then she doesnt have a problem with the smoking, shes looking for an excuse to complain. to me that would be a sign that the relationship is over, because if it bothers her that much that you smoke, but shes willing to get fucked up on alcohol, its just an excuse for her to feel guilt free when she ends it with you or cheats on you. and unless you get past this problem in a real way other than hiding it from her, thats all that can come from this even if its a year down the road EDIT: lol i just realized this was 06. oh well, it still applies to similar situations