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Father-son weed relationship question!!

Discussion in 'Beginner Cannabis Consumption & Tips' started by vaa, Nov 28, 2010.

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  1. #1 vaa, Nov 28, 2010
    Hello, first of all I'd like to say I'm 18, so no need to call for underage :)
    This post is mainly for fathers, but I'd like to hear everyone's opinion.

    Well I've been living with my dad only since I was 11, I was always a good guy and have a great relationship with my dad. When i was younger i saw him smoking joints, and asked him what it was and he told me that it was cigarettes he rolled, but of course as I grew up I realized it's not just that... The smell is pretty unique :p:p And the dank i found in a cd case didn't look like tobacco either:smoke::smoke:

    Well, I've waited until im 18 to tell him I smoke, do you think its a good idea? I don't think he would be angry, as he smokes pretty much ERRYDAY himself, and the fact that I smoke does not influence my life in a bad way (i think im a good son, i am in my 5th year of high school and i have excellent grades, i never cause trouble, im respectful and help at home, fuck i wanna be my own son :smoke::smoke:). Do you think it would be a good idea to just tell him and ask him if he is cool with it?

    One more thing: I thought of growing a couple plants so i dont have to deal with shady dealers anymore. And i wanted to discuss it with him, i dont want to grow it in his house without him knowing. Think this is a good idea too? I think he is sick & tired of the prices / dealers too:smoke::smoke: and smoking erryday takes up a lot of money.

    So fathers, how would you react to this? Anybody had a similar experience?
    I am pretty sure growing a couple plants would make our father-son relatioship even stronger.

    Thanks everyone:hello:
     
  2. #2 Feelin Light, Nov 28, 2010
    I think its a great idea to ask him. Seems like it would go fine, but id wait about the growing. just incase he doesnt completely like the idea of you smoking and then even throwing out the idea of growing.

    And who knows he might have a secret grow room of his own :hello:
     
  3. #3 adambommb, Nov 28, 2010
    OP is one lucky dude, most of us can only hope for a relationship like this with our dads
    you should definitely ask him to smoke a bowl with you first, then get to talking while youre blazed and mention that youve been thinking about growing to save some cash, im sure he'll agree if hes nice and toasty
     
  4. #4 theVirtuoso, Nov 28, 2010
    Well, I moved back with my parents a couple years ago and since then my pops and I have been toking together a couple times a week and I grow for the two of us. It's helped us get closer, and I think if he's okay with it, you two growing together could be a really cool bonding experience.

    He knew I smoked since I was 16 or so and while we did toke together on some occasion back then, it definitely changed when I turned 18 (and even again when I turned 21). Both my parents were much, much more accepting of me toking and drinking as I grew into my own.

    If you're 18 and have your shit together, as long as he isn't a massive hypocrite and you guys have a decent relationship (as you said you did) you shouldn't have a problem bringing it up to him. The first talk is really important so when you guys talk about it make sure to emphasize that it's just a smaller part of your life and that you can handle your shit and still smoke.

    Honestly, the very few amount of times my father has tried to have any real "father-son talk"'s with me was after we had just smoked and he was more comfortable opening up to me.

    This could definitely be a great bonding experience for you and your father.
     
  5. #5 Necromancer, Nov 28, 2010
    i'd just like to start off by saying that if you're in your 5th year of high school your grades must have sucked in the past

    as for the actual topic, go for it if you want, we can't really make the decision for you. my entire family smokes and i've always known about it so i never had this problem
     
  6. #6 CDub 2 Trill, Nov 28, 2010
    i wouldn't let my son grow in my house.
    Kids like to have a big mouth about that thing.
    just my opinion though
     
  7. #7 vaa, Nov 28, 2010
    Thanks for the opinions. He is a very open-minded person and has never imposed his beliefs on me, nor has he been hypocritical (this is why I decided to live with him), and yes our relationship is very good, I got my shit together and never caused him problems (as I said i am very respectful and helpful at home).
    I think when I get the occasion i'll just tell him i want to talk to him, and see his reaction.
    I mean it's worth trying, we are very good friends and I think that even if he is not cool with it a single thing like this won't ruin our relationship (at least I hope, I mean this is a logic conclusion but sometimes people are strange)
     
  8. #8 vaa, Nov 28, 2010
    Where I live high school years are 5, and I have always done great. I know you cant make the decision for me, just wanted to hear some opinions/experiences.
     
  9. #9 vaa, Nov 28, 2010
    Yeah i know i doubt he does too, but I think he will appreciate the fact that I asked him and I didnt just do it under his nose. I mean in the worst case he will just say no.
     
  10. #10 Cobrinha, Nov 28, 2010
    Stop saying ERRYDAY. But yes, i do think you should tell him.
     
  11. #11 vaa, Nov 28, 2010
    Sorry but i am really really baked, and actually surprised i can even spell properly :smoke:
     
  12. #12 vaa, Nov 28, 2010
    One more question guys: do you think growing a couple plants yourself (given the fact nobody except the growers know about it) is safer than buying the weed from a dealer?
    If yes, it sounds like quite a strong argument to me :)
     
  13. #13 Hesopchoie, Nov 28, 2010
    It sounds like he wouldnt care. He probably already knows and you just dont know he does. Usually people know that their parents know because they get caught and yelled at. Well if your dad doesnt care then he probably just didnt think he should say anything.
     
  14. #14 RedMagic, Nov 28, 2010
    Go for it. Casually bring up marijuana at dinner one night or something, and lead into telling him you smoke. Gauge his reaction and if he's cool about it, start talking about dealers and all that then bring up maybe you and him growing a couple plants, like personal between you two. Hell, I'm sure that could turn into good bonding time for you and him.
     
  15. #15 vaa, Nov 28, 2010
    I think ill do that. Hell, i even watched "grass" with him. I don't even know why im scared to bring it up.
     
  16. #16 RyannDanks, Dec 14, 2010
    Well, my brother kinda broke my parents in on it, considering he smoked everyday, all day, for years and always got caught. My parents realized that there was really nothing they could do about it, so they stopped caring, really. Dad-wise, my step-dad doesn't really give two shits anymore, he just laughs and jokes about it. Now my biological father, on the other hand, tweaks about it if we get on the topic. I guess he has his reasons though.. Being the guy he used to be.:wave:
     
  17. #17 AlphApe, Dec 14, 2010
    I'd say go for it mate,
    Me and my brother having been bunning for a while now, our parents know we know and we know they know, and theres no problem as long as we do well at college. If your dad was that worried he would have brought up the subject before. Maybe hes nervous but really wants to smoke a fat zoot with you ;)
     
  18. #18 Iraqiunit, Dec 14, 2010
    super senior?
     
  19. #19 gridvista, Dec 14, 2010
    You get held back? I'm on my senior year and i'm graduating this Jan. My father is in love with the fact i get my diploma early.

    I would ask him about growing....if he lives alone. My father lives with his gf so he says no to me because of her. Just ask him if its cool to smoke with him or just smoke period you wont know until you ask.
     
  20. #20 vaa, Dec 20, 2010
    Which part of im not from the USA and not everywhere high school lasts 4 years isnt clear?
    All the smart comments about how im supposedly underage dont really help.
     
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