my plants are a month old now. i ahve some questions when is a good time to start giving them plant food? what is the best to feed them? when and how do i tell if its a female?do you think the fat one could be a male cause of how chunky the leaves are? i dont know what to do with the whole budding process.. do i leave them alone and let them do their thing? what am i supposed to do to get them to bbud? THANKS