i've never had a problem not having a real relationship or long term best friends. But i've been curious why I can't even manage to be a good friend. And the simple answer is "i don't care". How well you feel your emotions (or passions) and how appropriately you react on them, I guess, is known as your emotional intelligence. I've recently discovered, overall, i'm emotionally unintelligent. I mostly agree with it, and if it's true I can't say I would like to stay the way I am, or become more emotionally intelligent. If content is an emotion, i would say i'm very emotionally intelligent. I have a low stimulus to emotions (love, fear, guilt, happiness, sadness). It seems my most active emotion branches off of anger: rage. And most of that anger and rage comes from annoyance. And than when I do feel exerted emotions of the mentioned, I tend to react innaproprietly or not at all. I'm thinking that since I'm posting this here I must want to change, right? Has anyone encountered this in their life and fixed it? Does anyone know what causes it (genes, life experience, ?).
Apathy is my life story. EDIT: The only advice I have is to be completly yourself. If you dont care, then act like you dont care. Just do what you feel, and be who you are
The fact that you think your emotionally unintelligent makes you somewhat emotionally intelligent. The real emotionally handicapped people think everyone has the same feelings and emotions as they do. And Rarely think about the emotions of others.
i would have to say jsut about everything you said was me but in middle school and my first years of high school. i was so damn immature.
If you would like to become more emotionally intelligent start smoking more weed and also if you wanted to take some shrooms or LSD.
Here's an example of someone who is emotionally unintelligent. http://break.com/index/cheater_busted_war_or_the_roses.html He cheated on his wife and got caught and didn't even feel bad about it.
^true and also i agree that smoking weed over the long term has probably made me more emotionally intelligent....
Weed has definitely made me more emotionally intelligent. when i'm high (which is most if not all party situations, where drama happens most), I pick up on that shit 10 minutes for it hits the fan. sometimes i try to chill everyone out before it escalates, sometimes i let it happen, because it'll be funny to watch these 2 fight, cause i know it won't mean anything tomorrow, or i don't know the kids, so i don't really care. But man, I was becoming more and more like you in the sense that i had no emotions, and when i'm sober or just drunk, it's gotta be either a little kid or a sweet defenseless girl getting ransacked to have me feeling good interpersonal relations. It's shifting more in the right direction lately, and really, i have weed to thank for it. I've had dozens of things happen to me that didn't bother me at all high, but would've pissed me off enough to ruin my night if i were not high, or not the right amount of drunk. I'd say either smoke more weed, or find your right amount of drunk and stay that as much as you can. If weed or that amount of drunk works for you like it did for me, and you do it enough like i did, eventually those emotions that tie you to people will start to come out more. I've had more super high-quality conversations with people who weren't stoned when I was it's not even funny. i'm rambling on, and probably have been for a while, but i just realized. good god i did it again. sorry, i'm fuckin lit. yeah man, smoke more weed.