no it's cool i probably am being a bitch and im sorry it just came across to me like he was blaming EVERYTHING on this chick and not considering that maybe he sucks in bed, and she doesn't want to have sex because of it i could have been gentler, i don't know him, and it's just a theory there's more to a relationship than sex but it's a HUGE part and obviously something isn't clicking for these two i wish i had some legit good advice about how they can come together and fix this because 3 years is a lot to just throw away and i know op is scared of having to start all over and be alone but really maybe it's worth it to get some independence and move on a bit for a while try something new idk i mean he doesn't have to leave her, but if it comes to that, it's not the end of the world he CAN do it i totally agree that she sounds messed up in her never wanting to be touched or kissed or anything honestly her behavior sounds like it's typical of someone that has been abused although some girls who are abuse go the total opposite way im no expert but i've met girls that have a hard time with intimacy because of past sexual abuse so maybe this is a possibility i think that if the two really love each other, and they can communicate their problems and feelings about what is going on, then this is salvageable edit: however i never said i deserve a guy that can go for hours. i never implied that i personally deserve any great kind of sex other than saying i would probably leave a guy that instacame but that's assuming this is a hookup kinda situation i've worked through that kind of thing for someone that i cared about before but not for just anyone, no way his comment that he "deserves" a certain kind of sex just pissed me off like no, no you don't "deserve" it, you WANT it i don't think i deserve a man that's good in bed or lasts forever but it's never been hard to find so why put up with something i don't enjoy shrug
Just talk to her about it, go down on her till she gets off and that should relieve some of that premature ejaculation fear. It's just a confidence thing bro and remember practice makes perfect. Her meds could also drop her sex drive down a lot. BTW weed doesnt make everyone horny when my girl gets high which is seldom it doesn't make her horny. Compliment her a lot, do something sweet like flowers or take her out to eat/movies, show her that you really do love her and she will open those legs and embrace what you have. Make love to her before trying to go all pornstar on her. Just a few ideas man she may be one of those chicks who dont like sex and u may need to find a new lover.
Man you need to be honest with her and try and get things going again. Sounds like things have gone stale and you're both losing attraction. Let me tell you from experience this is the turning point. It's either going to get better through work and effort on both sides or you're both going to give up and go your separate ways eventually.
Okay, again I am going to be asking you something different than what everyone else has been saying. When was the last time you spent time apart? Maybe it's the birth control, maybe it isn't. Sometimes things just go stale. And also, sex drying up after being together for a while is far more common than most people are willing to admit. My partner doesn't let me go down on them either, and the number of blow jobs I get has gone from almost every day, pretty much any time I suggested it and also some times I didn't, from when we first met, to <once a month. So I can understand how you feel about not having much sex. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night with the urge to just fuck her, but I let her sleep instead of waking her up. I make sacrifices. (That last sentence was a joke.) If her family has a history of mental illness, she shouldn't be smoking weed. And if you don't feel good while toking, why the fuck would toking make you feel better? Weed doesn't numb you like alcohol. It enhances your state of consciousness. So if she is self conscious about the way she looks, and then smokes weed, why are you surprised that she feels like she is being watched when she is blazed? And also, if she is only having sex with you because she thinks she should have sex with you, that's not much different to pity sex. If she does feel like it's obligation sex, then it's no wonder that she isn't into it as much as she used to be. Also, age might be a factor. Women don't have the same desire throughout their lives, and men don't either. She might just be uninterested in sex at the moment. Tough shit, if that's the case. That would mean nothing is wrong with her. And as fucked as it sounds, having more sex/orgasms can help to improve the way you feel. Since you mentioned child support, I am assuming she had a child relatively recently. Were you guys doing the horizontal boogie often during the pregnancy? Did you try to push her around your bed with the end of your dick soon after the baby was born? Now, some protips -- use your own spit for lube. Don't just try forcing a dry dick into a dry pussy, you could seriously injure yourself. That would be worse than not having much sex. No phlegm, just a decent amount of saliva in the palm of your hand. Or buy some lubricant, it's not even expensive. Masturbate more often. I jack mine twice a day most days. Always have. I masturbate in front of my partner. Always have. I'm going to assume you don't masturbate in front of her, in which case, talk about it. Say that your sex drive is high, and that you enjoy masturbating regularly. Also, have you seen her masturbate? Just getting off next to each other might help, as long as you both don't have any hang ups about that type of thing. She might need professional help, and you might too. You might have to sit down with a relationship counsellor and go over your relationship. Sorry if my advice is shit and doesn't help you, but I am assuming that there might be something you need to hear, and you haven't given enough specific information for me to be able to judge exactly what is happening here. But at the end of the day, this is not about one of you.
Hey I had some experience of weed sex with girls who smoked for the first time. The key is definitely low dosage for first timer! If it were volcano vaporizer, one bag is enough. If you smoke it, I usually mix 0.5 gram flower with tabacco into a cigarette. I assure you this would work. You can still be as stoned as you want... But keep it down for her...
It is absolutely ok to move on and find someone who makes you happy. The sooner you find someone who likes and does the things you do, the sooner you will be happy yourself!
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