Do you forgive people that have done very hurtful things to you? Basically, about 2 years ago my best friend (wel call him "B") was heavily involved in unmentionables and getting worse rapidly.. Me being his best friend i attempted to get him help thinking that this is the right thing to do to save him. We were young and still in H.S. so i went to an adult figure in our life and told him what was going on and that he needed help. Unfortunately it back fired and my friend considered it me ratting him out. He knew a few police officers, So to get back at me he ended up going to the police and my parents and telling them that im involved in weed and other things and that i sell drugs also, which was completely false. No charges were filed or anything but it caused all type of problems between me and my parents and stuff.. We had already graduated when he did this so we were off to different colleges and lives, i swore that if i ever saw him anywhere i would beat the crap out of him and i was never going to be his friend again, let alone forgive him. Now fast forward 2 years later to about an hour ago at 3 a.m. on a random saturday night.. i get a call from an other friend and he says someone wants to talk to me.. another voice gets on the phone and its "B".. honestly i was shocked and got an adrenaline rush and was kind of shaking.. He was being nice and asking me how i was and i was just being very short with him and kind of mean. He asked if we were on good terms and i said no im not cool with you at all. He asked why and i told him dont be stupid you know why. so my other friend got back on the phone and pleaded with me that "B" just wants to be friends and forget all that other shit.. I didnt budge tho.. It was so hard for me to forgive him and just act like everything was cool.. I felt like if i did that then i was being fake in a way or something. I know grudges are not good to hold onto and anger being locked in is terrible for you. Now an hour later i feel like maybe the best thing to do would be just to forgive him and move on. I feel bad that i was such an asshole on the phone to both my friends. I respect that he called and made an effort but for whatever reason i was not able to forgive him..