Aight grasscity. I wont bore you with a long essay about my life but essentially here is the last two weeks in a nutshell. i just broke off all contact with this one girl that i talked to the entire first semester of college, we both had feelings before winter break (which is a month long) and we wanted to try a relationship when we got back. but over break she started seeing some other guy who, i guess you could say is her boyfriend that she forgot to tell me about. anyways, theres more to that story but i broke off all contact, deleted her number and we had an argument and stuff. its over though. one weekend after that i go to a party right, and there's this girl from my floor in the dorms, that i met literally first day of college but we never hung out because i was always with this other girl. for the sake of having a name, lets call her..Brooke. aight so, this girl brooke basically always said hi to me and smiled, perfect laugh no joke. but she made a bestfriend here who in fact is a guy. that guy has a girlfriend though from back home but that doesn't stop them from hanging out 24/7. anyways, at that party me and brooke really got at it and had so much fun, we basically were holding each other laughing the ENTIRE time, making out the entire time also. next day, i think to myself. why the hell did i never talk to her in the past. i had more fun in one night with brooke than i did EVER with the other bitch who screwed me over and used me. now i think im falling for brooke, she's perfect. but she thinks im a complete player, which, i am kind of, but i honestly maybe by coincidence I want to settle down, im tired of having meaningless hookups that end in "well, see ya i guess" how the heck can i make her believe me? BECAUSE i am tired of meaningless hookups after i met this girl. she is perfect for me i KNOW IT. and how can i get her away from that guy? i mean i know they're not hooking up, her friend, the guy is dating a different girl. and that guy is actually a really cool person but he doesn't hang out with people on my floor often. someone give me advice, ill rep the person who gives the best advice and neg anyone who is gunna hate. just sayin' i dont want any bullshit in this thread please. i tried: politely asking her to come get coffee a few times, she said she was busy. i tried to ask if she wanted to toke up sometime, she said no because i actually quit smoking weed and she knew that, which made me look desperate and pathetic..fuck. guys help me out
Stop looking desparate and pathetic. Think before you speak. What i try to do is, before you say something to someone, pretend that person is saying it to you and think of how you'd react. Sometimes you'll realize that you're sounding like a douche. If she thinks you're a player then prove her wrong? You can't stop her from hanging out with that guy. All you can do is try to obtain a date and show her an awesome time. be outgoing, funny, etc. Try to go places, obtain some dumb ass inside jokes. Never show negativity.
aight yeah, i guess i just needed to hear someone repeat that for me. everything always gets to my head SO FAST thanks man repsss
Don't give up hope. Chances are if you had her laughing all night she wants to be around you. I'd just tell her straight to hit you up when she has time but thats just me and I hate playin that cat and mouse bullshit. And really man, just chill. Don't get too uptight over one girl no matter how cool she is, I know it's hard but you have to. Because if you don't your actions are eventually just going to get more desperate and that's not a good look.
Its hard for me now to get uptight because i haven't been in a relationship for 3 years, well...4 now. and i miss it, i miss someone who's always there. I'm done hooking up with random girls because i miss that feeling you know what i mean? "and I hate playin that cat and mouse bullshit." YESSSSS EXACTLY But i dont want to come us as clingy, but i want to see her like all the time she's all i think about. man i sound pathetic lmao
Nah man I've been there, and I'd still be there if I gave 2 shits. Hang in there though, don't force it or try to make it happen. Just keep thinking it will and do your part and show her a great time everytime you chill and it'll happen. Good vibes to you man, women make madmen out of us all at some point.