So ive always had moderate social anxiety, but recently its starting to really surface and it is very emberassing and holding me back. I got a job as a server at a resteraunt 2 days ago.. The first day was ok (besides the HUGE sweatmarks under my arms) and I managed to pull through. Im pretty athletic and thats how ive been dealing with the anxiety up intil this point. My confidence comes from my physical abilites.. Put me on a field, a court, or on the battle field and all my anxiety LITERALLY dissapears. I feel completely comfortable when im outside and being myself. I was captain of my highschool football team and I played a year of college football but had to come home due to unforseen circumstances.. Thats when everything started to go down hill and I dont understand. Why can I have so much confidence when im doing something physical but it goes away when im doing something suttle in a public place? (ie walking around in a mall)... I want to be special forces military with all my heart and I know that I have what it takes, physically and mentally, except for the social anxiety part. I dont want to be prescribed any anti anxiety medication. What can I do??? Im 6'3" 190 lbs, not ugly (lol), and ive been told on multiple occasions that im very likable and have a good personality... Why does all that go away in a heartbeat when I get nervous?? Ahhh please help PS: I had to leave my shift early on my second day today as a server because of it.. Sent from my PC36100 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Hunting and fishing also makes anxiety go away for me.. Sent from my PC36100 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Fuck 'em...That's what I say; you can't please everyone all of the time, and hardly any of them will be pleased ever anyway. So...Fuck it.
[quote name="BugPoop" post="19304721" timestamp="1389226321"]Should I just start dealing? lolSent from my PC36100 using Grasscity Forum mobile app[/quote] what does dealing got to do with anything man listen social anxiety is a bitch you feel alone get depressed and go to a mental hospital~true story~but dont let that overcome you. Tell yourself youre great from what you said you seem like the man!!! Idek you dude but just dont doubt yourself. Everyone is a gem on this planet.
Do you live somewhere where you can work outdoors, in your element? instead of trying to force yourself to fit in somewhere that doesn't feel natural to you? Not everyone has to be really social and outgoing.. Are you feeling anxiety because you actually want to be around a bunch of people and feel you don't fit in, or are you feeling the anxiety because you're just putting too much thought into something that's really not your style? geez.. shrink mode over here lol sorry
Yeahh I live in middle TN so there are tons of jobs I could possibly get to work outdoors. And I do want to be around people, I just dont feel like I fit in really.. Indoors atleast. Idk if its because I look mean or what lol but alot peope seem a little uneasy when im talking to them. Long story short, YES, im putting wayy to much though into alot of things.. Thanks man its crazy how a few simple comments can make someones day a little better.. Sent from my PC36100 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
[quote name="BugPoop" post="19304960" timestamp="1389228655"]Yeahh I live in middle TN so there are tons of jobs I could possibly get to work outdoors. And I do want to be around people, I just dont feel like I fit in really.. Indoors atleast. Idk if its because I look mean or what lol but alot peope seem a little uneasy when im talking to them. Long story short, YES, im putting wayy to much though into alot of things.. Thanks man its crazy how a few simple comments can make someones day a little better.. Sent from my PC36100 using Grasscity Forum mobile app[/quote]Dude i know what its like soo much i wish i had someone help me in those days just a few words would've helped i know what its like dude and i dont want anyone to be like that. You'll be fine bud hey add me as a friend you dont have to feel alone man youre not at all.
It sounds like your personality is your competition nature and just dealing with regular people you've never done before just makes your a bit anxious
Alright I will when I get on pc. I dont think I can add friends on mobile.. Or can I? Sent from my PC36100 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
You literally just blew my mind. Never thought of it like that. Sent from my PC36100 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
[quote name="BugPoop" post="19305099" timestamp="1389230037"]Alright I will when I get on pc. I dont think I can add friends on mobile.. Or can I? Sent from my PC36100 using Grasscity Forum mobile app[/quote] No but add me on the computer man. Im not a creep or anything lol just a friendly ass dude that can relate.
No. And as Toker said, anxiety is characterized by excessive worry. I have it, and know what it's like. I work in a fast food place too and have to deal with people. What get's me through my shifts is keeping busy. I clean and do stuff like that to distract my mind from the anxiety. Another thing that I have done for a long time that works for me when I am feeling overwhelmed by doing things like walking around my campus is to chant or sing songs in my head. This is the chant that I do while I am walking around. http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=XVMgEupff-E As for the songs I sing, I just have a few that are very soothing to me and they take me away to another place when I sing them in my head. http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=v4HSnl3Stnk http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=_lt4WXGXh6A http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=QW4Ky3wPvfo
[quote name="Macka B" post="19306225" timestamp="1389241132"]No.And as Toker said, anxiety is characterized by excessive worry. I have it, and know what it's like. I work in a fast food place too and have to deal with people. What get's me through my shifts is keeping busy. I clean and do stuff like that to distract my mind from the anxiety.Another thing that I have done for a long time that works for me when I am feeling overwhelmed by doing things like walking around my campus is to chant or sing songs in my head.This is the chant that I do while I am walking around.http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=XVMgEupff-EAs for the songs I sing, I just have a few that are very soothing to me and they take me away to another place when I sing them in my head.http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=v4HSnl3Stnkhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=_lt4WXGXh6Ahttp://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=QW4Ky3wPvfo[/quote]Soja good choice. You know how to relax right man. ðŸ‘ðŸ‘ðŸ‘