Firm Handshakes are... intimidating?

Some guys take the firm handshake too serious and crush your hand. I've even had some idiots crush my fingers without getting a good grip on the hand know what I mean? These people come off worse then someone who has a limp handshake. I hate bad handshakes there is definitely a difference between a firm handshake and being a douche.

 

i always give a firm handshake, never too rough though that's fucked up. i hate people who are men and shake your hand like a girl, put some muscle into it!

 

I really really really dislike the word "Firm".

But a handshake to me is just a man to man thing to introduce yourself, it's a first impression, and the western way of a first or professional greeting.

This is a weird ass subject trying to explain, but just give a good handshake, it's not that complicated.

If someone comes at me and tries to give me a "hard" handshake like squeezing my hand and shit hurting my fingers, I'll fight you on the spot, and I'm not a violent person.

 

When someone squeezes my hand as hard as they can when I meet them I just grab their knuckles and squeeze twist as hard as possible and try to inflict as much pain as I can.. And then act like I didn't mean to

 

Youre not a violent person but you would start a fight over a handshake?

 

If someone is grabbing my hand and purposely squeezing hard to the point it's hurting my hand like some have mentioned in this thread, I view that as an attack on me, self defense.

 

There is a very distinct difference between firm and hard. My guess is, if people react this way to your handshakes like this, then you are giving hard hand shakes. Stop it. It's not a contest. It's a form of introduction, reverence and respect.

 

you gotta do it different for everyone for all hands are different.

 

I doubt the judge would see it that way when you are in court for assualt...

 

A handshake that is overly firm is just as indicative of insecurity as a wet noodly handshake. A smart man can tell.

 

i hate when people give these half assed limp wrist ass hand shakes...its like man the fuck up and shake my motha fukin hand...but then theres those tools who think the harder they grip your hand the "manlier" they might be seen...wrong, your just a fool in my book...

 

I prefer a more balanced handshake. Not to hard, and not a dead fish. I understand why some guys feel the need to crush your hand with their dick pleaser. It makes them feel more alpha. They feel the need to initiate their mind set to you when they are gripping your hand so tight. Sort of subconscious thing.. The dead fish shake can be taken either one of two ways. The person just has a weaker grip and that is all there is to it. Or the person is just kind of caught off guard so his initial reaction is a weaker grip but forgets to tell himself to man it up a couple notches..

 

I give a firm handshake. I make my hand rock hard and lightly squeeze. This way i don't smash their hand but it still gets the rigid effect you want in a handshake.

 

I like how some of you guys have game plans when it comes to this

 

what the fuck is this the 1950s?? sheesh.

judgement by handshake is how we roll still? fuck i thought the world was advancing a little more than that by this point.

 

A handshake should reflect confidence not cockiness.

Heres how I described it to my classes, "Shake hands the same way you would hold you're 3yo's hand crossing the street."

 

I dont shake hands, too many germs

 

Bro shake or gtfo!

but yeah, a good solid connect is all you really need to do. No need to squeeze.

Wtf is up with people wanting to continue shaking though? 1 or 2 shakes or you're playing with it..

 

i think someone opening their mouth and actually communicating means more than a fucking misguided handshake, or as i like to call it, dick contest.