i find a lot of people say they don't care what other people think of them. my friend can be so adament that he doesn't care but when it comes to a situation where we're around people there is a change in his attitude. he becomes all tense and nervous. like his shoulders are touching his ears he's so pent up. i wonder whether people who say they don't care what others think have actually just learnt how to force themselves into an attitude when they feel under others scrutiny. so basically they do care they've just changed their attitude towards it. does anyone here genuinely hand on heart not care what others think? or do you just say that?