bond. and it usually just hides someones true colors. Beware OP. Beware.[/quote] I feel like im missing out on so many missed opportunities right now, since the time we started this and were committed to each other I could have had sex with 3 different girls. Being a senior in highschool and not taking these chances is killing me. She says she wants to come her in June but honestly I think it would be sort of awkward to see her in person rather than a webcam. If I could rewind time and avoid this relationship I would for sure, the only reason im not ending it is because I will feel like the biggest douche breaking it off with her. I know the longer I wait the more it will hurt aswell. This shit fucking sucks, time to get hella baked :/
Oh god OP. You just need to get Good and Stoned. You just stay stoned for a while. Think about this situations for what it is. Your arrangement would have worked out alright. There was no need for commitment. But you did, She isn't there. Your in high school. She'll understand eventually. Good luck.
[quote name='"Molly420"'] Oh god OP. You just need to get Good and Stoned. You just stay stoned for a while. Think about this situations for what it is. Your arrangement would have worked out alright. There was no need for commitment. But you did, She isn't there. Your in high school. She'll understand eventually. Good luck. [/quote] Alright, I got nice and zoned to start thinking about this.. Do I just slowly back out of the relationship or do I just tell her straight up? This has to end soon and I dont want her to get more hurt than she already is from previous relationships. Also sucks how she is sorta straight edge and im enlightened with teh herb. Im going to miss these skype sessions.. :sadface:
Update! This man is now single!!!! Woot woooot, The only bad part is how she took it.. Nothing like i expected, she broke up with me LMAO!
