I am sure I am not the only one in this group who feels this way and part of it I believe I brought onto myself. I grow lots of high grade flame as my friends call it. I spend a lot of time money and energy on my hobby and do not sell my product to anyone. I am blessed to have an awesome rewarding career (not in cannabis) I know people would just about kill for. I can’t remember the last time I had to put something back at the store. Anyways I always give ounces to my friends whenever they come over for free. I have noticed some of my friends will only text me when they need buds. Some of my friends will drive an hour to me and hang for twenty minutes then leave when I give them bud. I feel bad that I have all of this bud and they don’t but this is getting annoying. I am a strong person w boundaries and feel violated by some of my friends. Sometimes I make quick decisions that hurt people so I don’t wanna axe anyone. Just kinda hurts when ur boys you went to college with ten years ago just hit you up for free weed and nothing else. I guess it’s time for new friends Hugh. Maybe be a little more reserved with my gifts in the future. Just wish I had a genuine friend like myself, and I am not on my high horse saying I am all perfect either but cmon guys. Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
Na bro you are more than right to feel the way you do..... I cannot lie I weed people out of my life every few months, do a big maintenance once a year and look at long time people in my life..... and by how you described a lot of your “friends”, it’s time to get healthy and weed some fools out..... just my honest thoughts......
I understand this from a slightly different perspective. I've had business, and I've had friends. Sadly, friendship ends up kind of bleeding in to the business and in the end sometimes it looks like all business...easy enough to figure out...is that they're only ever in contact when they need something. Stoners can be a bit shit with friendship too...making the time, prioritising getting stoned above all else... In the end I realised I have my brother and maybe one friend I'd consider "real". There's people I like...they *were* friends, but sometimes business changes that dynamic...there's a lot that I miss actually hanging out with but I guess it's just easier to grab and go. Little depressing, but it is what it is. I was of course always generous with my friends. But yeah, it's a bit of a kick in the balls personally when they don't seem to consider you worthy of the time that you'd willingly put forward for them. You try to arrange anything with them outside of the standard procedure, and it never happens...they never get back to me. It's like, if it's going to be almost this pretense of friendship...this facade, I'd rather it wasn't there in the first place because all of the nicety of it just seems pointless and adds time to the mix...A while after I started to realise this was happening, I just stopped trying. That's another thing that will let you know...when you stop bothering to contact them, all contact goes to zero aside from their requests to sort them out. I don't know...I've always tried to make time for people and maintain friendships...but there's always that unfortunate duplicity to the role when it comes to friends/former friends...and a lot of them just don't seem to bother about it at all. Don't get me wrong - I'm not talking about the business only people at all, with them there's no pretense and I'm not the kind of guy that needs to be chummy with everyone. I'm talking about actual friends...or at least, I was. I have this feeling that I am treated more like some kind of fictional character, this idea they build up as to what they think I'm supposed to be, than a friend. I haven't changed. It's a bit depressing I guess...but what can you do. Don't put yourself out there and throw around too many favours...and when you do, make sure there's some kind of actual interest in you, some kind of actual reciprocation in their conduct. I have to say, I feel better since I've stopped trying.
I've got friends and family the same way... only call when they need something, but lord forbid they try to help you in time of need, or even offer. We live in a world of me me me, unfortunately my friend. I too need to severe some ties, so I can feel you on the reluctancy to do so. I agree with @FL430, sometimes you got to weed them out....
Yeah man I am lonely and don’t have a lot of friends which is odd. I have a lot in life but lack a genuine social life and am learning that I cannot purchase that. Do you have everything you’ve ever wanted? Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
How old are you boss? Literally sounds like we are a few years apart. And if you are in fact 31-32 welcome to life bro beans...... shit changes, older you get the more secluded you get until you ha e kiddos then their friends become friends for you (meaning their parents)..... I don’t have friends either..... I have “friends” like they’ll hit me up for a beer at the bar on occasion or I see them at work, but hell thats really it.....
You know what’s funny about that, I served with a guy who came from poverty..... and he said “when we were dirt broke eating peanut butter and crackers for days straight due to waiting for pay day, my family and friends life was great. As soon as dad started making good consistent money, family and friends went to hell. But as soon as we lost it all again, life was “easier” and more fulfilling.”
I have friends that don't know my cannabis 'hobby' and I don't want them to know as its none of their business (including my babes) also in 10 years most my good buddies are dead or in prison .. that alone is a sobering thought How far how long you tolerate these leeches is your affair but yeah on average I loose an 0z a week to tippers thats 28 tips a gram each mostlry for info in dirt with compition..crims cops and what not its worth the leech for that special info already that 0z per week has paid back many many times just these 2 months alone consider?
Maybe make new friends n not give em weed every time ya see em. I wouldn’t even tell em ya grow, that way ya make friends that like YOU not the product ya provide too them. Do you have anything else to offer besides weed?
If you're a strong person with boundries then start acting like a strong person with boundries and not a rug for your so called "friends" to walk all over.