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Discussion in 'General' started by briangumble, Jan 30, 2007.

  1. #1 briangumble, Jan 30, 2007
    I don't really have anyone to talk to, so that's why I'm posting this on GC. I live in the Inland Empire. Colton, California to be exact. I've lived here with my grandparents my whole life (18 years). I've never been outside of Colton for more than a few days. In a few months my grandparents are most likely going to move to Arizona around by Phoenix, and I could either go with them, or stay with my other grandmother in Colton. The I.E. is my home and I like it out here, but there's nothing for me out here, and I'm not doing anything out here. I dropped out of school a few months ago (I still got a diploma though), I don't have a car, and I don't have a job but I've been looking for one since I got my diploma. I only have 2 real friends, one of them lives a few miles away, the other one which is my best friend lives in Arizona around by Phoenix. I plan on eventually moving to LA within the next year or two, but for now I don't know if I should go to AZ or stay in the I.E. But I'm leaning towards going to AZ.

    There's this girl I really like, she's the only thing that would make me want to stay here no matter what. But the situation with her is a problem in itself. I had her for a couple classes last year, I have anxiety so I pussed out of talking to her when I had really good chances, but I still managed to talk to her a few times at school, and a few times on myspace. She seems really cool, really nice, and she seems like she would be really fun to hang out with. I really want to get to know her better and I know we would click and have a lot in common. But the thing that's fucked up is, since I dropped out of school I can't see her, and she doesn't read her e-mail on myspace anymore so I can't talk to her. She probably doesn't live more than a mile away from me and I can't see or talk to her. I had to have a girl I know try and hook me up with her, but she said that the girl I like doesn't want a boyfriend right now. And if I can't be her boyfriend then I at least want to be her friend. But it doesn't look like I'm going to be shit with her. And it doesn't look like I'll ever be able to see or talk to her again in my LIFE. And that frustrates me to the point where I just wanna punch the shit out of someone, and at the exact same time is depresses me to the point where I've shed tears over her. I know she would want to go out with me if she got to know me.

    So I don't know if there's anything I could do about the situation with the girl I like, or if there's any hope of ever seeing or talking to her again. I could do some crazy shit like write her a letter and have the girl I know that knows her give it to her. But if I did that I would have to tell her how I feel and that seems like some crazy shit.

    If I can figure out the situation with the girl I like, and be 100% sure of wether I would ever be with her or not, then that would help me deceide wether I should move or stay. If I can be with her I'll stay, if I can't then I might as well move. I just don't know wtf to do.

    I really can't see myself finding another girl anytime soon that I would really like and want to be in a relationship with.
     
  2. #2 SuburbanKMK101, Jan 30, 2007
    That was your 420th post too...siiicck
     
  3. #3 dinetuner, Jan 30, 2007
    hahah ^^

    to the dude in need! shit ill give ya some of my advice you gotta know where this chick lives bro! hit her up by droppin by the house and be like "whats up i dont even know you hardly but from wat i do, you down as hell, i just wanna talk to you and get to know you i got plans to head out to the PHX so i aint asking you to date me but i would like to get to know you and maybe we could call/write?" something just contact her somehow...corny as it is write her a letter a tad more romantic without droppin trout just something. i made the biggest mistake of my life(so far) by pussing out..and can you believe i had like 3 years to get her attention..imma dumbass hahaha

    just notice you still got a minute hit her up and invite to do something with other friends so it aint a date but you can still get to know here better if she aint up to snuff then you still got your homegirls and homeboys to chill with ya know?...she might like you once she gets to know you better.

    One last thing have you ever been to scottsdale on a sat/sun at any of the shopping malls or wens-mon in tempe and all OMG and 9 months of the year its almost mandotory for hot chicks to wear almost nothing and just be easy. You might even forget her ;)
     
  4. #4 Dan42nepa, Jan 30, 2007
    i think anytime you move it gives you the ability to change.. Phoenix sounds nice and maybe its just what you need. A chance to start over.
     
  5. #5 WookiesAreCool, Jan 30, 2007

    Exactly what I was thinking. It doesn't sound like this thing will work out at all with this girl so go to AZ.
     
  6. #6 stickyone13, Jan 30, 2007
    alright, i want you to really listen to me. Twice i've been hung up on a girl under similar circumstances. Twice i didn't do anything until it was inconvenient for me to see her. Once she thought I was the nutjob (gotDAMN i had no game), once he hung out solo twice and i knew i wanted nothing to do with her. It's VERY rarely worth it to chase after a girl when you no longer see her. writing her a letter to tell her how you feel WILL end your chances with her, i promise. You rarely talk, barely know each other, and you want to tell her how you want to be her boyfriend. PLEASE don't do that.

    As someone who's been there, i say move on. Staying in a place where you know you have no future because you like a girl there will be one of the worst mistakes you can make. you will regret it. Besides, the beauty of moving to a new town is you can really and truly start over. before i moved to north carolina, i had virtually no game. looking back, all my relationships had been by accident. When i got to NC, i just started acting more confident (it was weird, i actually WAS more confident, just because i didn't know anyone, so i didn't care what they thought), got over my fear of talking to hot girls (literally by going up to and meeting dozens of them. "hi, i'm new in town, so i'm just out meeting people. what's your name?" "blahblahblah" "it's very nice to meet you, blahblahblah, i'm stickyone13. Feel free to say what's up if you see me around. have a good one!"), and now things are great. My confidence is exactly where it needs to be. I actually made most of my friends in NC by walking up and just meeting them, when i wasn't cheating and walking a puppy around campus. that's like shooting fish in a barrel. it really should be illegal.

