god damn fool

"Whats the deal girls? Can't you make it easy on us once in a while and make the move?"

I know exactly how you feel.. i'm with ya there..

 

Haha over here many women actually are just as agressive as men. Nothing unusual to get picked up by a lady when you're out...at least if you got some looks...

But I agree...it's not easy to know where they wanna go...I've got it right a few times, but I've quite made a fool of myself more times, misreading the signs

 

Its right that you thought about your actions before you acted--and thats a good thing in itself.

In my opioion I would have made a move in this situation becuase she "openly told you to make a move"
I would of probally kissed her and let her take over to avoid complications later on.


It can be diffucult mind you.
A girl may tell you to do whatever you want to, to her--you then act on it, and then later on down the road the girl could get pissed at you! lol! (yes confusing I know, nothing new when it comes to relationships...lol)



Letting the girl give you the "permission" to make the first move, and then letting the girl take over after you've expressed that your interested in whatever way that is (kiss/feel her up--whatever) then she knows your into her, and shell go with the flow and do her stuff.




So ya--be yourself, its right that you didn't make any moves here.
She gave you permission though, so jump on the opprutunity next time.
Expressing your feelings to her in a simple and upfront way (which girls like btw) will make her understand how you feel about her e.t.c.




You wanna figure it out?
JUMP ON IT!
Theres NO girl thats your "not good enough for" man.
This girl expressed interest in you dude, she even gave you premission for you to make a move! So jump on it! You have permission to do so-BY HER!

So go for it!



good luck

 

Ahem. She made it quite obvious with the "Make a move" thing. Do it.




Seriously. lol

 

actually...in your case it is easier DONE then said.
Remember shes basically given you permission to do whatever.
So just GO for it-you have NOTHING to lose, next time you guys are togheter and this situation comes up--jump on the oppruntunity--don't even think about it.
just go for it!

 

It sounds like she did make the first move, if in fact it was so obvious a 3 year old could pick it up.

 

I see it this way. In our society it has been made plenty clear that men in general want "pure" girls. They don't want sluts (they just want us to act like one in private.) So, either she makes the first move and is seen as a slut, or she hints so you can make the first move and allow you to be the dominant man. Did that make any sense? We're pretty much conditioned from birth by our parents, our friends, and everyone around us not to be aggressive. Aggressive women are seen as either whores or bitches.

Which pretty much fucking pisses me off that it has to be this way, but that's how it is. So, do you want us to take control sometimes or not? If you (men in general) do, then you need to make that clear. Either you want us to take control sometimes, or you don't. We're the ones getting mixed signals here.

I hope that made sense.

 

Here's what you do: When she's looking away put her tit in your mouth and if she likes it then hey nothing to worry about, but if she says no, at least you have a tittie in your mouth.

 

Theres no harm in turning down something if it doesn't feel it should be happening.

Worst case you never do anything and you have a somewhat happy friendship you probably need if you wanna nail any of her hot friends.

 

lol. Truths! ^^

TheHempress, I'm glad I married a nonconformist.

 

Thank you. lol

 

agreed, i understand what you're saying.. but women have to prove to all that you(se) are equals, and are just as capable of making the first move as men are.. but i see what you're saying about men liking to be in control (dominant) when it is women who have control over a relationship some of the time.. just once in a while i'd like to see girls make the first move..

 

i bet that you'll try something and she'll totally shoot you down and you'll feel like an ass

 

i think the real problem you have is not that girls wont make the first move with you, but you are afraid to make the first move because you dont think you deserve the girl. why dont you deserve her? thats kinda a shitty attitude to have about yourself. maybe you just dont really want to be with her. but if you do, you gotta have confidence, confidence is everything. if you think you can, you can.

 

don't feel alone, I too have a confidence problem

 

a lot of people do, and a lot of people who do think they are the only one who does which further worsens the problem. you gotta find what you like about you and be that person, then it will be easier for you to have confidence and find the people who like you too.

 

If you aren't comfortable enough around her to make a move then she isn't the one.

 

lmfao you fool
Just kinda make out with her, pull back look into her eyes and she what she does, then everything should just happen on its own.