So I met a few friends from work, we started hanging out, and I've taken a liking to both of them. Problem is, they have a rocky relationship, recently broke up and are essentially single, still living together, and things aren't exactly peachy anymore... The guy is definitely acting weird, and I would suspect he thinks me and his now ex have been fucking each other during the few hours we spend alone, and keeps relying heavily on guilt trips to discourage me from making a move. Yesterday he invited me over, we all hung for about 8-9 hours, had some drinks, but he was really quiet (he's usually extremely talkative), being a huge dick, and just going well out of his way to kill the entire vibe. The girl, as aforementioned we've been hanging out alone for a few hours after work. She's actually awesome as fuck, and a lot of fun. We haven't done ANYTHING remotely sexual (yet ) Shit, last night me and her were doing all the talking, fun having and he seemed to get more and more angry as the night went on. I personally would say that while she was drunk, and a lil' rambunctious, she was pretty well behaved, in a good mood for most of the night, and definitely wasn't the problem. What I wanted to ask GC, is... Am I going to have to choose one of them over the other? I obviously can't hang out with them together without all that break up tension, him firing off snide remarks that seem fine tailored to get her all emotional, and/or the overall awkwardness... They definitely both have their quirks, but I honestly feel more comfortable around the girl b/c so far my one on one time with her has never been unpleasant. We also have a lot of the same tastes in music, humor, etc. Damn... How do I navigate this conundrum?
well the guy must still have feelings for the gal he broke up with ,,,i cant see all meeting up to smoke and drink and have fun together is not going to work ,,,,,you could of course ask him out right if he still as feelings for the gal ...and that things from there if you dont sort it out with him ,i reckon it could end up a nasty situation ,,,,,but while hes acting like this dont get together like nothing wrong ,,,mac,
Well as for the meet ups, HE'S arranging and OK with me hanging alone with her. We all used to work together until he moved to a different department & shift, so me and her work together all day & smoke up until he gets off and we all hang for a few hours. I think he initially intended for me to babysit her and make sure she doesn't do anything he doesn't want (like drink, talk to other guys). He tried guilt tripping me about being his friend and that I'm the only guy he trusts to be around her alone. I joked about my dry spell and if she throws me a bone, I'm gonna gnaw on it (not my exact words) pretty sure he was looking to hear, "Don't worry bro, you can trust me!" Not necessarily. We work together, we both like to smoke weed, so we hang so she has someone to smoke weed with. As of now we're two single adults, and if we do bump uglies, that's really nobodies buisness but me & her. If she wants me to scratch her itch, who am I to say no?
Basically I think you're trying to get some sort of validation that it's like morally OK to take it to the next level with the woman, I would say yes but you'll ruin your friendship with the guy. So meh, you obviously don't care about him that much, have the sex and come what may. How funny would it be if she rejected you tho Let us know if it was all worth it Sent from my SM-G950F using Grasscity Forum mobile app
You are gunna have to probably make a choice whether you want to stay friends with the dude or fuck this chick and see where that goes...Depends how good a friend it is to you, or if it is just more of a work acquaintance, but if you end up starting to bang this chick, your friendship with the guy will likely be done.
How do you navigate through this situation? What are you talking about OP, you've already made your intentions clear and then ask how to navigate through it? This thread is pointless.
From the way it sounds to me, dude still has feelings for the girl. You can probably fuck her but be prepared for the shit storm of drama that will come with it when he finds out. Personally, back in my single days, I'd go for it unless you actually care about dudes feelings. If she's an "ex", she's fair game.
[QUOTE="jizzledfreq, post: 23723760, member: 494161" They definitely both have their quirks, but I honestly feel more comfortable around the girl b/c so far my one on one time with her has never been unpleasant. We also have a lot of the same tastes in music, humor, etc. [/QUOTE] You probably only feel that way because you want to bang her. Already it sounds like you made your decision. I know I would never bang any of my friends ex girlfriends that he may have feelings for, I've been offered plenty of times lol, but that's too shady in my honest opinion. Sounds to me like you really don't give a crap about him so maybe "friend" is not the right word
I agree 100% lol his friend obviously knows what his intentions are and OP does too thats why hes telling people online they havent had sex... (yet) friends sure as fuck dont do that.. OP of course you like the girl best she has a vag... Lmao
Nah, she's genuinely more chiller. My main problem with him is he is a chatty cathy and often intends to load something for us to smoke, only to spend literally and hour and a half fucking talking, even after multiple times reminding him. Her, she'll load something, smoke, load, and we're always super baked and never waiting over an hour for someone to finish explaining something before he lights, loads, or passes. We've never had sex, everytime we hang alone we smoke, listen to music, talk about whatever, talk shit to each other. If she wants the bone this dirty dawgs gonna bury it.
One time I was over at my buddies place; his girlfriend and him had broken up weeks beforehand. Our mutual friend, we'll call him Jesse, is kind of known as a.. Vulture, meaning, if there is weed to be smoked, he'll just kind of hang around and wait, because even though everyone wants him to leave, nobody will ask.. If there are women around, he'll just kind of make small talk, not make any big moves and just kind of.. Hang around, often being a cock block for some situation that is ready to get hot and heavy, having no real regard for anybody, other than himself, including friends. So, of course, my buddy's ex is "Friends" with Jesse, friends meaning, she'll smoke his weed, spend his money, keep him on the outside entirely, but never give his weak ass any pussy. One day, Jesse gets fed up and begins asking my buddy's ex to basically hook up and she shoots a text to my buddy saying, "Hey, your supposed friend, Jesse, is asking me to smash." You see how that works? She'll smoke Jesses weed, spend his money, waste his time and even sleep over at his house, but the second the word pussy comes up, she invokes the friend clause. Why? Because she already has Jesse's money, Jesse's time and Jesse's attention, so why would she feel the need to give any pussy out? They are just friends, in her eyes and more over, she is already getting everything that she wants from Jesse. So what happens to Jesse? Jesse is now out money, time, the supposed opportunity for pussy that he thought he had and a friend. You know who loses? Jesse. You know who is fucking? The two that broke up.. Yup, they are still fucking when Jesse is trying to smash, even though they are broken up, but does Jesse know that? No, because it is not Jesse's business, he is just a friend on the outside. You are Jesse. Weak. No balls.. Just hanging around; do yourself a favor, Jesse and quit hanging around and go find something that is worth your time.
UPDATE: - They broke up. - She moved out and into her rebounds. - Literally EVERYONE thinks me and the girl have something romantic or sexual going on (even the rebound) and are insanely jealous whenever I'm around - He (The Ex) HATES the fact that me and his ex get along a lot better than me & him, and constantly guilt trips me about hanging out w/ her. - He (The Ex) is plotting on the DL, apologized the the rebound, getting into his head, attepting to befriend him... - Me, not getting involved in all the drama, hanging with my new friend and doing what we love to do best, smoke some mfin DABBBSSS
At this point in time we're just two friends who get along very well, but I can DEFINITELY say I'm not in the friend zone. Pretty sure if me and her are ever alone with alcohol and dabs, we're gonna end up fucking each others brains out.
Fucking LOL. "I'm not in the friend zone, I just need to get her smashed out of her skull and then I'll throw down my moves" Here's me thinking this guy did the right thing and moved on. Why would you even bother unless you're starved of vagina? Actually don't worry, I just answered my own question.
Now you're friends, but not in the friend zone? Then do you have feelings for her or does she has feelings for you? If you like her then go ahead, if not you should stay out of this mess.