I don't know what to do here. I struggle with social stuff. Here is the story: We moved into this apartment about a year ago. I never spoke much to my upstairs neighbors, but we did have small chats a few times. One night I heard lots of yelling. I was like >_> damn. Now I can't sleep. Well anyway life goes on as usual. A few months down the line, a cop shows up at my door. I'm high as fuck and am like, shiiiiiiiit. Pop in some Visine, rinse mouth out t cover breath... "hello?" The cop asks me if I heard any fighting recently. I said no, just once a few months back. He asked me the usual stuff they ask for reported domestic disturbance. I figured we had a wife beater on our hands. After that I don't remember ever seeing the man again. I figured he ran off to some other woman. I had a few chats with the lady after that, but it was mostly about random stuff. Once she asked about my aquaponic garden. We talked about it for a bit. Well today she came up while I'm out smoking, I hide it as usual hoping she doesnt notice even though she probly already knows, and we get to talking. We talk about random normal conversation stuff. I zone out like I usually do. (Problem I've had since birth). When I zone back in and realize what she is saying, I am like whaaaaaaaaa?! She just told me her husband died in his sleep. He said "I don't feel well" she offered to take him to the hospital and he said "we will see how I feel later" a few hours later she woke up and he was "cold and blue" "that's why you guys haven't seen him around" I had just snapped back into reality to that and had no idea what to say. So I said the normal oh that's terrible. Sorry for your loss. She started talking about how its hard doing it alone and wotnot. The she went back to the subject we talked about before that (taking our kids trick or treeting) Then she went upstairs to her apartment. I still didn't know what to say so was like have a good day After I went inside, I was like shit, what do I do. Make her cupcakes? I feel like a sociopath here, like, there is a right answer or something. -yuri
"sorry for your loss, if there's anything you need..." is totally fine.. or maybe a sympathy card or flowers if you knew them reasonably well..
What is the next step, you ask? It sounds like the female murdered that dude in his sleep, you said all that was needed, there is nothing more you need do, ha. dw man, no one has found out the secret sociopath you are yet, you're still in the clear. If you were close neighbors it might be a bit different, but the occasional chat doesn't require you to bake the black widow cupcakes
:lol: I was wondering if she really did kill him. You don't wake.up a few hours later to a cold blue corpse. It would be warm for a while yea? -yuri
I'd offer to help her if she needs it...like moving stuff around that she can't manage. She'll probably never ask your help, but it would be comforting to her to know someone nearby will help her if needed.... I've cleaned out deceased family members clothes...it's tough on the spouse to have to do stuff like that.
Sounds like she either murdered him, or she murdered him and wants your d... I would leave her alone or make her some cupcakes like you said.
Personally I think you did all that you needed to do. There is nothing worse than having someone you barely know bombard you with platitudes and cliches. If she wants to talk then lend an ear. There's no harm in that and it doesn't cost you anything but time. Yeah, don't do the cupcakes. That's like a slap in the face. It's not a birthday party. If you want to help then take up a complete meal. Give her a break for one night. It was nice of you to listen and spend time with her.
I am not one who is good with words in person; that's why I convey my thoughts on the internet more often. All I would be able to bring myself to do is let her in my house and just give her a hug and offer anything I can to help her.
Dayummm! Sent from my iPad using Grasscity Forum:blaze: I bet MONK would solve the shit outta this mystery. Sent from my iPad using Grasscity Forum:blaze:
Naw scoobs is on this case, shaggy DA has obvious jurisdiction and rightly so i believe. This one needs hands to get dirty. Sent from my LG-E980 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
actually at the end of the conversation, she was saying things like, "its hard doing alone" The whole poor me bit I didn't know if she wanted bud or dick or both but I assumed one I considered.offering her bud, but the last thing I want is cps knocking on my.door cause some self.righteous dick knew I smoked and had a kid -yuri
That's a good call man. Better to not ruin two people's day (especially when one of those people is you).
It's not a wife beater. It's husband killer. That was not her you heard screaming it was him! Probably a feminist. Be wary if she ever invites you over for dinner.
