Hi! Brand new to grasscity! I need some insight right off the bat!.. When I smoke, many people call me "mean" and that what I say is like "daggers". I really don't know what on earth they are talking about as I am just being myself.. I just want someone to be with who lets me say what I want without making it about themselves? Anybody have similar experience?
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Just keep being you and do you. You'll find the ones that appreciate you for you! You'll attract others like you to make friends with. What type of stuff do you say?
It depends really, doesn't it...You could be a guy who's very direct, and curt...you could have a bunch of friends that take things the wrong way, take sarcasm as hateful etc, or you could be one of those people that gets stoned and feel the need to adopt a persona because they don't know how to relax around others while high... I mean only you know if you're actually being abrasive or not...if you're making personal remarks about someone...well, as you know there's what you say, and how you say it. Make sure you strike a balance there. Look in the case where you bring anything up about anyone though...they do have a right to "make it about themselves" because well...it is, and you've brought that to the table. Like I'm not saying "don't be meeeeean man" just, ponder the things you're saying a bit, consider your tone, and know that they're wasted too...what might be normal to you, may be boosted when you're stoned and you might not be aware of that, and might seem overly confrontational to them. We can be in a child like state from weed, helps you communicate and you can be vulnerable. Some people go extrovert from weed, some go the other way. If you're just bringing up one thing after another that could theoretically annoy you about a person and it's persistent? Then you're probably a bit too laser focused on your observations and assessment of others, and I can see that wearing thin... maybe like, talk movies or whatever your common interests or hates are or some such...or whatever, absolutely anything. Just, "read the room" and all that. We are meant to be cool to one another, right? We should all try to be a part of that. Suggestion? Try just being silent for a bit. Not just you. All of you. See if you can just BE, and be ok around each other, and get to a more comfortable state. Might not seem like it'll work, but I've been there and seen it. Shit gets harmonious. Then, do the talking thing.
I don't really know what type of stuff I say.. I just go with the flow and speak things on my mind. At one point I said I thought Ben Shapiro was the antichrist and said that Jesus Knows us Perfectly. I do know at one point, the person I was with said "I think what you need is someone who will let you say what you want to say" So true- Watching certain people meltdown when I smoke is really puzzling and traumatic... My intuition tells me "Suddenly my energy supply has been cut off from them"...
Thank you. I will do silence and try to become more comfortable. I definitely see what you're saying. I feel like most the time, I can't help what I'm saying, like an autistic person who doesn't know when he's said something offensive. It's a puzzle.