Anyone have any experience in a legit Dom/Sub relationship? Do you have any advice for a novice? All useful information is welcomed.
just want to join this thread though i don't really have anything to add. it's such a broad area i don't know what you want to know.
Chick I was involved with liked to be dominated with the curtains open so people could watch. Don't know how many people saw us lol.
Some girls are fucking dangerous eh? haha. My gf likes outdoor sex or in public places, gonna get me in trouble lol.. So worth it. You'll find her mate. You'll take the most innocent girl on an innocent date an innocent few times then boom, she'll be making you spank her and be rough with her out of nowhere. It's a magical thing really.
Hmmmm. Well I think its good to figure out what your limits are. What is and is not ok. That's the first thing you should do and then you need a safe word. You also need to figure out what type restraints you want to use... rope, silk rope, handcuffs, spread bar, the under the bed restraint system, etc. If you want to try a specific scene then you need to tell your dom that your interested in it. Each dom is different, but some may have certain rules like you must call them sir or master. Or they may only let you cum when they want you too. You may be punished for not doing what they ask. They may ask you to wear certain clothes. There's all kinds of different toys that can be implemented... my favorite toys are spanking toys. You could get a paddle, a flogger, a whip or a riding crop. And then there's dildos and anal toys... nipple clamps, collars and leashes that can be added. I find bdsm to be the most satisfying type of sex. Giving up control like that is... scary and exciting and empowering. I find it to be cathartic and I haven't even gone that deep into it. There's a shitload more info on it, but I was trying to cover the basics.
It's too bad i've never had a woman that was willing to try. It's something i am really interested in but have always hid it. I'm pretty much posting just to sub so i can read any good posts
I'm actually not into it. I've tried rough sex but I'd rather sex be soft and sensual. I made this thread for someone else but unfortunately it didn't really take off. Oh well. : /
I have a master and my advice is to make sure you and your lover are on the same terms as to how far you want to take things. There's a difference between a Bdsm sex life and a bdsm relationship. One obviously comes with a lot more trust and responsibility. You don't want to be thinking of you fwb who likes a rough fuck as your master in the sense that you want to be bound to them, serve them, and love them unconditionally. You're going to get hurt. And/Or a restraining order. Research the difference between a pet and a slave. How do you want to be treated? A master and a dom. Do you want to protect or use, mercilessly? And what each role's duties and functions include. Of course if you're just fucking around it's much more simple. You still need trust and intuition but not as deep. Make sure you know each oher's pain and psychological boundaries either way it goes. Of course a safe word is always good, and know your own depths and limits. Just be smart, safe, and take things at a pace you feel comfortable with, with someone you feel comfortable with. I hope this helps and makes sense. I'm very stoned
Haha she was a friend I met on a game/chat site. We talked non stop and then it became smoke/fuck buddies, then things got really complicated. It slowly evolved into a serious relationship and I'm really happy we found each other. So basically doing what I said not to do and then some