    Go to phoenix, go meet hot girls (you'll be mortified at first, but after 5 or 6 of them, you'll start to realize that they're people too, just like the uggo you flirt with at wendy's because she biggie sizes your combo for free. Actually, i had several girls grab my arm as i was turning to leave after saying exactly what i typed above, they actually FORCED me to have an actual conversation with them! rarely did that not end in digits. i'm tellin ya man, go to phoenix, move on, meet women, and get over this girl!
     
  7. #7 bonez, Jan 30, 2007
    my aunt and uncle live in AZ and they brought back this bud that was sooo dank. suriously it was better than a lot of shit ive had from the cannabis clubs in cali
     
  8. #8 Ktwizzy, Jan 30, 2007
    I'd say go to AZ. If this girl isn't trying to contact you, shes not interested. I'm sure if you knew her better, she would be, but the fact is you don't. Who knows, you might find someone 2x as pretty and 2x as nice as her in AZ. :)
     
  9. #9 astro_righteous, Jan 30, 2007

    he aint shittin.
    here in AZ there is some sick buds. even the merch is pretty decent when its fresh. but id say start over. you can always play the new guy card. go out with some people meet some chicks and then say yeah you know any good places around here you could show me around cuz i new. some shit like that.

    and as for starting over, hell i wish i could. i can tell just by what youve said that maybe you werent the most out going person. sometimes a nerd but pretty cool with everyone. same as i always have been. but sometimes you can start over and get new friends and they wont know about your reputation that may be good or bad or maybe both in some aspects. but you have a clean slate and even if you are looking for a job still then you can easily find one when you say you have a diploma and even exagerate on some of your previous jobs. cuz you know noone is gonna call cali just for a fucking reference.

    good luck on the decision.
     
  10. #10 Boosh, Jan 31, 2007
    This guy is giving you some ace advice here man, and if I were you, I would take it to heart.

    Dont wait around on some female that obiously doesnt even remember you exist, or doesnt want to have anything to do with you. Go to AZ, start over, meet new people, and move on with your life man!:D
     
  11. #11 briangumble, Jan 31, 2007
    Like I said in my original post, I know writing her a letter would be crazy, I know it would be a long shot, and my instinct tells me I shouldn't do it. But on the other hand, I really don't have anything to lose. If I did write her a letter I wouldn't really tell her how I feel per se, I would just say that she seems really cool and that I would like to get to know her better, and that I think we would have a lot in common, and shit like that. I wouldn't say that I like her or I want to be her boyfriend or anything like that, I would hint at it though.

    It's going to be very hard to get over her, I never met a girl like her before. I could see myself falling in love with her if I got to be in a relationship with her. It's just really hard to accept the fact that I'm most likely never going to get to see or talk to her ever again in my life. Especially since she goes to school right down the street from me, she's so close yet so far away. If she moved to the other side of the country that would be one thing, but she's just right there you know what I'm sayin? I could probably run in to her at the mall, or at any of the stores nearby. I miss her so much and it's literally driving me crazy.

    I can't see myself finding another girl that I would really like anytime soon. Maybe when I'm 24 when I'm successful and a millionaire, but that's a long time away.

    I'm most likely going to move to AZ because my best friend is there, and I can't see anything happening with the situation with the girl I like. And if I moved it would help me get over her, because like you said I would be starting over. Getting over her is just one of those things that you really don't want to do but you know you have to do it.

    I really wish there was more I could do, and the only thing I can think of is writing that letter. I'm not saying I'm going to write her that letter, it's just an idea I have.

    Thanks for the advice everyone, I really appreciate it.
     
  12. #12 stickyone13, Jan 31, 2007
    right on man, i understand your situation a lot better now. I was in a similar situation my sophomore year. There was this GORGEOUS blonde with glowing green eyes in my algebra class that i wanted to get with so bad, but she was new to the school, and pretty shy, like it was real hard to get her to engage in conversation, but once you did, she was magic. anyway, i rarely talked to her in between classes, cause that was the only class we had in the same building, and talking in class was punishable by death. one day we luck out and happen to sit at the same lunch table, like our groups finally overlapped. we hit if off, swapped numbers, and started talking. a week into talking, we were going to actually go out the following weekend, grades come out, and she's grounded for a month, no phone till grades again. the weekend before grades come out, i get caught wrapping houses, and now i'm grounded for a month. 3 days after my month was over, she moved to oklahoma. we got along famously, but life wouldn't let it happen. I'll tell ya straight up, her (in this case, you) moving away WILL make it far easier to get over her. you've just got to make yourself move with an open mind, cause first impressions are everything, and you don't want to be all mopey when you're first meeting new people. i'm glad you're leaning towards going, and having your best friend there will make the transition so much easier. That's what i had when i moved to NC. it was baller.
     
  13. #13 stew12, Jan 31, 2007
    I didn't bother reading all of that. However if you never go for the chick you'll have that regret on your shoulders your whole life on "what could have been." Do you know what qualities about yourself allow yourslef to have such a small amount of friends?
     

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