Friend issues. Need help.

those aren't friends dawg

fuck 'em

 

Life is a journey. Along it you meet new and more interesting
people. Some time you will meet new friends to hang out with.

You should try to join some clubs or organizations
in your school. That might help you make new friends.

 

I was in a very similar situation to this whenever I was back in high school. Honestly, in the end its just not worth it. They probably see you as self conscious, someone that can't stand up for themselves, and feel as if they're doing them justice by treating you like shit.

Bluntly, its stupid, and looking back now, I am so glad I made the right decision and decided that until I gave up on them and accepted myself for who I was, they would always treat me like crap and would never change. If they are really your friends, they would care and understand why you're upset if you spoke your mind. If you told them to treat you with respect and they laughed at you, I would probably flick them the bird at that point, take my weed with me, and never allow them or their undeserving lungs to inhale your nugs again.

My philosophy is that standing up for yourself does not make you come across as a jerk, but rather, causes your friends to treat you with more respect than they ever would a passive friend who can't defend themselves.

Symbolically though, they are trying to get you to stand up for yourself by treating you like crap, but they'll never admit it because they're too egotistical and too stuck in their one-trac mind to realize it. If they're really your friends, they'll care when you're not around, they'll care when you never see them again because of the way they treat you; and even if you don't feel as if they'll initially understand, they will. Marijuana makes you analyze yourself and your actions toward others, and they'll either choose to accept the fact that they were dicks, or will live in complete ignorance and ignore it. This is the difference between maturity and immaturity.

Lastly, they can't possibly be the only two people in your entire school that smoke bud... there is a good number of people that smoke the plant, and eventually you'll run into another person who loves the plant as much as you do. You meet people for reasons, and if you never let go of the past, you're never able to except the future.

 

Yup, same here dude. In my small town there's basically no one left, I got sick of all the stuck up bitches and hoes. They all think I'm weird for taking a year off of life lol. I finally decided to say fuck 'em, I'm going to do my own thing.

 

I remember the last guy who was a dick like that to me.

One night he got all drunk, and instead of just verbally being a assface he decided he wanted to get physical, I normally try not to fight but if you wanna fight it's your own damn choice.

He tried to get me in a headlock while I was sitting on the couch, suckerpunched me in the nose so I headbutted him and broke his.

People who are genuine assholes will try to show their "dominance" some times you just have to how them they aren't quite as bitchin as they thought they were

 

Call them names back. Take some time and think of some really good insults. A GOOD insult will shut someone up. A bad one will make them hate on you more.

 

"Two wrongs don't make a right."

 

Those others, like other posters have said, aren't really your friends; if you have told them how you feel and they keep on being arseholes...

Seriously, there will be others around who smoke, they just don't advertise the fact.

As for this BBQ, have fun, and if the situation seems applicable, everyone getting drunk, just say "does anyone mind if I have a smoke", chances are they'll say no, and if you're lucky one or two might ask for twos.

GL mate

 

yea there are others you can find to help you but the fact is that you would have to make the leap of having no weed in order to cut the cocksuckers off and you'd be facing a period of uncertainty until you could find another 'plug'. so depending on the level of self respect you like to maintain vs your need for weed it may or may not be worth just telling them to go fuck their mothers or just not answering when they knock or call or whatever and by doing that you'll just completely avoid them and MAYBE theyll realize how shitty they were but usually they dont. its not built into their programming.

or it may be worth it to endure their shitty remarks and disrespect.. it all depends on the details.

i can definitley relate though, ive known more than a few people and am actually dealing with a person right now that likes to act one way when its one on one but when additional people are thrown into the mix things change and i start feeling... disrespected.

but thats the cost of having 'norms' as friends, in my case anyway. if you want to fuck around with these dull, dense, soulless, blobs of flesh then you have to learn to adapt to their inhuman ways. sometimes. it alldepends. but it definitley never hurts to have a few 'normal' friends lying around, if you can mangae to keep them around without just kicking the shit out of them.

the trick is to just barely give them enough to keep them in the picture but out of your way. it can be tough, bc as a GOOD friend, you yourself will have a natural inclination toward being helpful, supportive, totally open, and always on your bro's side and there for him etc etc.

you have to fight that... bc when dealing with 'norms' that sort of giving behavior will come back to haunt you every time.

what you should really do is keep hanging and next time they start saying shit just get REAL pissed off and see if they back down and if not fight one or all of them right there on the spot. dont let them fuck with you!

 

Some people, even those that have good ethics, never really comprehend their actions towards others because they're too focused on themselves and their own perspective to take the time and see anyone else's. Its not their fault that they live in ignorance, well it is, but they haven't had a significant breakthrough which has allowed them to see their true self.

This portrays that even though they're a good friend and respect you on some levels, they're also self conscious about themselves and how others perceive them, causing them to project their insecurities usually by insults, expressing their desire to be perceived as someone who's in control. It may be a scapegoat method of controlling someone either mentally or emotionally, but in the end its never beneficial, and usually causes one side to feel inferior or disrespected, like you said.

Normal is a stereotype in itself, because no one is actually normal. I see people constantly trying to fit the stoner stereotype, almost like they're trying to portray someone else's behavior to rationalize their illegal acts to themselves. Honestly, a lot of people smoke, but the only reason that people always get into the groups of kids that are either bad and do more illegal stuff than just smoke a plant, or are failures in their own reality and use marijuana as a scapegoat for their inability to care about reality. Usually, the people that smoke weed that are intellectual, or actually worth knowing hide the fact that they smoke because they have purposes that don't exist completely around smoking a plant, and don't use the drug as a method of escape from everyday life, but rather as a way to relax and enjoy life for what it truly is.

Knowing the difference between speaking your mind and telling someone off are two completely different things, and the latter usually never works to your benefit. Whenever you get aggressively defensive, people tend to mirror those emotions right back at you, causing them to get pissed off as a way to preserve their true emotions. If you always treat someone with respect, and they treat you like crap, you need to tell them about it, because if you never do how are they ever suppose to know that they're in the wrong? However, if they know that they're wrong for treating you the way they are, then you simply shouldn't associate yourself with them. Sure, you might get smoked up more if you have friends that are dicks, but is it really worth giving up a part of yourself and your individual self respect in order to feel a sense of belonging and self satisfaction by smoking?

There is multifarious possible ways to look at this, but I know for a fact that I would not be able to put up with this after a certain period of time (because I have before, and it sucks, and learned to be more dependent as a result of it).

Also, I'm not attacking your post by any means if it appears as if i came across as assertive or straightforward; I'm merely offering my opinion and hoping that you will return some of your own as well.